Ahhhhhhahaha so I accidentally said us to my sister
I’m super closeted ace and me and my sister both love lgbt memes (I think she might be a closet bi, but this isn’t about her) and so naturally we were talking about the bi ace war. We get on the subject of the wars end and I said, “Didn’t they make pease by offering US lemon bars?” Then I feel my eyes go wide and color leave my face, she hardly noticed but I felt like I died and reincarnated instantly. Not really a point to this story maybe one of you will find it funny or something.
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I’m super closeted ace and me and my sister both love lgbt memes (I think she might be a closet bi, but this isn’t about her) and so naturally we were talking about the bi ace war. We get on the subject of the wars end and I said, “Didn’t they make pease by offering US lemon bars?” Then I feel my eyes go wide and color leave my face, she hardly noticed but I felt like I died and reincarnated instantly. Not really a point to this story maybe one of you will find it funny or something.
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Ahhhhhhahaha so I accidentally said us to my sister
I’m super closeted ace and me and my sister both love lgbt memes (I think she might be a closet bi, but this isn’t about her) and so naturally we...
I recently came out to my mother about my asexuality (and identifying as agender) after questioning who I was and why I didn't feel the way others my age did. So, for my birthday, she made an ace-inspired cake to show her support for my asexuality. Plus, as we all know, cake is better than sex!
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I discussed asexuality with my therapist and ended up feeling uncomfortable
First of all, hi, this is my first post ever. I wasn’t really sure who to talk this with and this seemed like a good start.
I’ve been in therapy for almost a year now. I’m still hesitant about the whole process because, even as the most urgent issue improved (I was having panic attacks with chest pains) I now feel kind of lost about where it is going and what we’re even doing.
We’ve been kind of talking about me having fear of abandonment and it led to him asking my sexual preferences. I told him I don’t have any, and we’ve delved deep into it for two sessions now. I explained to him that I’ve never felt sexual attraction and that I can’t explain how it is not to feel it because it’s something I just haven’t ever noticed.
Two things rubbed me the wrong way: he says that, deep down, asexuality is a “choice”, and that in my case specifically, I might have “decided” to be asexual in order to spare more risks of abandonment, and even when I tried to explain I didn’t see it that way, he doubled down on that take. He then proceeded to share an anecdote about a teacher (I can explain it if it’s needed?), basically comparing situations of abuse with my lack of sexual attraction. Which again, no. I’ve tried not to reject completely his opinions in the past, since I believe part of my process is listening to other perspectives, but it really rubbed me the wrong way that he was so insistent about it. Like, he didn’t say “Maybe this is another possibility”, it was more of a “This is what happens and you just don’t want to see it”.
So all this rambling is to ask what do you think about this? I’ve thought about dropping this therapy before, but I haven’t done it because i also think it’s possible I’m just running away from the hard subjects we sometimes touch, but this one made me specially uncomfortable. I don’t know if I’m being squeamish or not.
Sorry for rambling.
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First of all, hi, this is my first post ever. I wasn’t really sure who to talk this with and this seemed like a good start.
I’ve been in therapy for almost a year now. I’m still hesitant about the whole process because, even as the most urgent issue improved (I was having panic attacks with chest pains) I now feel kind of lost about where it is going and what we’re even doing.
We’ve been kind of talking about me having fear of abandonment and it led to him asking my sexual preferences. I told him I don’t have any, and we’ve delved deep into it for two sessions now. I explained to him that I’ve never felt sexual attraction and that I can’t explain how it is not to feel it because it’s something I just haven’t ever noticed.
Two things rubbed me the wrong way: he says that, deep down, asexuality is a “choice”, and that in my case specifically, I might have “decided” to be asexual in order to spare more risks of abandonment, and even when I tried to explain I didn’t see it that way, he doubled down on that take. He then proceeded to share an anecdote about a teacher (I can explain it if it’s needed?), basically comparing situations of abuse with my lack of sexual attraction. Which again, no. I’ve tried not to reject completely his opinions in the past, since I believe part of my process is listening to other perspectives, but it really rubbed me the wrong way that he was so insistent about it. Like, he didn’t say “Maybe this is another possibility”, it was more of a “This is what happens and you just don’t want to see it”.
So all this rambling is to ask what do you think about this? I’ve thought about dropping this therapy before, but I haven’t done it because i also think it’s possible I’m just running away from the hard subjects we sometimes touch, but this one made me specially uncomfortable. I don’t know if I’m being squeamish or not.
Sorry for rambling.
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I discussed asexuality with my therapist and ended up feeling...
First of all, hi, this is my first post ever. I wasn’t really sure who to talk this with and this seemed like a good start. I’ve been in therapy...
New yarnz coming today 😁 Not sure what I wanna knit with it yet (and I'm not exactly a seasoned knitter, tho I'd consider myself "capable" lol), but I'm excited anyway 🖤💜🤍
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I made a mille crepe cake for the first time last week! I kinda over-whipped the frosting, but other than that, I'm really happy with how it turned out!
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My boyfriend came out to me as demi!
Last night, he said he thinks he is demisexual. He said he doesn't develop crushes on random people. He said he had to get to know me first before he got feelings for me. He said that since we are really close, he is comfortable doing anything with me. After a little bit of talking, he said that he likes it and is demi! I feel so proud and happy for him! I'm also ace myself so it feels great that I have a demi partner :).
If he sees this: hello im proud of you!
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Last night, he said he thinks he is demisexual. He said he doesn't develop crushes on random people. He said he had to get to know me first before he got feelings for me. He said that since we are really close, he is comfortable doing anything with me. After a little bit of talking, he said that he likes it and is demi! I feel so proud and happy for him! I'm also ace myself so it feels great that I have a demi partner :).
If he sees this: hello im proud of you!
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My boyfriend came out to me as demi!
Last night, he said he thinks he is demisexual. He said he doesn't develop crushes on random people. He said he had to get to know me first before...
Am I accepted into the community? I just came out as asexual but I don’t wanna tell my parents or my friends cause I think they would make fun of me. I made a picrew!
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for the nonsex repulsed aces... (I will take this down if it doesn't belong here)
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!!Aphobia!!
so today I’m a little emotional and angry, my mother had brought up me being ace and practically stating that woman are made to have kids and to get married, which I do not want either. then of course she brought up the Bible trying to say no one is supposed to be a virgin which through me in a rage. I first came out to her bc I wanted her support and at first she accepted it and was supportive, but lately she’s been making small comments about me having a boyfriend and that I should be sexually active which is horrible to say. what makes me very upset was that she said it was “unnatural” to be asexual. I’m not sure how to handle this so please help me!
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so today I’m a little emotional and angry, my mother had brought up me being ace and practically stating that woman are made to have kids and to get married, which I do not want either. then of course she brought up the Bible trying to say no one is supposed to be a virgin which through me in a rage. I first came out to her bc I wanted her support and at first she accepted it and was supportive, but lately she’s been making small comments about me having a boyfriend and that I should be sexually active which is horrible to say. what makes me very upset was that she said it was “unnatural” to be asexual. I’m not sure how to handle this so please help me!
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!!Aphobia!!
so today I’m a little emotional and angry, my mother had brought up me being ace and practically stating that woman are made to have kids and to...
The garlic bread memes make me feel erased as an asexual
The whole “yeah, sex is great but…” joke is everywhere. And it just reinforces the notion that asexual people don’t like sex. Which isn’t what asexuality is about. I understand that sex-indifferent and sex-repulsed ace folk are out there, and I love and support you guys, but I just feel pushed to the margins in ace communities, like I don’t fit in because I don’t have the same experience.
The fact is I just don’t like garlic bread more than I like sex. And it sounds silly to say but it feels like a weird thing around here.
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The whole “yeah, sex is great but…” joke is everywhere. And it just reinforces the notion that asexual people don’t like sex. Which isn’t what asexuality is about. I understand that sex-indifferent and sex-repulsed ace folk are out there, and I love and support you guys, but I just feel pushed to the margins in ace communities, like I don’t fit in because I don’t have the same experience.
The fact is I just don’t like garlic bread more than I like sex. And it sounds silly to say but it feels like a weird thing around here.
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The garlic bread memes make me feel erased as an asexual
The whole “yeah, sex is great but…” joke is everywhere. And it just reinforces the notion that asexual people don’t like sex. Which isn’t what...
Am I too young to identify as asexual?
I (18F) came out to my parents a few days ago and they told me I was too young to decide that and I shouldn’t tell people that. I guess asexuality might be different from other LGBT orientations since sex is supposedly a grown up topic and whatnot, idk. I’ve thought about it for a long time now though, and I just believe this is the best way to label myself and how I feel. Let me know what you think :)
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I (18F) came out to my parents a few days ago and they told me I was too young to decide that and I shouldn’t tell people that. I guess asexuality might be different from other LGBT orientations since sex is supposedly a grown up topic and whatnot, idk. I’ve thought about it for a long time now though, and I just believe this is the best way to label myself and how I feel. Let me know what you think :)
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Am I too young to identify as asexual?
I (18F) came out to my parents a few days ago and they told me I was too young to decide that and I shouldn’t tell people that. I guess asexuality...