My Parents Scolded Me After Bringing Up Asexuality
My parents were talking about my cousin on a dating a guy and currently they are in Florida. As Christians they don't believe in sex before marriage. They mentioned how the couple are strong cousins so they would resist the urge to have sex. Then I said how I can be trusted not have sex. This was a mistake because my parents were very mad at me.
They think its so abnormal to be asexual. And they didn't care that I was upset. They also don't think I'm really suicidal because they think it's all for attention, even though I tried to stab myslef a few nights ago. My dad told me I'm abnormal and how I being asexual isn't normal. My mother kept saying, "No girl will want you." On a side note I'm agnostic and dealt with church trauma but my
After dinner my brother forcefully walked into my room and wouldn't go away. He kept trying to "debunk" me and denies aphobia exists. He gave me question that I couldn't really answer like, "Why do you not resonate with guys?" For those who don't know I'm nonbinary too. My family thinks I'm just queer and suicidal to get attention. Even though I have been mistreated by society in various ways. For example when a girl back in high school died, I wasn't allowed to talk about her even though we were coworkers at a McDonald’s at the time.
I feel so fake right now. Maybe my brother is right. Perhaps I'm being brainwashed by the LGBTQ community, or maybe it's my family who are trying to brainwash me. I don't know what I am anymore. I feel like I'm trapped in a loop of hatred and boredom. From my job, to wanting to transition to not wanting to, and of course the bigotry I keep going through. I plan to overdose soon.
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My parents were talking about my cousin on a dating a guy and currently they are in Florida. As Christians they don't believe in sex before marriage. They mentioned how the couple are strong cousins so they would resist the urge to have sex. Then I said how I can be trusted not have sex. This was a mistake because my parents were very mad at me.
They think its so abnormal to be asexual. And they didn't care that I was upset. They also don't think I'm really suicidal because they think it's all for attention, even though I tried to stab myslef a few nights ago. My dad told me I'm abnormal and how I being asexual isn't normal. My mother kept saying, "No girl will want you." On a side note I'm agnostic and dealt with church trauma but my
After dinner my brother forcefully walked into my room and wouldn't go away. He kept trying to "debunk" me and denies aphobia exists. He gave me question that I couldn't really answer like, "Why do you not resonate with guys?" For those who don't know I'm nonbinary too. My family thinks I'm just queer and suicidal to get attention. Even though I have been mistreated by society in various ways. For example when a girl back in high school died, I wasn't allowed to talk about her even though we were coworkers at a McDonald’s at the time.
I feel so fake right now. Maybe my brother is right. Perhaps I'm being brainwashed by the LGBTQ community, or maybe it's my family who are trying to brainwash me. I don't know what I am anymore. I feel like I'm trapped in a loop of hatred and boredom. From my job, to wanting to transition to not wanting to, and of course the bigotry I keep going through. I plan to overdose soon.
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My Parents Scolded Me After Bringing Up Asexuality
My parents were talking about my cousin on a dating a guy and currently they are in Florida. As Christians they don't believe in sex before...
Does anyone else lowkey forget that sex exists?
I was catching up with my friend for the first time in a while and they brought up some of their sex stories. I was pretty taken aback because I genuinely forgot that sex wasn't just some fictional concept.
Also, when I see couples and they hint at their sex lives I'm always thinking that it's super scandalous until I realize that people normally do stuff like that.
Idk it always catches me off guard like 'I'm supposed to want that?'
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I was catching up with my friend for the first time in a while and they brought up some of their sex stories. I was pretty taken aback because I genuinely forgot that sex wasn't just some fictional concept.
Also, when I see couples and they hint at their sex lives I'm always thinking that it's super scandalous until I realize that people normally do stuff like that.
Idk it always catches me off guard like 'I'm supposed to want that?'
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Does anyone else lowkey forget that sex exists?
I was catching up with my friend for the first time in a while and they brought up some of their sex stories. I was pretty taken aback because I...
Turns out my friends are ace too
After coming out as ace, I realized that 2 of my friends are also ace/aspec, and another one of my best friends isn't ace but doesn't care about dating or sex at all. I guess I have a pretty good ace-dar, lol
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After coming out as ace, I realized that 2 of my friends are also ace/aspec, and another one of my best friends isn't ace but doesn't care about dating or sex at all. I guess I have a pretty good ace-dar, lol
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Turns out my friends are ace too
After coming out as ace, I realized that 2 of my friends are also ace/aspec, and another one of my best friends isn't ace but doesn't care about...
Can you be bisexual and asexual at the same time? (I don't mean biromantic or aromantic)
Hi all. So I've been identifying as bisexual for a year now and a month ago I found out I'm asexual. But I feel like... I'm both at the same time. Everywhere I looked, people just told other people they CAN'T be both, because asexuality is lack of sexual attraction where bisexuality is a sexual attraction to two or more genders. But what people are often forgetting, is that bisexuality, or any other sexuality except for maybe ace (I'm not sure, it's new to me) isn't only and explicitly about who do you want to sleep with! What about... Aesthetic attraction, for example? There is no word for that, for being aesthetically attracted to two or more genders. So I'm using bisexual for this. I'm aesthetically attracted to all genders, I find all different people hot and sexy but probably not in the meaning allosexual person would have. I'm very comfortable with the bisexual label and don't want to give it up just because I'm ace. No, I am not biromantic or aromantic. I've only felt romantically attracted to one person in my life so it's hard to tell, really, but I'm not looking for the word biromantic or aro. What do you think? Can I, in your eyes, identify as bisexual and ace?
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Hi all. So I've been identifying as bisexual for a year now and a month ago I found out I'm asexual. But I feel like... I'm both at the same time. Everywhere I looked, people just told other people they CAN'T be both, because asexuality is lack of sexual attraction where bisexuality is a sexual attraction to two or more genders. But what people are often forgetting, is that bisexuality, or any other sexuality except for maybe ace (I'm not sure, it's new to me) isn't only and explicitly about who do you want to sleep with! What about... Aesthetic attraction, for example? There is no word for that, for being aesthetically attracted to two or more genders. So I'm using bisexual for this. I'm aesthetically attracted to all genders, I find all different people hot and sexy but probably not in the meaning allosexual person would have. I'm very comfortable with the bisexual label and don't want to give it up just because I'm ace. No, I am not biromantic or aromantic. I've only felt romantically attracted to one person in my life so it's hard to tell, really, but I'm not looking for the word biromantic or aro. What do you think? Can I, in your eyes, identify as bisexual and ace?
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Can you be bisexual and asexual at the same time? (I don't mean...
Hi all. So I've been identifying as bisexual for a year now and a month ago I found out I'm asexual. But I feel like... I'm both at the same time....
parents need to think before they speak
yesterday I was eating lunch at home with my family and we started talking about asexuality. i mentioned how I have some ace friends and for them it's not necessarily not wanting sex (since sex positive aces do exist) but about not feeling sexual attraction at all. and then, surprisingly, my homophobic (but maybe not aphobic?) brother said that asexuals can be in romantic relationships since they still feel that attraction unlike aromantics. my mom stopped doing laundry to come out and say that any asexual in a romantic relationship is lying. she said that all romantic relationships are sexual relationships. my dad said that there's something mentally wrong with asexuals and homosexuals alike because the entire point of our existence is to procreate. my parents both agreed that asexuals are either people (especially teenagers) who want to get the social pressure to have sex off of themselves or they are simply broken and need to see a doctor.
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i was sitting at the table on the verge of crying when they said this. they're never going to accept me even if i do come out. they'll just take me to the doctor and tell her to fix me or tell me that i'm lying to myself because they raised me to be like this. i just hate being ace so much because my family will never love me as who i actually am.
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yesterday I was eating lunch at home with my family and we started talking about asexuality. i mentioned how I have some ace friends and for them it's not necessarily not wanting sex (since sex positive aces do exist) but about not feeling sexual attraction at all. and then, surprisingly, my homophobic (but maybe not aphobic?) brother said that asexuals can be in romantic relationships since they still feel that attraction unlike aromantics. my mom stopped doing laundry to come out and say that any asexual in a romantic relationship is lying. she said that all romantic relationships are sexual relationships. my dad said that there's something mentally wrong with asexuals and homosexuals alike because the entire point of our existence is to procreate. my parents both agreed that asexuals are either people (especially teenagers) who want to get the social pressure to have sex off of themselves or they are simply broken and need to see a doctor.
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i was sitting at the table on the verge of crying when they said this. they're never going to accept me even if i do come out. they'll just take me to the doctor and tell her to fix me or tell me that i'm lying to myself because they raised me to be like this. i just hate being ace so much because my family will never love me as who i actually am.
https://redd.it/peikvs
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parents need to think before they speak
yesterday I was eating lunch at home with my family and we started talking about asexuality. i mentioned how I have some ace friends and for them...
Has anyone had a crush on someone without any sexual feelings towards that person?
I had a couple of crushes in my past, but none of them had any sexual motives driving them. They were mainly based on looks and personality.
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I had a couple of crushes in my past, but none of them had any sexual motives driving them. They were mainly based on looks and personality.
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Has anyone had a crush on someone without any sexual feelings...
I had a couple of crushes in my past, but none of them had any sexual motives driving them. They were mainly based on looks and personality.
Why do all doctors look at me like that™ when I say I'm not sexually active
I swear every doctor does like a double take when I tell them I'm not sexually active. No I'm not using birth control, no I don't use protection because I don't need it, yes I have a boyfriend. One time in the ER I was forced to have a pregnancy test done even though I told them it was impossible and then had to pay for it out of pocket why is this so surprising
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I swear every doctor does like a double take when I tell them I'm not sexually active. No I'm not using birth control, no I don't use protection because I don't need it, yes I have a boyfriend. One time in the ER I was forced to have a pregnancy test done even though I told them it was impossible and then had to pay for it out of pocket why is this so surprising
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Why do all doctors look at me like that™ when I say I'm not...
I swear every doctor does like a double take when I tell them I'm not sexually active. No I'm not using birth control, no I don't use protection...