Turns out my friends are ace too
After coming out as ace, I realized that 2 of my friends are also ace/aspec, and another one of my best friends isn't ace but doesn't care about dating or sex at all. I guess I have a pretty good ace-dar, lol
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After coming out as ace, I realized that 2 of my friends are also ace/aspec, and another one of my best friends isn't ace but doesn't care about dating or sex at all. I guess I have a pretty good ace-dar, lol
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Turns out my friends are ace too
After coming out as ace, I realized that 2 of my friends are also ace/aspec, and another one of my best friends isn't ace but doesn't care about...
Can you be bisexual and asexual at the same time? (I don't mean biromantic or aromantic)
Hi all. So I've been identifying as bisexual for a year now and a month ago I found out I'm asexual. But I feel like... I'm both at the same time. Everywhere I looked, people just told other people they CAN'T be both, because asexuality is lack of sexual attraction where bisexuality is a sexual attraction to two or more genders. But what people are often forgetting, is that bisexuality, or any other sexuality except for maybe ace (I'm not sure, it's new to me) isn't only and explicitly about who do you want to sleep with! What about... Aesthetic attraction, for example? There is no word for that, for being aesthetically attracted to two or more genders. So I'm using bisexual for this. I'm aesthetically attracted to all genders, I find all different people hot and sexy but probably not in the meaning allosexual person would have. I'm very comfortable with the bisexual label and don't want to give it up just because I'm ace. No, I am not biromantic or aromantic. I've only felt romantically attracted to one person in my life so it's hard to tell, really, but I'm not looking for the word biromantic or aro. What do you think? Can I, in your eyes, identify as bisexual and ace?
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Hi all. So I've been identifying as bisexual for a year now and a month ago I found out I'm asexual. But I feel like... I'm both at the same time. Everywhere I looked, people just told other people they CAN'T be both, because asexuality is lack of sexual attraction where bisexuality is a sexual attraction to two or more genders. But what people are often forgetting, is that bisexuality, or any other sexuality except for maybe ace (I'm not sure, it's new to me) isn't only and explicitly about who do you want to sleep with! What about... Aesthetic attraction, for example? There is no word for that, for being aesthetically attracted to two or more genders. So I'm using bisexual for this. I'm aesthetically attracted to all genders, I find all different people hot and sexy but probably not in the meaning allosexual person would have. I'm very comfortable with the bisexual label and don't want to give it up just because I'm ace. No, I am not biromantic or aromantic. I've only felt romantically attracted to one person in my life so it's hard to tell, really, but I'm not looking for the word biromantic or aro. What do you think? Can I, in your eyes, identify as bisexual and ace?
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Can you be bisexual and asexual at the same time? (I don't mean...
Hi all. So I've been identifying as bisexual for a year now and a month ago I found out I'm asexual. But I feel like... I'm both at the same time....
parents need to think before they speak
yesterday I was eating lunch at home with my family and we started talking about asexuality. i mentioned how I have some ace friends and for them it's not necessarily not wanting sex (since sex positive aces do exist) but about not feeling sexual attraction at all. and then, surprisingly, my homophobic (but maybe not aphobic?) brother said that asexuals can be in romantic relationships since they still feel that attraction unlike aromantics. my mom stopped doing laundry to come out and say that any asexual in a romantic relationship is lying. she said that all romantic relationships are sexual relationships. my dad said that there's something mentally wrong with asexuals and homosexuals alike because the entire point of our existence is to procreate. my parents both agreed that asexuals are either people (especially teenagers) who want to get the social pressure to have sex off of themselves or they are simply broken and need to see a doctor.
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i was sitting at the table on the verge of crying when they said this. they're never going to accept me even if i do come out. they'll just take me to the doctor and tell her to fix me or tell me that i'm lying to myself because they raised me to be like this. i just hate being ace so much because my family will never love me as who i actually am.
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yesterday I was eating lunch at home with my family and we started talking about asexuality. i mentioned how I have some ace friends and for them it's not necessarily not wanting sex (since sex positive aces do exist) but about not feeling sexual attraction at all. and then, surprisingly, my homophobic (but maybe not aphobic?) brother said that asexuals can be in romantic relationships since they still feel that attraction unlike aromantics. my mom stopped doing laundry to come out and say that any asexual in a romantic relationship is lying. she said that all romantic relationships are sexual relationships. my dad said that there's something mentally wrong with asexuals and homosexuals alike because the entire point of our existence is to procreate. my parents both agreed that asexuals are either people (especially teenagers) who want to get the social pressure to have sex off of themselves or they are simply broken and need to see a doctor.
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i was sitting at the table on the verge of crying when they said this. they're never going to accept me even if i do come out. they'll just take me to the doctor and tell her to fix me or tell me that i'm lying to myself because they raised me to be like this. i just hate being ace so much because my family will never love me as who i actually am.
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parents need to think before they speak
yesterday I was eating lunch at home with my family and we started talking about asexuality. i mentioned how I have some ace friends and for them...
Has anyone had a crush on someone without any sexual feelings towards that person?
I had a couple of crushes in my past, but none of them had any sexual motives driving them. They were mainly based on looks and personality.
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I had a couple of crushes in my past, but none of them had any sexual motives driving them. They were mainly based on looks and personality.
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Has anyone had a crush on someone without any sexual feelings...
I had a couple of crushes in my past, but none of them had any sexual motives driving them. They were mainly based on looks and personality.
Why do all doctors look at me like that™ when I say I'm not sexually active
I swear every doctor does like a double take when I tell them I'm not sexually active. No I'm not using birth control, no I don't use protection because I don't need it, yes I have a boyfriend. One time in the ER I was forced to have a pregnancy test done even though I told them it was impossible and then had to pay for it out of pocket why is this so surprising
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I swear every doctor does like a double take when I tell them I'm not sexually active. No I'm not using birth control, no I don't use protection because I don't need it, yes I have a boyfriend. One time in the ER I was forced to have a pregnancy test done even though I told them it was impossible and then had to pay for it out of pocket why is this so surprising
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Why do all doctors look at me like that™ when I say I'm not...
I swear every doctor does like a double take when I tell them I'm not sexually active. No I'm not using birth control, no I don't use protection...
Why are y'all so obsessed with garlic bread?
My partner is asexual so I've been doing a lot of research online and I keep seeing garlic bread memes... everywhere. Like A LOT of garlic bread memes. Some are really bizarre too.
I am genuinely confused? Is the horny chemical replaced with a garlic bread obsession? I'm seriously wondering if I should be buying my boyfriend garlic bread now...
Can someone please explain? 😂
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My partner is asexual so I've been doing a lot of research online and I keep seeing garlic bread memes... everywhere. Like A LOT of garlic bread memes. Some are really bizarre too.
I am genuinely confused? Is the horny chemical replaced with a garlic bread obsession? I'm seriously wondering if I should be buying my boyfriend garlic bread now...
Can someone please explain? 😂
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Why are y'all so obsessed with garlic bread?
My partner is asexual so I've been doing a lot of research online and I keep seeing garlic bread memes... everywhere. Like A LOT of garlic bread...
Asexual people are not 'innocent', we're not children
Sorry, it seems like all I do lately is vent.
Anyways, I was watching a music video with my friend the other day and I joked that I was only allosexual for one man and one man only (a guy in the video). Obviously I was joking, I only feel aesthetic attraction to him and she also knows I was joking.
Today we watched the video again with someone else and my friend said, "There's the guy that made her go through puberty", referring to me. When I repeated what she said, saying "Go through puberty?", she just replied, "You know what I mean." Everyone in the room knew I'm asexual, by the way, my friend didn't out me or anything. It just annoyed me how she said it. And to be honest, it hurt. I know she means well, she's really open-minded and I wasn't worried in the slightest coming out to her.
On the other hand, her comment made it sound like people who are asexual are 'innocent virgins' and basically just children. I didn't think much of it at that moment, and now it just seems too late to tell her how the comment made me feel; the moment passed.
That's pretty much it, I just needed to vent. And this post is coming from a sex-repulsed ace too, so I can't imagine how hard it must be for sex-favorable aces, with everyone thinking we're all repulsed by sex and are never intimate.
Am I overreacting? I don't know, I'm just a bit upset I guess ;-;
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Sorry, it seems like all I do lately is vent.
Anyways, I was watching a music video with my friend the other day and I joked that I was only allosexual for one man and one man only (a guy in the video). Obviously I was joking, I only feel aesthetic attraction to him and she also knows I was joking.
Today we watched the video again with someone else and my friend said, "There's the guy that made her go through puberty", referring to me. When I repeated what she said, saying "Go through puberty?", she just replied, "You know what I mean." Everyone in the room knew I'm asexual, by the way, my friend didn't out me or anything. It just annoyed me how she said it. And to be honest, it hurt. I know she means well, she's really open-minded and I wasn't worried in the slightest coming out to her.
On the other hand, her comment made it sound like people who are asexual are 'innocent virgins' and basically just children. I didn't think much of it at that moment, and now it just seems too late to tell her how the comment made me feel; the moment passed.
That's pretty much it, I just needed to vent. And this post is coming from a sex-repulsed ace too, so I can't imagine how hard it must be for sex-favorable aces, with everyone thinking we're all repulsed by sex and are never intimate.
Am I overreacting? I don't know, I'm just a bit upset I guess ;-;
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Asexual people are not 'innocent', we're not children
Sorry, it seems like all I do lately is vent. Anyways, I was watching a music video with my friend the other day and I joked that I was only...
Curious about how Watching porn feel like for you
How do you feel when you watch porn? Does it feel bad? Or do you find it interesting and fun?
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