(tw: self aphobia) That party made me realize what I'll never have
!warning: might contain (internal) aphobia against myself!
So yesterday I worked for a catering service at a summer party. Like literally the picturesque summer party you'd imagine straight out of the Hamptons, absolutely wonderful location - and tons of heteronormative people in cream and white linen dresses and suits. All of them organized the party for their wife's/mother's/relative's, friend's or neighbor's b-day and I came to realize that they had an insanely huge network of friends, acquaintances, a super large family... that's when my sad little introvert ace ass knew that something like that is never going to happen to me, ever.
Something like that only works when you get hetero married, live in a great neighborhood, shag, have a handful of kids, stay together for the rest of your life, the kids marry into other similar families one day and each of them bring their own friends off a similar pattern, so in the end, it all comes down to this "circle" described above. Anything out of the hetero norm would fall out, be off and odd.
Man, I feel so jealous to the point where I don't even want to be ace and I wish I could just convert into being heterosexual and be part of something like that. I also know it's just the aftermath of this evening and the feeling will be gone in a few days but I totally have to vent it here.
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!warning: might contain (internal) aphobia against myself!
So yesterday I worked for a catering service at a summer party. Like literally the picturesque summer party you'd imagine straight out of the Hamptons, absolutely wonderful location - and tons of heteronormative people in cream and white linen dresses and suits. All of them organized the party for their wife's/mother's/relative's, friend's or neighbor's b-day and I came to realize that they had an insanely huge network of friends, acquaintances, a super large family... that's when my sad little introvert ace ass knew that something like that is never going to happen to me, ever.
Something like that only works when you get hetero married, live in a great neighborhood, shag, have a handful of kids, stay together for the rest of your life, the kids marry into other similar families one day and each of them bring their own friends off a similar pattern, so in the end, it all comes down to this "circle" described above. Anything out of the hetero norm would fall out, be off and odd.
Man, I feel so jealous to the point where I don't even want to be ace and I wish I could just convert into being heterosexual and be part of something like that. I also know it's just the aftermath of this evening and the feeling will be gone in a few days but I totally have to vent it here.
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(tw: self aphobia) That party made me realize what I'll never have
!warning: might contain (internal) *aphobia* against myself! So yesterday I worked for a catering service at a summer party. Like literally...
Is it weird that I'm happy being ace but hate telling people?
I always get one of two reactions.
1. The "no ur not lol" type of reaction. These people usually just say that you have no idea what you're talking about as if they know you better than you know yourself ("virgin", "haven't found the right one", "I was like that at your age too but then yadda yadda", "sad")
2. The weird "ally". I came out to my straight friend who tried her best to support me, but made me feel even worse than the "no ur not" type of people. She literally referred to me as an "out and proud aroace disgrace" as a joke. It would have been funny if I said it, but hearing her say something like that made me want to puke.
Anyways, lmk if you guys feel a similar way.
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I always get one of two reactions.
1. The "no ur not lol" type of reaction. These people usually just say that you have no idea what you're talking about as if they know you better than you know yourself ("virgin", "haven't found the right one", "I was like that at your age too but then yadda yadda", "sad")
2. The weird "ally". I came out to my straight friend who tried her best to support me, but made me feel even worse than the "no ur not" type of people. She literally referred to me as an "out and proud aroace disgrace" as a joke. It would have been funny if I said it, but hearing her say something like that made me want to puke.
Anyways, lmk if you guys feel a similar way.
https://redd.it/owhrps
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Is it weird that I'm happy being ace but hate telling people?
I always get one of two reactions. 1. The "no ur not lol" type of reaction. These people usually just say that you have no idea what you're...
My mom just told me she read an article on the asexual community because it popped up in her feed today
And it brought me to tears knowing she took the time to read about something so she could understand me better. Thats really special. I just wanted to share, thanks guys
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And it brought me to tears knowing she took the time to read about something so she could understand me better. Thats really special. I just wanted to share, thanks guys
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My mom just told me she read an article on the asexual community...
And it brought me to tears knowing she took the time to read about something so she could understand me better. Thats really special. I just...
how do yk your straight? have you tried kissing your same gender?
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One of my favorite stickers I grabbed at Pride on Saturday (translation: "I only want one thing")
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Being ace doesn’t make me “innocent” or “naïve” about sex. Shout out to sex-positive aces
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Look at this amazing Ace flag scarf I bought. My first purchase of anything Pride related :D
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Pride! From the past. We are not just straight or GSRM people who want to feel special. We are valid as asexuals!
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I found my truth
I apologise, posts like this are probably a dime-a-dozen here. I've only just joined though, and I've not had much of a visit yet. I just kinda feel like I need to get this out there into the universe, say it "out loud" so to speak...
Guys and gals, random strangers on the internet (deep breath)... I'm asexual. (phew)
I realise now I always have been, but was so naïve about what it meant for my ENTIRE life. Like a lot of people, I thought it meant I should never have had sex, that somehow because I've had it (and a kid to prove it) that automatically excluded me from the club. I am a 35yo mum, and I've been with my partner for 14yrs. But man, it's been a long-ass 14yrs of trying to get myself aroused for sex, pretending I'm into it... sometimes crying a little in the bathroom afterwards. My husband would be utterly mortified to know that last fact, he's so supportive and never pushes, but I push myself because I want to make him happy... Just gimmie a few days to mentally prepare myself and I can get the job done. It's probably a tale as old as time.
I first thought I might be asexual 4 years ago but never looked into it further for fear of finding out I wasn't (because if I'm not, I'm just a sexually-broken woman). It was a simple post 2 days ago from an 18yr old, asking a question pertaining to my own situation, and getting such a positive response from you all, that it suddenly all clicked into place. I faced my fear and did more research, and found my truth.
Anyway, there's so much more to my story. But like I said, I needed to get this out. I'm literally staying back late at work to type this, because it was just weighing me down, but I should really get home now. Thanks for listening to my rant, I feel better :)
https://redd.it/owykts
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I apologise, posts like this are probably a dime-a-dozen here. I've only just joined though, and I've not had much of a visit yet. I just kinda feel like I need to get this out there into the universe, say it "out loud" so to speak...
Guys and gals, random strangers on the internet (deep breath)... I'm asexual. (phew)
I realise now I always have been, but was so naïve about what it meant for my ENTIRE life. Like a lot of people, I thought it meant I should never have had sex, that somehow because I've had it (and a kid to prove it) that automatically excluded me from the club. I am a 35yo mum, and I've been with my partner for 14yrs. But man, it's been a long-ass 14yrs of trying to get myself aroused for sex, pretending I'm into it... sometimes crying a little in the bathroom afterwards. My husband would be utterly mortified to know that last fact, he's so supportive and never pushes, but I push myself because I want to make him happy... Just gimmie a few days to mentally prepare myself and I can get the job done. It's probably a tale as old as time.
I first thought I might be asexual 4 years ago but never looked into it further for fear of finding out I wasn't (because if I'm not, I'm just a sexually-broken woman). It was a simple post 2 days ago from an 18yr old, asking a question pertaining to my own situation, and getting such a positive response from you all, that it suddenly all clicked into place. I faced my fear and did more research, and found my truth.
Anyway, there's so much more to my story. But like I said, I needed to get this out. I'm literally staying back late at work to type this, because it was just weighing me down, but I should really get home now. Thanks for listening to my rant, I feel better :)
https://redd.it/owykts
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I found my truth
I apologise, posts like this are probably a dime-a-dozen here. I've only just joined though, and I've not had much of a visit yet. I just kinda...
Allo here, just heard about asexuality for the first time 5 minutes ago and now i have come to enlighten you about how it should really be defined and why you're wrong about what your own sexual orientation means
Allos be like
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Allos be like
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Allo here, just heard about asexuality for the first time 5...
Allos be like