Asexuality and aromanticism are not the same thing.
Lately I have seen SO MANY posts on this and the meme sub that compare asexuality and aromanticism as if they are the same thing. They are not. People keep posting a meme of an aro experience with the caption “aCe ViBEs” or something similar. People will say “I’m asexual, so obviously I don’t want a partner.” It is so freaking frustrating.
Asexuality is lack of sexual attraction. It is NOT lack of romantic attraction, that is aromanticism. There are plenty of alloromantic aces and allosexual aros and treating being ace and being aro as if they are the same invalidates both those groups.
No, not wanting a boyfriend or not wanting kids or not wanting to kiss anyone is not “ace vibes.” It’s not even aro vibes because aro people could still want to do those things, they just don’t experience romantic attraction to people.
I’m biromantic, grayromantic, and asexual, and seeing memes and posts like this feels so invalidating and confusing as it makes me question if I’m really ace when I still experience romantic attraction.
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Lately I have seen SO MANY posts on this and the meme sub that compare asexuality and aromanticism as if they are the same thing. They are not. People keep posting a meme of an aro experience with the caption “aCe ViBEs” or something similar. People will say “I’m asexual, so obviously I don’t want a partner.” It is so freaking frustrating.
Asexuality is lack of sexual attraction. It is NOT lack of romantic attraction, that is aromanticism. There are plenty of alloromantic aces and allosexual aros and treating being ace and being aro as if they are the same invalidates both those groups.
No, not wanting a boyfriend or not wanting kids or not wanting to kiss anyone is not “ace vibes.” It’s not even aro vibes because aro people could still want to do those things, they just don’t experience romantic attraction to people.
I’m biromantic, grayromantic, and asexual, and seeing memes and posts like this feels so invalidating and confusing as it makes me question if I’m really ace when I still experience romantic attraction.
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Asexuality and aromanticism are not the same thing.
Lately I have seen SO MANY posts on this and the meme sub that compare asexuality and aromanticism as if they are the same thing. They are not....
People taking what you say and sexualising it
Gah, how maddening is it when people take what you say out of context, and turn it into something sexual? For instance, in a staff meeting once we were joking that we might have to work on New Years Day. A complete joke of course, we'd never. But I joked with a laugh that we should have a NYE party, just the 3 of us, but we'd need beds of course. And then the boss laughed and said that it wasn't going to be THAT sort of New Years Eve party. Kept laughing and pointing out when I got red in the face. Like, wasn't it obvious I meant for sleeping? I thought it was 🤦♀️
It happens to me loads, and it drives me absolutely crazy. I just get embarrassed not because I was misunderstood, but because I do NOT want to be associated with thoughts like that. Just, ergh!! So gross 🤢
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Gah, how maddening is it when people take what you say out of context, and turn it into something sexual? For instance, in a staff meeting once we were joking that we might have to work on New Years Day. A complete joke of course, we'd never. But I joked with a laugh that we should have a NYE party, just the 3 of us, but we'd need beds of course. And then the boss laughed and said that it wasn't going to be THAT sort of New Years Eve party. Kept laughing and pointing out when I got red in the face. Like, wasn't it obvious I meant for sleeping? I thought it was 🤦♀️
It happens to me loads, and it drives me absolutely crazy. I just get embarrassed not because I was misunderstood, but because I do NOT want to be associated with thoughts like that. Just, ergh!! So gross 🤢
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People taking what you say and sexualising it
Gah, how maddening is it when people take what you say out of context, and turn it into something sexual? For instance, in a staff meeting once we...
The "good girl" myth
Society/Traditional parents: "Don't have sex young! Don't get a boyfriend until you're 25! Don't get pregnant in high school! Don't talk to boys! Don't have sex until you're married! Don't talk about or want sex! Good girls aren't sexual. Good girls focus on school and getting into college. If you're going to date, wait until you're done with school and dating to get married."
Me (a completely oblivious asexual): "What like it's hard?"
Meanwhile, my female cousins had loads of boyfriends in high school, and just lied to their parents (fathers) about it. Does anyone feel like they followed the rules too well, and then it turns out the rules were based on a completely different reality?
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Society/Traditional parents: "Don't have sex young! Don't get a boyfriend until you're 25! Don't get pregnant in high school! Don't talk to boys! Don't have sex until you're married! Don't talk about or want sex! Good girls aren't sexual. Good girls focus on school and getting into college. If you're going to date, wait until you're done with school and dating to get married."
Me (a completely oblivious asexual): "What like it's hard?"
Meanwhile, my female cousins had loads of boyfriends in high school, and just lied to their parents (fathers) about it. Does anyone feel like they followed the rules too well, and then it turns out the rules were based on a completely different reality?
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The "good girl" myth
Society/Traditional parents: "Don't have sex young! Don't get a boyfriend until you're 25! Don't get pregnant in high school! Don't talk to boys!...
The raw power Ace’s have is incredible & terrifying and they cannot be stoped.
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Why does society frown upon having sex but then when you don’t want too it’s either gonna be disappointment or “you’re just young”
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Why does society frown upon having sex but then when you don’t...
Posted in r/asexuality by u/TheGreatAchiever • 84 points and 17 comments
Smol heart attack today
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So my mom came by my apartment to drop some stuff off, saw this lil guy posed under my tv, pointed at him and exclaimed "WHAT IS THAT?". Since I had just woken up and didnt want to have the conversation about being ace before work, I just said "Its a cute little squid". She kinda just looked at me distraught or questioningly, then went about what she had come over for. She didnt say anything else about it.
Kinda shocked me a little that she just went straight to it and questioned me about it. Almost wonder if shes seen the ace flag before to have recognized the colors. Or maybe she just recognized the flag-like pattern from other lgbtq+ communities.
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So my mom came by my apartment to drop some stuff off, saw this lil guy posed under my tv, pointed at him and exclaimed "WHAT IS THAT?". Since I had just woken up and didnt want to have the conversation about being ace before work, I just said "Its a cute little squid". She kinda just looked at me distraught or questioningly, then went about what she had come over for. She didnt say anything else about it.
Kinda shocked me a little that she just went straight to it and questioned me about it. Almost wonder if shes seen the ace flag before to have recognized the colors. Or maybe she just recognized the flag-like pattern from other lgbtq+ communities.
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Sex stories are mega cringe
I hate hate HATE it whenever anyone, on the internet or irl, talks about a time they had sex. It just irritates me and makes me cringe. I’ve been seeing a lot of popular subreddits being flooded with this crap *cough cough r/Askreddit cough* and of course the horny allos give them thousands of upvotes. Also, so many of the stories are obviously fake fap material, especially the teen ones. Seriously, it seems like every post on r/Askreddit is like:
“What’s a thing that secretly turns you on?”
“What’s the worst hookup you’ve ever had?”
“Reddit, what’s the sexiest sex you’ve ever sexed?”
Can anyone else relate?
Edit: I’m gray ace so I DO occasionally have sex. I’m definitely not a prude, it’s just cringe to see people essentially bragging about doing something most humans do. Especially when they add unnecessary details that are overt fantasy fuel. Idk I guess this turned into a rant about allos on Reddit more than anything
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I hate hate HATE it whenever anyone, on the internet or irl, talks about a time they had sex. It just irritates me and makes me cringe. I’ve been seeing a lot of popular subreddits being flooded with this crap *cough cough r/Askreddit cough* and of course the horny allos give them thousands of upvotes. Also, so many of the stories are obviously fake fap material, especially the teen ones. Seriously, it seems like every post on r/Askreddit is like:
“What’s a thing that secretly turns you on?”
“What’s the worst hookup you’ve ever had?”
“Reddit, what’s the sexiest sex you’ve ever sexed?”
Can anyone else relate?
Edit: I’m gray ace so I DO occasionally have sex. I’m definitely not a prude, it’s just cringe to see people essentially bragging about doing something most humans do. Especially when they add unnecessary details that are overt fantasy fuel. Idk I guess this turned into a rant about allos on Reddit more than anything
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Sex stories are mega cringe
I hate hate HATE it whenever anyone, on the internet or irl, talks about a time they had sex. It just irritates me and makes me cringe. I’ve been...
Having sex while being an asexual broke me
Hey, I am sorry if this isn't the right place to post this but I just need to vent a little.
Being in relationships and having to have sex with my partners made me sex repulsive after a while and to be honest, I feel really lost now. I just want to cry when I think about "IT". I feel gross, even. It doesn't help much that I am currently in a relationship with someone not asexual. I mostly avoid the topic now and I know my partner is frustrated but I just can't do this anymore. It is a lot of pressure. I wish I could just live in a sex-free world because it stresses me out so much to always be confronted with it. I am sorry if I sound pitiful, I just had to tell someone because no one knows and I feel lonely.
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Hey, I am sorry if this isn't the right place to post this but I just need to vent a little.
Being in relationships and having to have sex with my partners made me sex repulsive after a while and to be honest, I feel really lost now. I just want to cry when I think about "IT". I feel gross, even. It doesn't help much that I am currently in a relationship with someone not asexual. I mostly avoid the topic now and I know my partner is frustrated but I just can't do this anymore. It is a lot of pressure. I wish I could just live in a sex-free world because it stresses me out so much to always be confronted with it. I am sorry if I sound pitiful, I just had to tell someone because no one knows and I feel lonely.
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Having sex while being an asexual broke me
Hey, I am sorry if this isn't the right place to post this but I just need to vent a little. Being in relationships and having to have sex with my...
Happy to show my ace bracelet I got in the mail! Think it's better than the shirt or hoodie I ordered!
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