Anyone else shocked to find out demisexual wasn't the norm?
So for some context, I'm asexual and sex-averse. I'm not sure about my romantic orientation, but I don't think I'm aro.
I discovered asexuality a couple of months ago and it didn't take me long to realise this was me. I was reading about all the identities on the asexual spectrum and I was shocked to find out that demisexual was on the list. I guess I just assumed that's how sexual attraction felt to most people? I knew I could never feel it, but I thought most people could only feel it after being in a strong emotional bond with someone, and it kinda made me feel at odds to find this wasn't true. I knew there were people who can just have sex with anyone they think looks hot, but I thought that was just hypersexual people. I never realised that allos, your everyday man on the street, felt that way too.
As a sex-averse person it kinda unnerved me because I've often thought of sex as a quite obscene act and to suddenly find out that the world was so sex-oriented really confused me. For a while I felt very at odds with the world, although I couldn't really work out why. I knew I was asexual and therefore different, but I didn't realise just how different. To find out that demi - what I had assumed regular sexual attraction was - was actually an asexual identity was a big discovery.
I couldn't understand why someone would want to put that up there (or vice versa) without knowing them intimately first? After all, it is possibly the most intimate thing you can do and to do it to a stranger is... shivers.
Anyway, anyone else had similar experiences and a similar revelation? I'd be really interested to know.
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So for some context, I'm asexual and sex-averse. I'm not sure about my romantic orientation, but I don't think I'm aro.
I discovered asexuality a couple of months ago and it didn't take me long to realise this was me. I was reading about all the identities on the asexual spectrum and I was shocked to find out that demisexual was on the list. I guess I just assumed that's how sexual attraction felt to most people? I knew I could never feel it, but I thought most people could only feel it after being in a strong emotional bond with someone, and it kinda made me feel at odds to find this wasn't true. I knew there were people who can just have sex with anyone they think looks hot, but I thought that was just hypersexual people. I never realised that allos, your everyday man on the street, felt that way too.
As a sex-averse person it kinda unnerved me because I've often thought of sex as a quite obscene act and to suddenly find out that the world was so sex-oriented really confused me. For a while I felt very at odds with the world, although I couldn't really work out why. I knew I was asexual and therefore different, but I didn't realise just how different. To find out that demi - what I had assumed regular sexual attraction was - was actually an asexual identity was a big discovery.
I couldn't understand why someone would want to put that up there (or vice versa) without knowing them intimately first? After all, it is possibly the most intimate thing you can do and to do it to a stranger is... shivers.
Anyway, anyone else had similar experiences and a similar revelation? I'd be really interested to know.
https://redd.it/p1ms1z
@asexualityonreddit
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Anyone else shocked to find out demisexual wasn't the norm?
So for some context, I'm asexual and sex-averse. I'm not sure about my romantic orientation, but I don't think I'm aro. I discovered asexuality...
Whether you're sex-repulsed or not, you're all hecking valid ;)
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“A hot girl wants to meet you” okay?? I’m trying to watch shrek 2 leave me alone
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In Rehoboth Beach Delaware there is an ice cream shop with a flavor called Better Than Sex. But let's be honest, anything is better than sex.
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Little ace calligraphy :) Made this a few days ago, thought I could share it here 😊 I hope anyone who’se reading this is having a great day and is proud of who they are, whatever that may be 😊💜
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I just wanted to share a drawing I did of myself. I posted it on my IG as a way of coming out to my family lol
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just a reminder that even if you're gay, trans, bi, pan etc. it doesn't make you an evil person. do not listen to those hypocrites.
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