Sounds better than most propositions I've gotten so far... 🤔
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Help please? I tried to draw an Ace dragon after almost 10 years of close to 0 drawings, and I'm scared I'll mess the colouring if I try it! (I don't colour drawings usually) References, reasoning and sources in the comments
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My Dad said something that upset me today- I could use some comfort and validation tbh.
I’m 19F, heteroromantic asexual, sex-repulsed. I’m out to most of my friends, and I feel like it’s important to me to be somewhat open about who I am. But it’s complicated with my family; I’m sort of “halfway out” to them. I haven’t used the word asexual with them (I’ll get there), but we’ve had talks about how a traditional marriage and family is probably not in the cards for me, how I don’t really have physical attraction to anyone, and how I’m really not interested in dating someone right now. I feel like they probably know I’m ace but we haven’t discussed the issue in terms of sexual orientation. Because it’s important to the story let me say that I know for sure I’m not ever having biological kids.
Basically my 2nd cousin is pregnant and my family was talking about how excited my great-aunt and great-uncle are to be biological great-grandparents for the first time. Cute and all, but that whole side of the family is going a little baby crazy. My Dad, in the course of the conversation, had some remarks about the importance of children to older people. Two stood out to me. He said that the most important biological purpose of life is to reproduce. Later he said that the couple’s other two grandchildren had “failed them “ since one is childless and the other has only an adopted daughter.
I started to get upset. Dad asked why. I said “I guess I’m a failure” and went outside to cry because I now feel terrible. One of the worst things a young adult child can hear from their parents is that they’ve failed them. Now I feel like I’m failing my parents because I’m ace. I feel so guilty for my asexuality. My parents are hard to deal with sometimes but I still love them and I want them to be proud of the person I’ve become now that I’ve grown up. I want to tell them I’m sorry, I can’t help it, I really can’t help it. But I don’t know that anything I say will do any good if they are hurt and if I’m failing them.
My younger brother is straight afaik, maybe one day I’ll be an aunt. Then my parents will only have one failure child.
God, being asexual isn’t easy.
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I’m 19F, heteroromantic asexual, sex-repulsed. I’m out to most of my friends, and I feel like it’s important to me to be somewhat open about who I am. But it’s complicated with my family; I’m sort of “halfway out” to them. I haven’t used the word asexual with them (I’ll get there), but we’ve had talks about how a traditional marriage and family is probably not in the cards for me, how I don’t really have physical attraction to anyone, and how I’m really not interested in dating someone right now. I feel like they probably know I’m ace but we haven’t discussed the issue in terms of sexual orientation. Because it’s important to the story let me say that I know for sure I’m not ever having biological kids.
Basically my 2nd cousin is pregnant and my family was talking about how excited my great-aunt and great-uncle are to be biological great-grandparents for the first time. Cute and all, but that whole side of the family is going a little baby crazy. My Dad, in the course of the conversation, had some remarks about the importance of children to older people. Two stood out to me. He said that the most important biological purpose of life is to reproduce. Later he said that the couple’s other two grandchildren had “failed them “ since one is childless and the other has only an adopted daughter.
I started to get upset. Dad asked why. I said “I guess I’m a failure” and went outside to cry because I now feel terrible. One of the worst things a young adult child can hear from their parents is that they’ve failed them. Now I feel like I’m failing my parents because I’m ace. I feel so guilty for my asexuality. My parents are hard to deal with sometimes but I still love them and I want them to be proud of the person I’ve become now that I’ve grown up. I want to tell them I’m sorry, I can’t help it, I really can’t help it. But I don’t know that anything I say will do any good if they are hurt and if I’m failing them.
My younger brother is straight afaik, maybe one day I’ll be an aunt. Then my parents will only have one failure child.
God, being asexual isn’t easy.
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My Dad said something that upset me today- I could use some...
I’m 19F, heteroromantic asexual, sex-repulsed. I’m out to most of my friends, and I feel like it’s important to me to be somewhat open about who I...
Father Watched An Anti-Ace Video Right Next To Me.
This actually happened about a week and a half ago, but it's still bothering me quite a bit. Found this subreddit today on accident, and decided I might as well rant a bit to get it off my chest.
I've always been of the opinion that I'm broken for not experiencing any sexual attraction to people, and had only discovered I was ace about 5 years ago. Growing up it was constantly hearing everyone seemingly talking about sex, growing obsessed with idols/celebrities and sexualizing them, sex jokes on the school bus, and genuine pregnant 4th graders and others getting caught in the bathrooms. I never saw the appeal, and figured while growing up that I was just weird for not getting it.
I've had crushes on boys, still kind of coming to terms that the girls I liked weren't just as friends as well despite being openly pansexual since around the same time as discovering asexuality, but never thought about having a sexual relationship with one. I'd made this apparent to my parents, and when I discovered the labels I felt comfortable with I had told them those as well.
My mom had the basic reaction of telling me I just don't have enough experience with sex, so I can't make that decision yet. Saying, "Isn't that a plant thing" about asexuality, and stating that it must not be real. She also felt as though being pan was just being bi, but wanting to be special. My dad, however, never really gave me much of an issue besides some lighthearted jokes here and there for the next few months.
About a week and a half ago, however, I had gone downstairs with my friend to get some food. Knowing I was down there, as my father was also in the kitchen, he put one of his Republican YouTubers on (I have zero issue with this, that's just specifically the type of YouTuber it was. Possibly Ben Shapiro or Steven Crowder, but I'm not sure. Not trying to make this political) and it was a video specifically made about Asexuality and Demisexuality. I stood in the kitchen looking in the fridge as I heard the guy on his screen loudly claim that Demisexuality and Asexuality are fake labels people had made up for attention. There was a lot more about how they're fake and stupid, but I try not to remember the specifics too much.
I basically finished making my food quickly, went to my room with it, and immediately started crying and texting my friend who was still downstairs asking her why he would do something like that right next to me. I told her that I'd completely understand if it was an accident, and he clicked off the video once realizing the topic and who was in the room, but he never did. He watched the whole video practically right next to me. It hurt a lot, and I can't help but wonder if he was just watching it to hear someone else's opinions, or if that is genuinely his thoughts and feelings towards me.
Unfortunately my mother passed away in 2018, so I never got any closure from her in terms of sexuality. So, to have my only other parent, the one I thought was accepting of me, watch something like that at all sucks. I also can't help but be so confused at the hatred towards those 2 labels. Are they not simply 2 words used to describe a person with little to no sexual feelings, and/or a person who only has those feelings when developing emotional attraction first? They're situations that many people have, why is it such a bad thing to have a word for it? Especially asexuality? People mostly except that some people have smaller sex drives (or even no sex drive), but when someone gives it a name it's not real? I'm just so frustrated and hurt about the whole situation, and it's only added to things my brain can tell me to invalidate my feelings and upset me.
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This actually happened about a week and a half ago, but it's still bothering me quite a bit. Found this subreddit today on accident, and decided I might as well rant a bit to get it off my chest.
I've always been of the opinion that I'm broken for not experiencing any sexual attraction to people, and had only discovered I was ace about 5 years ago. Growing up it was constantly hearing everyone seemingly talking about sex, growing obsessed with idols/celebrities and sexualizing them, sex jokes on the school bus, and genuine pregnant 4th graders and others getting caught in the bathrooms. I never saw the appeal, and figured while growing up that I was just weird for not getting it.
I've had crushes on boys, still kind of coming to terms that the girls I liked weren't just as friends as well despite being openly pansexual since around the same time as discovering asexuality, but never thought about having a sexual relationship with one. I'd made this apparent to my parents, and when I discovered the labels I felt comfortable with I had told them those as well.
My mom had the basic reaction of telling me I just don't have enough experience with sex, so I can't make that decision yet. Saying, "Isn't that a plant thing" about asexuality, and stating that it must not be real. She also felt as though being pan was just being bi, but wanting to be special. My dad, however, never really gave me much of an issue besides some lighthearted jokes here and there for the next few months.
About a week and a half ago, however, I had gone downstairs with my friend to get some food. Knowing I was down there, as my father was also in the kitchen, he put one of his Republican YouTubers on (I have zero issue with this, that's just specifically the type of YouTuber it was. Possibly Ben Shapiro or Steven Crowder, but I'm not sure. Not trying to make this political) and it was a video specifically made about Asexuality and Demisexuality. I stood in the kitchen looking in the fridge as I heard the guy on his screen loudly claim that Demisexuality and Asexuality are fake labels people had made up for attention. There was a lot more about how they're fake and stupid, but I try not to remember the specifics too much.
I basically finished making my food quickly, went to my room with it, and immediately started crying and texting my friend who was still downstairs asking her why he would do something like that right next to me. I told her that I'd completely understand if it was an accident, and he clicked off the video once realizing the topic and who was in the room, but he never did. He watched the whole video practically right next to me. It hurt a lot, and I can't help but wonder if he was just watching it to hear someone else's opinions, or if that is genuinely his thoughts and feelings towards me.
Unfortunately my mother passed away in 2018, so I never got any closure from her in terms of sexuality. So, to have my only other parent, the one I thought was accepting of me, watch something like that at all sucks. I also can't help but be so confused at the hatred towards those 2 labels. Are they not simply 2 words used to describe a person with little to no sexual feelings, and/or a person who only has those feelings when developing emotional attraction first? They're situations that many people have, why is it such a bad thing to have a word for it? Especially asexuality? People mostly except that some people have smaller sex drives (or even no sex drive), but when someone gives it a name it's not real? I'm just so frustrated and hurt about the whole situation, and it's only added to things my brain can tell me to invalidate my feelings and upset me.
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Father Watched An Anti-Ace Video Right Next To Me.
This actually happened about a week and a half ago, but it's still bothering me quite a bit. Found this subreddit today on accident, and decided I...
Butterflies 🦋🦋
I went out on a blind date today arranged by my friend. I hadn't dated in more than a year after realising I am ace so I wasn't sure about it. I told my friend that I am not interested in dating but can go out as friends. Initially he said she might not be interested in that but then after realising that we actually have a few things in common he told her and she agreed. So today was the special day. We met for lunch and talked for hours straight (hopped into a cafe later). It's been 4 hours since the date now, and I am still riding the high. So many butterflies in my stomach. Can't stop smiling and feeling just in complete bliss. I don't know how I am going to tell her that I am ace but until then, I'll keep riding 🖖
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I went out on a blind date today arranged by my friend. I hadn't dated in more than a year after realising I am ace so I wasn't sure about it. I told my friend that I am not interested in dating but can go out as friends. Initially he said she might not be interested in that but then after realising that we actually have a few things in common he told her and she agreed. So today was the special day. We met for lunch and talked for hours straight (hopped into a cafe later). It's been 4 hours since the date now, and I am still riding the high. So many butterflies in my stomach. Can't stop smiling and feeling just in complete bliss. I don't know how I am going to tell her that I am ace but until then, I'll keep riding 🖖
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Butterflies 🦋🦋
I went out on a blind date today arranged by my friend. I hadn't dated in more than a year after realising I am ace so I wasn't sure about it. I...
Moms are annoying (tw: homophobia)
My mom: casually says she prays to god every day that lgbt people arent in her family
Me, an enby panrom ace: 🙄
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My mom: casually says she prays to god every day that lgbt people arent in her family
Me, an enby panrom ace: 🙄
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Moms are annoying (tw: homophobia)
My mom: *casually says she prays to god every day that lgbt people arent in her family* Me, an enby panrom ace: 🙄
My friend made me a closet safe ace bracelet for my birthday! :)
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So, I proposed.
My dearest people
A while ago me and my boyfriend asked for help about sex incompatibility and you told us to talk.
We did it so very well that we are now engaged. Just thought you guys might like the update.
Love you all.
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My dearest people
A while ago me and my boyfriend asked for help about sex incompatibility and you told us to talk.
We did it so very well that we are now engaged. Just thought you guys might like the update.
Love you all.
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So, I proposed.
My dearest people A while ago me and my boyfriend asked for help about sex incompatibility and you told us to talk. We did it so very well...
Asexual professor rant
I'm a relatively new college professor (early 30s male) and as I was getting ready to start my job (pre-pandemic) I had multiple people insinuate that it would be hard to avoid banging my students. "There's gonna be some attractive girls in your class...they're going to be looking at you...the temptation is there." "What are you going to do when your female students start hitting on you???" that kind of thing.
Like, I'm a fucking professional, I'm not going to bang my students no matter how hot they are because that's super creepy and a violation of a power differential and will get me fired. I guess this is something that allos struggle with?
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I'm a relatively new college professor (early 30s male) and as I was getting ready to start my job (pre-pandemic) I had multiple people insinuate that it would be hard to avoid banging my students. "There's gonna be some attractive girls in your class...they're going to be looking at you...the temptation is there." "What are you going to do when your female students start hitting on you???" that kind of thing.
Like, I'm a fucking professional, I'm not going to bang my students no matter how hot they are because that's super creepy and a violation of a power differential and will get me fired. I guess this is something that allos struggle with?
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Asexual professor rant
I'm a relatively new college professor (early 30s male) and as I was getting ready to start my job (pre-pandemic) I had multiple people insinuate...
Done reposting the same dumb image in a fruitless attempt to spread awareness, back to making dumb memes for here and the aro sub
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I know very little about being a spinster, but the response from the nine year old is gold.
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