Can someone catch me up to speed?
I left for two weeks and suddenly we’ve conquered Denmark and are now at war with the bisexuals, I’m intrigued to say the least.
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I left for two weeks and suddenly we’ve conquered Denmark and are now at war with the bisexuals, I’m intrigued to say the least.
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Can someone catch me up to speed?
I left for two weeks and suddenly we’ve conquered Denmark and are now at war with the bisexuals, I’m intrigued to say the least.
Being asexual for me means feeling a constant sense of alienation
It was a source of distress when I was younger, but now I’m pretty happy with myself. Still it won’t change the fact that I always feel alienated from the rest of the world. I’m still just as confused as I was as a kid why putting your lips on another persons lips is a good idea.
There’s sexual imagery absolutely everywhere, and it’s a constant reminder that I’m the weird one and the world is not designed with me in mind. Apparently sex sells, which confuses me to no end. My straight friends tell me those horrifying commercials of sweaty women eating cheeseburgers really do work.
I have decided to no longer pay any attention to lyrics in music, as almost all of it is about sex and there’s nothing for me there. Frankly I’m rather grossed out at realizing all those kids singing about cake by the ocean. When I was a kid my parents took us to a journey concert. Now I’m a bit yucked out by so many kids singing “any way you want it, that’s the way you need it.” I think all music lyrics being about sex is just as devoid of creativity as christian rock.
It’s baffling that sex is so essential in a relationship. A lot of aces in relationships with allos talk about doing it for them, scheduling it to keep the relationship healthy. This is so weird to me, I’m glad for those of you that really are able to do it to make your partner happy, but I don’t think I’d be capable of it. I would be very visibly not having a good time, it seems so clinical and unpleasant.
There doesn’t seem to be many other things that would ruin a relationship if one person liked it and the other didn’t, right? Nobody is being like “Our relationship is suffering because we haven’t been playing racquetball together. Do you realize we’ve only crocheted together twice in the past 3 years? I just really don’t feel intimate with my partner if we can’t unicycle together with them.”
This is why I could never date an allo if I were to date someone, I’m incapable of understanding why sex is different from anything else.
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It was a source of distress when I was younger, but now I’m pretty happy with myself. Still it won’t change the fact that I always feel alienated from the rest of the world. I’m still just as confused as I was as a kid why putting your lips on another persons lips is a good idea.
There’s sexual imagery absolutely everywhere, and it’s a constant reminder that I’m the weird one and the world is not designed with me in mind. Apparently sex sells, which confuses me to no end. My straight friends tell me those horrifying commercials of sweaty women eating cheeseburgers really do work.
I have decided to no longer pay any attention to lyrics in music, as almost all of it is about sex and there’s nothing for me there. Frankly I’m rather grossed out at realizing all those kids singing about cake by the ocean. When I was a kid my parents took us to a journey concert. Now I’m a bit yucked out by so many kids singing “any way you want it, that’s the way you need it.” I think all music lyrics being about sex is just as devoid of creativity as christian rock.
It’s baffling that sex is so essential in a relationship. A lot of aces in relationships with allos talk about doing it for them, scheduling it to keep the relationship healthy. This is so weird to me, I’m glad for those of you that really are able to do it to make your partner happy, but I don’t think I’d be capable of it. I would be very visibly not having a good time, it seems so clinical and unpleasant.
There doesn’t seem to be many other things that would ruin a relationship if one person liked it and the other didn’t, right? Nobody is being like “Our relationship is suffering because we haven’t been playing racquetball together. Do you realize we’ve only crocheted together twice in the past 3 years? I just really don’t feel intimate with my partner if we can’t unicycle together with them.”
This is why I could never date an allo if I were to date someone, I’m incapable of understanding why sex is different from anything else.
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Being asexual for me means feeling a constant sense of alienation
It was a source of distress when I was younger, but now I’m pretty happy with myself. Still it won’t change the fact that I always feel alienated...
Attention ace council! A bisexual ambassador and I are attempting to come to a compromise! Do we ally with them? (Didn't know which flair to put)
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Turning 40 soon. This summer, I learned I am ̶ A̶s̶e̶x̶u̶a̶l̶ ̶ invading Denmark?
It's about two months since I learned that I'm Ace.
It's also my cake day, and based on the memes, pretty sure that makes it a good day to post :)
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I'm nearly 40. Ever since I was a teenager, I've been certain I was "missing something." Everything to do with flirting, sex, and sexual attraction seemed like a language I couldn't learn to speak, while every person around me was fluent.
I told myself I was 'just bad at relationships,' or that, "I just hadn't found the right person yet,' (things I now know Aces hear a lot).
I told myself, 'it's just my religious choices,' (only, other people seemed to find sex a real temptation, difficult to resist... so why wasn't it like that for me?)
I never had sexual fantasies or dreams. I had plenty of crushes, but never felt sexual desire toward them. To me, sexual desire has always seemed like just a literary device...
And when I finally did make out with a man I cared deeply about, and still felt nothing - no real pleasure, and certainly no fireworks or sudden awakenings or bursts of understanding - I was more convinced than ever that I was broken.
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I'll skip the rest, except to say: I'm so very glad to finally know I'm not.
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Reading through the FAQ's and info links from r/asexuality has been absolutely enlightening. I've read them all, followed the links, and watched loads of videos. Over and over again I find myself saying, "other people really do feel that way too?!" and "I wish I'd found all this years ago."
Thank you to all of you who represent. Who share your stories, and celebrate, and commiserate. Who fly the flag and wear black rings, and swap cake and garlic bread memes, and plot to invade Denmark. Thank you to all of you who let each other know, "we're valid! We're real! We're whole!"
I'm grateful to all of you. I wish I'd found you sooner.
I'm so very glad to say, "I'm with you."
https://redd.it/oo9wov
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It's about two months since I learned that I'm Ace.
It's also my cake day, and based on the memes, pretty sure that makes it a good day to post :)
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I'm nearly 40. Ever since I was a teenager, I've been certain I was "missing something." Everything to do with flirting, sex, and sexual attraction seemed like a language I couldn't learn to speak, while every person around me was fluent.
I told myself I was 'just bad at relationships,' or that, "I just hadn't found the right person yet,' (things I now know Aces hear a lot).
I told myself, 'it's just my religious choices,' (only, other people seemed to find sex a real temptation, difficult to resist... so why wasn't it like that for me?)
I never had sexual fantasies or dreams. I had plenty of crushes, but never felt sexual desire toward them. To me, sexual desire has always seemed like just a literary device...
And when I finally did make out with a man I cared deeply about, and still felt nothing - no real pleasure, and certainly no fireworks or sudden awakenings or bursts of understanding - I was more convinced than ever that I was broken.
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I'll skip the rest, except to say: I'm so very glad to finally know I'm not.
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Reading through the FAQ's and info links from r/asexuality has been absolutely enlightening. I've read them all, followed the links, and watched loads of videos. Over and over again I find myself saying, "other people really do feel that way too?!" and "I wish I'd found all this years ago."
Thank you to all of you who represent. Who share your stories, and celebrate, and commiserate. Who fly the flag and wear black rings, and swap cake and garlic bread memes, and plot to invade Denmark. Thank you to all of you who let each other know, "we're valid! We're real! We're whole!"
I'm grateful to all of you. I wish I'd found you sooner.
I'm so very glad to say, "I'm with you."
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r/asexuality - Turning 40 soon. This summer, I learned I am ̶ A̶s̶e̶x̶u̶a̶l̶ ̶ invading Denmark?
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I've not been to a doctor for it yet but I'm fairly certain I like dick, at least more than the average bloke.
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I'm bad at fighting so I'll stick to giving out some food during the war
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I think I’m leaving
Sorry guys. I thought I was part of this community, but turns out it’s just some deep seated emotional trauma 👈👈. I’m leaving to join the bisexuals, but I did enjoy the garlic bread, memes, and hospitality while I stayed. You all valid as fuck and rad as hell. Rock on and keep doing your thing.
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Sorry guys. I thought I was part of this community, but turns out it’s just some deep seated emotional trauma 👈👈. I’m leaving to join the bisexuals, but I did enjoy the garlic bread, memes, and hospitality while I stayed. You all valid as fuck and rad as hell. Rock on and keep doing your thing.
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I think I’m leaving
Sorry guys. I thought I was part of this community, but turns out it’s just some deep seated emotional trauma 👈👈. I’m leaving to join the...
I got my diploma!! As of today, I now officially have a Master's Degree! I just wanted to show it off! Thanks to everyone here who helped me get through the past 18 months of school and being so supportive of me! I couldn't have done this without y'all! Aces Up!
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Dear r/aaaaaaccccce,
As a member of the r/lesbianteens community I would like to propose an alliance. We have decided we will invade Lebanon or Ireland. We would love to help on your quest of world domination. If you accept our offer we will bring cake. Thank you for your time,
R/lesbianteens
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As a member of the r/lesbianteens community I would like to propose an alliance. We have decided we will invade Lebanon or Ireland. We would love to help on your quest of world domination. If you accept our offer we will bring cake. Thank you for your time,
R/lesbianteens
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Dear r/aaaaaaccccce,
As a member of the r/lesbianteens community I would like to propose an alliance. We have decided we will invade Lebanon or Ireland. We would love...
Not even my earrings are safe
My family knows that I'm ace. Or at the very least, they know I am not certainly not a sexual person - I've made multiple tiktoks about my orientation, and much of my family follows me - I know for a fact that they've seen them.
Anyhow, today I got a new pair of earrings. They're dangle earrings that look like handcuffs. I tend to dress in a bit of a more alternative style, and just thought that they were really cute and fit the way I like to look. My mom told my aunt and my gramma about them at my cousin's birthday party earlier, and immediately, immediately, they started making fun of me for them, and making all sorts of sexual insinuations.
"Well, handcuffs -are- fun."
"Any ulterior motives there?"
"You can do a lot of things with those."
It was just so unnecessary and incredibly uncomfortable. I was really excited about those earrings, but now, I don't even know if I want to wear them anymore. All I really wanna do right now is cry.
I just want to be respected. Is that so hard?
Like, not even my goddamn earrings are safe.
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My family knows that I'm ace. Or at the very least, they know I am not certainly not a sexual person - I've made multiple tiktoks about my orientation, and much of my family follows me - I know for a fact that they've seen them.
Anyhow, today I got a new pair of earrings. They're dangle earrings that look like handcuffs. I tend to dress in a bit of a more alternative style, and just thought that they were really cute and fit the way I like to look. My mom told my aunt and my gramma about them at my cousin's birthday party earlier, and immediately, immediately, they started making fun of me for them, and making all sorts of sexual insinuations.
"Well, handcuffs -are- fun."
"Any ulterior motives there?"
"You can do a lot of things with those."
It was just so unnecessary and incredibly uncomfortable. I was really excited about those earrings, but now, I don't even know if I want to wear them anymore. All I really wanna do right now is cry.
I just want to be respected. Is that so hard?
Like, not even my goddamn earrings are safe.
https://redd.it/oog7d0
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Not even my earrings are safe
My family knows that I'm ace. Or at the very least, they know I am not certainly not a sexual person - I've made multiple tiktoks about my...
Dear r/aace,
I come from r/genderfluidirl. We wish to join your alliance and assist you in your conquest of Europe, and would like to occupy the territory of Belgium in return for sharing our troops and garlic bread stockpiles.
Please reply with all due haste.
Sincerely,
r/genderfluidirl
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I come from r/genderfluidirl. We wish to join your alliance and assist you in your conquest of Europe, and would like to occupy the territory of Belgium in return for sharing our troops and garlic bread stockpiles.
Please reply with all due haste.
Sincerely,
r/genderfluidirl
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Dear r/aace,
I come from r/genderfluid_irl. We wish to join your alliance and assist you in your conquest of Europe, and would like to occupy the territory of...
I think I'm a bad ace?
The past year or so of me checking out this subreddit has left a bad impression of myself on me. It's a bit weird, but here is what's going through my life right now.
So earlier this week, I was on a walk with my mom, and we discussed the probability of her eventually getting grandchildren(she's got 4 kids, it'll probably happen one way or another someday soon), so I eventually go "Yeah, I'm not so sure I would want a biological child, but probably adoption,", she sarcastically says "yeah, sure, you certainly won't be hooking up with a woman anytime soon." and I go "well I am asexual"
It is important to note that I've told her I'm asexual several times before, so this isn't exactly some huge revelation, but her old lady brain is forgetful, I'm sure. I've only mentioned it in passing, really.
So she says something along the lines of "You say that now(I have said it to her for the last five years), but just wait until you meet a fine young woman, you'll want to have sex eventually," and I just shrug it off, and tell her "Probably not." We did have a few more words to say on the matter, but overall that was the gist of it.
I keep seeing stories of how people's mental states were practically destroyed because their parents saying something similar, and certainly I feel for those people, but I'm having trouble... Caring about the situation?
Like, I expected myself to be furious about this situation, as sort of a "How dare she try and tell me who I am!" But it's just more of an "Eh, whatever." I just feel like I should care more like I should be furious about this, or sad, or SOMETHING, but instead, I just don't really have any opinions about it one way or another.
Knowing her most of my life, she's certainly the most progressive conservative I have ever met, she has always accepted anyone of the LGBTQ+(after educating herself, of course) so that might play into me not caring as much, but I also feel like it should still hurt more since she is specifically excluding my side from it. I do think given time she will start to understand a-spec people more, though.
I don't think I have zero feelings on this, I mean if I didn't I don't think I would be writing this, but I definitely don't have the feeling I feel like I should.
TLDR: Some possibly incoherent sociopathic ramblings at 1:30 in the morning
https://redd.it/ookhdj
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The past year or so of me checking out this subreddit has left a bad impression of myself on me. It's a bit weird, but here is what's going through my life right now.
So earlier this week, I was on a walk with my mom, and we discussed the probability of her eventually getting grandchildren(she's got 4 kids, it'll probably happen one way or another someday soon), so I eventually go "Yeah, I'm not so sure I would want a biological child, but probably adoption,", she sarcastically says "yeah, sure, you certainly won't be hooking up with a woman anytime soon." and I go "well I am asexual"
It is important to note that I've told her I'm asexual several times before, so this isn't exactly some huge revelation, but her old lady brain is forgetful, I'm sure. I've only mentioned it in passing, really.
So she says something along the lines of "You say that now(I have said it to her for the last five years), but just wait until you meet a fine young woman, you'll want to have sex eventually," and I just shrug it off, and tell her "Probably not." We did have a few more words to say on the matter, but overall that was the gist of it.
I keep seeing stories of how people's mental states were practically destroyed because their parents saying something similar, and certainly I feel for those people, but I'm having trouble... Caring about the situation?
Like, I expected myself to be furious about this situation, as sort of a "How dare she try and tell me who I am!" But it's just more of an "Eh, whatever." I just feel like I should care more like I should be furious about this, or sad, or SOMETHING, but instead, I just don't really have any opinions about it one way or another.
Knowing her most of my life, she's certainly the most progressive conservative I have ever met, she has always accepted anyone of the LGBTQ+(after educating herself, of course) so that might play into me not caring as much, but I also feel like it should still hurt more since she is specifically excluding my side from it. I do think given time she will start to understand a-spec people more, though.
I don't think I have zero feelings on this, I mean if I didn't I don't think I would be writing this, but I definitely don't have the feeling I feel like I should.
TLDR: Some possibly incoherent sociopathic ramblings at 1:30 in the morning
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I think I'm a bad ace?
The past year or so of me checking out this subreddit has left a bad impression of myself on me. It's a bit weird, but here is what's going...
My Etsy package came today. Behold my boot l'aces! (And lace locks!)
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