My friends keep calling me a robot or a prude or having no emotions...
I'm kind of coming to terms with the label of asexuality (and maybe aromaticism too) and I've always felt locked out from everyone within my group when it comes to talking about relationships and finding people sexually attractive because I don't know any a-spectra people.
Since I've realised this I look back on the things my friends have called me in the past and I don't know if I'm overreacting but in hindsight it seems kind of hurtful and it's certainly worn me down - there was a point where I thought maybe I was experiencing anhedonia or some sort of severe anxiety and low self-esteem that was preventing me from being interested in relationships. I definitely still wondering if the latter is the case. I mean, I'm more stoic than all of them as well but I'm getting annoyed that I'm supposedly just a malfunctioning robot or emotionally stunted child who doesn't understand what love is.
I suppose this is just a small vent really, I have no idea where this is going but I'm just feeling down about it is all, and I don't know if I'm allowed to be angry in hindsight. I don't even know how I'd go about confronting them because I don't know if I'm overreacting.
Sorry if this does come under aphobia I genuinely don't know if it is :/
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I'm kind of coming to terms with the label of asexuality (and maybe aromaticism too) and I've always felt locked out from everyone within my group when it comes to talking about relationships and finding people sexually attractive because I don't know any a-spectra people.
Since I've realised this I look back on the things my friends have called me in the past and I don't know if I'm overreacting but in hindsight it seems kind of hurtful and it's certainly worn me down - there was a point where I thought maybe I was experiencing anhedonia or some sort of severe anxiety and low self-esteem that was preventing me from being interested in relationships. I definitely still wondering if the latter is the case. I mean, I'm more stoic than all of them as well but I'm getting annoyed that I'm supposedly just a malfunctioning robot or emotionally stunted child who doesn't understand what love is.
I suppose this is just a small vent really, I have no idea where this is going but I'm just feeling down about it is all, and I don't know if I'm allowed to be angry in hindsight. I don't even know how I'd go about confronting them because I don't know if I'm overreacting.
Sorry if this does come under aphobia I genuinely don't know if it is :/
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My friends keep calling me a robot or a prude or having no emotions...
I'm kind of coming to terms with the label of asexuality (and maybe aromaticism too) and I've always felt locked out from everyone within my group...
How were you able to comprehend or label your sexuality before you learned there was such a thing as “ace”?
I’m probably not as young as most people here, so the actual concept “asexual” still feels pretty new. Still, for most of my life, I knew I was “different.” For example, while in college, when everyone was hooking up, I prioritized learning over dating. I just really loved school and the learning environment. When I did date or even wanted to be with anyone, it was because someone had made a series insightful comments in class and I felt drawn to their big beautiful brain. Sexual intimacy was somewhere at the tail end of any dating priorities. For a while, I just referred to myself as a “meh-sexual”, in that I had a pretty “meh” attitude toward sex.
I’d be interested in hearing about other people’s “pre-asexual” identities.
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I’m probably not as young as most people here, so the actual concept “asexual” still feels pretty new. Still, for most of my life, I knew I was “different.” For example, while in college, when everyone was hooking up, I prioritized learning over dating. I just really loved school and the learning environment. When I did date or even wanted to be with anyone, it was because someone had made a series insightful comments in class and I felt drawn to their big beautiful brain. Sexual intimacy was somewhere at the tail end of any dating priorities. For a while, I just referred to myself as a “meh-sexual”, in that I had a pretty “meh” attitude toward sex.
I’d be interested in hearing about other people’s “pre-asexual” identities.
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How were you able to comprehend or label your sexuality before you...
I’m probably not as young as most people here, so the actual concept “asexual” still feels pretty new. Still, for most of my life, I knew I was...
My mother thinks pride is bull
Im Aromantic, been identifying as this since...18 maybe. My mother found one of my pride pins with the ace flag on it and asked why I own one. That pride is stupid and I don't need a pin to show I'm like a sheep.
I personally think it's hilarious. Since I don't get pins saying asexual on them, just the colours. To me, it means she saw my pin before, liked it, googled it and found out if was the LGBT and swiftly despised it.
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Im Aromantic, been identifying as this since...18 maybe. My mother found one of my pride pins with the ace flag on it and asked why I own one. That pride is stupid and I don't need a pin to show I'm like a sheep.
I personally think it's hilarious. Since I don't get pins saying asexual on them, just the colours. To me, it means she saw my pin before, liked it, googled it and found out if was the LGBT and swiftly despised it.
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My mother thinks pride is bull
Im Aromantic, been identifying as this since...18 maybe. My mother found one of my pride pins with the ace flag on it and asked why I own one....
I met another ace irl.
Where I work, we can paint or draw designs on our uniforms. I have been wearing an ace pin for a few days now. I got a comment of "nice pin" from another employee. She had a dragon painted on her uniform. I'd seen it before, but it was the first time I've noticed that the dragon was gray, white, black, and purple.
They are out there. Representation matters.
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Where I work, we can paint or draw designs on our uniforms. I have been wearing an ace pin for a few days now. I got a comment of "nice pin" from another employee. She had a dragon painted on her uniform. I'd seen it before, but it was the first time I've noticed that the dragon was gray, white, black, and purple.
They are out there. Representation matters.
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I met another ace irl.
Where I work, we can paint or draw designs on our uniforms. I have been wearing an ace pin for a few days now. I got a comment of "nice pin" from...
Vernestra Rwoh: the first canonical asexual and aromatic Jedi in Star Wars canon!
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I designed an asexual wallpaper for phones :) save and use it if you like it!!
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Some guy I was talking to told me it's biologically impossible to be ace.
So go home, guys, we're all a fraud.
Haha.
No, but seriously... I told him I was asexual because I was sexually assaulted and also simply because... I just don't have any interest in sex. And he called me weird and said that's not a thing.
Welp. What do you guys think?
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So go home, guys, we're all a fraud.
Haha.
No, but seriously... I told him I was asexual because I was sexually assaulted and also simply because... I just don't have any interest in sex. And he called me weird and said that's not a thing.
Welp. What do you guys think?
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Some guy I was talking to told me it's biologically impossible to...
So go home, guys, we're all a fraud. Haha. No, but seriously... I told him I was asexual because I was sexually assaulted and also simply...
I'm so done
My sis, her bf, and my aunt are over and we decided to watch a movie and my sis suggested Ghost Movie. When she said it was a paranormal joke, I didn't expect sudden sex scenes! I'm currently sitting here, with my stomach turning, and me almost having a panic attack because of this shit. I'm sex repulsed, and not out at all.
Somebody kill me pls
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My sis, her bf, and my aunt are over and we decided to watch a movie and my sis suggested Ghost Movie. When she said it was a paranormal joke, I didn't expect sudden sex scenes! I'm currently sitting here, with my stomach turning, and me almost having a panic attack because of this shit. I'm sex repulsed, and not out at all.
Somebody kill me pls
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I'm so done
My sis, her bf, and my aunt are over and we decided to watch a movie and my sis suggested Ghost Movie. When she said it was a paranormal joke, I...
Was told I needed to be "fixed"
Long story short, a male friend expressed interest and couldn't take a hint so I told him flat-out that I am ace and I'm not looking for anything more than friendship.
He responded by saying "I want to help you. I want to help fix you. I want to find out what made you this way and fix it."
Dude, I don't need "fixing." I'm asexual, I was born this way, it took me a while to come to terms but I'm ok with it, and if you aren't, that's not my problem.
I knew this conversation was coming and was dreading it. Kinda sucks to keep losing friends this way.
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Long story short, a male friend expressed interest and couldn't take a hint so I told him flat-out that I am ace and I'm not looking for anything more than friendship.
He responded by saying "I want to help you. I want to help fix you. I want to find out what made you this way and fix it."
Dude, I don't need "fixing." I'm asexual, I was born this way, it took me a while to come to terms but I'm ok with it, and if you aren't, that's not my problem.
I knew this conversation was coming and was dreading it. Kinda sucks to keep losing friends this way.
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Was told I needed to be "fixed"
Long story short, a male friend expressed interest and couldn't take a hint so I told him flat-out that I am ace and I'm not looking for anything...