I recently realised I'm asexual and can't stop crying
So, it's been a suspicion of mine for over a year now when I found out what it was, and I was seriously considering it for a couple of weeks. But now, it's finally clicked and lots of things make a lot more sense to me now but now I'm just super sad. I had been going to the doctor and asking why I don't want to have sex and they'd say my libido just isn't that high and I'm probably just stressed or depressed. My boyfriend kept getting upset that I didn't initiate sex because it simply never crossed my mind unless he brought it up. I kept just trying to fix it, but now I'm sad because I feel like I'll never be 'normal' and I know this isn't something that can just be fixed. I'm just sharing because I feel super alone. Thanks guys.
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So, it's been a suspicion of mine for over a year now when I found out what it was, and I was seriously considering it for a couple of weeks. But now, it's finally clicked and lots of things make a lot more sense to me now but now I'm just super sad. I had been going to the doctor and asking why I don't want to have sex and they'd say my libido just isn't that high and I'm probably just stressed or depressed. My boyfriend kept getting upset that I didn't initiate sex because it simply never crossed my mind unless he brought it up. I kept just trying to fix it, but now I'm sad because I feel like I'll never be 'normal' and I know this isn't something that can just be fixed. I'm just sharing because I feel super alone. Thanks guys.
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I recently realised I'm asexual and can't stop crying
So, it's been a suspicion of mine for over a year now when I found out what it was, and I was seriously considering it for a couple of weeks. But...
Asexuality and aromanticism are not the same thing.
Lately I have seen SO MANY posts on this and the meme sub that compare asexuality and aromanticism as if they are the same thing. They are not. People keep posting a meme of an aro experience with the caption “aCe ViBEs” or something similar. People will say “I’m asexual, so obviously I don’t want a partner.” It is so freaking frustrating.
Asexuality is lack of sexual attraction. It is NOT lack of romantic attraction, that is aromanticism. There are plenty of alloromantic aces and allosexual aros and treating being ace and being aro as if they are the same invalidates both those groups.
No, not wanting a boyfriend or not wanting kids or not wanting to kiss anyone is not “ace vibes.” It’s not even aro vibes because aro people could still want to do those things, they just don’t experience romantic attraction to people.
I’m biromantic, grayromantic, and asexual, and seeing memes and posts like this feels so invalidating and confusing as it makes me question if I’m really ace when I still experience romantic attraction.
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Lately I have seen SO MANY posts on this and the meme sub that compare asexuality and aromanticism as if they are the same thing. They are not. People keep posting a meme of an aro experience with the caption “aCe ViBEs” or something similar. People will say “I’m asexual, so obviously I don’t want a partner.” It is so freaking frustrating.
Asexuality is lack of sexual attraction. It is NOT lack of romantic attraction, that is aromanticism. There are plenty of alloromantic aces and allosexual aros and treating being ace and being aro as if they are the same invalidates both those groups.
No, not wanting a boyfriend or not wanting kids or not wanting to kiss anyone is not “ace vibes.” It’s not even aro vibes because aro people could still want to do those things, they just don’t experience romantic attraction to people.
I’m biromantic, grayromantic, and asexual, and seeing memes and posts like this feels so invalidating and confusing as it makes me question if I’m really ace when I still experience romantic attraction.
https://redd.it/oz122m
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Asexuality and aromanticism are not the same thing.
Lately I have seen SO MANY posts on this and the meme sub that compare asexuality and aromanticism as if they are the same thing. They are not....
People taking what you say and sexualising it
Gah, how maddening is it when people take what you say out of context, and turn it into something sexual? For instance, in a staff meeting once we were joking that we might have to work on New Years Day. A complete joke of course, we'd never. But I joked with a laugh that we should have a NYE party, just the 3 of us, but we'd need beds of course. And then the boss laughed and said that it wasn't going to be THAT sort of New Years Eve party. Kept laughing and pointing out when I got red in the face. Like, wasn't it obvious I meant for sleeping? I thought it was 🤦♀️
It happens to me loads, and it drives me absolutely crazy. I just get embarrassed not because I was misunderstood, but because I do NOT want to be associated with thoughts like that. Just, ergh!! So gross 🤢
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Gah, how maddening is it when people take what you say out of context, and turn it into something sexual? For instance, in a staff meeting once we were joking that we might have to work on New Years Day. A complete joke of course, we'd never. But I joked with a laugh that we should have a NYE party, just the 3 of us, but we'd need beds of course. And then the boss laughed and said that it wasn't going to be THAT sort of New Years Eve party. Kept laughing and pointing out when I got red in the face. Like, wasn't it obvious I meant for sleeping? I thought it was 🤦♀️
It happens to me loads, and it drives me absolutely crazy. I just get embarrassed not because I was misunderstood, but because I do NOT want to be associated with thoughts like that. Just, ergh!! So gross 🤢
https://redd.it/oz4hr9
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People taking what you say and sexualising it
Gah, how maddening is it when people take what you say out of context, and turn it into something sexual? For instance, in a staff meeting once we...
The "good girl" myth
Society/Traditional parents: "Don't have sex young! Don't get a boyfriend until you're 25! Don't get pregnant in high school! Don't talk to boys! Don't have sex until you're married! Don't talk about or want sex! Good girls aren't sexual. Good girls focus on school and getting into college. If you're going to date, wait until you're done with school and dating to get married."
Me (a completely oblivious asexual): "What like it's hard?"
Meanwhile, my female cousins had loads of boyfriends in high school, and just lied to their parents (fathers) about it. Does anyone feel like they followed the rules too well, and then it turns out the rules were based on a completely different reality?
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Society/Traditional parents: "Don't have sex young! Don't get a boyfriend until you're 25! Don't get pregnant in high school! Don't talk to boys! Don't have sex until you're married! Don't talk about or want sex! Good girls aren't sexual. Good girls focus on school and getting into college. If you're going to date, wait until you're done with school and dating to get married."
Me (a completely oblivious asexual): "What like it's hard?"
Meanwhile, my female cousins had loads of boyfriends in high school, and just lied to their parents (fathers) about it. Does anyone feel like they followed the rules too well, and then it turns out the rules were based on a completely different reality?
https://redd.it/oz6jqs
@asexualityonreddit
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The "good girl" myth
Society/Traditional parents: "Don't have sex young! Don't get a boyfriend until you're 25! Don't get pregnant in high school! Don't talk to boys!...
The raw power Ace’s have is incredible & terrifying and they cannot be stoped.
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