Just broke up with my girlfriend of 5 years because I'm ace
I'm a heteroromantic asexual and she is omnisexual. We've been together for 5 years in a long distance relationship with barely an argument. We never went to sleep angry with each other. She said she was okay with me being ace btw.
And suddenly she started growing distant, so I asked her what's up and she just said that she wished we sexted more. So I said whenever she wants we can sext so we did that for a while.
Then when she complained about the sexting being not enough we talked about "friends with benefits" so she can have her sexual experience that way
And now she suddenly comes to me and says she has lost interest in me and she has lost her spark. She said that things would be different if I wasn't ace and that she wished I was allo.
5 years of a wonderful relationship, we loved each other to the moon and back and it ends because I'm asexual? Is sex seriously that important? Why is it such a large factor? If there is sex with no love, why not love but no sex or deeply sexual behavior? And why should I get hurt this badly just for being the way I am?
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I'm a heteroromantic asexual and she is omnisexual. We've been together for 5 years in a long distance relationship with barely an argument. We never went to sleep angry with each other. She said she was okay with me being ace btw.
And suddenly she started growing distant, so I asked her what's up and she just said that she wished we sexted more. So I said whenever she wants we can sext so we did that for a while.
Then when she complained about the sexting being not enough we talked about "friends with benefits" so she can have her sexual experience that way
And now she suddenly comes to me and says she has lost interest in me and she has lost her spark. She said that things would be different if I wasn't ace and that she wished I was allo.
5 years of a wonderful relationship, we loved each other to the moon and back and it ends because I'm asexual? Is sex seriously that important? Why is it such a large factor? If there is sex with no love, why not love but no sex or deeply sexual behavior? And why should I get hurt this badly just for being the way I am?
https://redd.it/ovwuc4
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Just broke up with my girlfriend of 5 years because I'm ace
I'm a heteroromantic asexual and she is omnisexual. We've been together for 5 years in a long distance relationship with barely an argument. We...
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(tw: self aphobia) That party made me realize what I'll never have
!warning: might contain (internal) aphobia against myself!
So yesterday I worked for a catering service at a summer party. Like literally the picturesque summer party you'd imagine straight out of the Hamptons, absolutely wonderful location - and tons of heteronormative people in cream and white linen dresses and suits. All of them organized the party for their wife's/mother's/relative's, friend's or neighbor's b-day and I came to realize that they had an insanely huge network of friends, acquaintances, a super large family... that's when my sad little introvert ace ass knew that something like that is never going to happen to me, ever.
Something like that only works when you get hetero married, live in a great neighborhood, shag, have a handful of kids, stay together for the rest of your life, the kids marry into other similar families one day and each of them bring their own friends off a similar pattern, so in the end, it all comes down to this "circle" described above. Anything out of the hetero norm would fall out, be off and odd.
Man, I feel so jealous to the point where I don't even want to be ace and I wish I could just convert into being heterosexual and be part of something like that. I also know it's just the aftermath of this evening and the feeling will be gone in a few days but I totally have to vent it here.
https://redd.it/owe9ub
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!warning: might contain (internal) aphobia against myself!
So yesterday I worked for a catering service at a summer party. Like literally the picturesque summer party you'd imagine straight out of the Hamptons, absolutely wonderful location - and tons of heteronormative people in cream and white linen dresses and suits. All of them organized the party for their wife's/mother's/relative's, friend's or neighbor's b-day and I came to realize that they had an insanely huge network of friends, acquaintances, a super large family... that's when my sad little introvert ace ass knew that something like that is never going to happen to me, ever.
Something like that only works when you get hetero married, live in a great neighborhood, shag, have a handful of kids, stay together for the rest of your life, the kids marry into other similar families one day and each of them bring their own friends off a similar pattern, so in the end, it all comes down to this "circle" described above. Anything out of the hetero norm would fall out, be off and odd.
Man, I feel so jealous to the point where I don't even want to be ace and I wish I could just convert into being heterosexual and be part of something like that. I also know it's just the aftermath of this evening and the feeling will be gone in a few days but I totally have to vent it here.
https://redd.it/owe9ub
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(tw: self aphobia) That party made me realize what I'll never have
!warning: might contain (internal) *aphobia* against myself! So yesterday I worked for a catering service at a summer party. Like literally...
Is it weird that I'm happy being ace but hate telling people?
I always get one of two reactions.
1. The "no ur not lol" type of reaction. These people usually just say that you have no idea what you're talking about as if they know you better than you know yourself ("virgin", "haven't found the right one", "I was like that at your age too but then yadda yadda", "sad")
2. The weird "ally". I came out to my straight friend who tried her best to support me, but made me feel even worse than the "no ur not" type of people. She literally referred to me as an "out and proud aroace disgrace" as a joke. It would have been funny if I said it, but hearing her say something like that made me want to puke.
Anyways, lmk if you guys feel a similar way.
https://redd.it/owhrps
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I always get one of two reactions.
1. The "no ur not lol" type of reaction. These people usually just say that you have no idea what you're talking about as if they know you better than you know yourself ("virgin", "haven't found the right one", "I was like that at your age too but then yadda yadda", "sad")
2. The weird "ally". I came out to my straight friend who tried her best to support me, but made me feel even worse than the "no ur not" type of people. She literally referred to me as an "out and proud aroace disgrace" as a joke. It would have been funny if I said it, but hearing her say something like that made me want to puke.
Anyways, lmk if you guys feel a similar way.
https://redd.it/owhrps
@asexualityonreddit
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Is it weird that I'm happy being ace but hate telling people?
I always get one of two reactions. 1. The "no ur not lol" type of reaction. These people usually just say that you have no idea what you're...