Coworker ruined any possibility of a friendship.
A little over a week ago one of my coworkers left a note for me asking to text them. I did and we were getting along well talking in an out of work setting. Then a few days later I was feeling very under the weather and she asked if she could come over. I said yes thinking that she would just be coming over to relax and watch a movie or something since I wasn't feeling well. About 30min before she comes over she sends me a picture of her in her underwear, I made it clear to her after that picture that I was asexual and wasn't looking for anything like that.
Proceed to her coming over, within the first 5 minutes she starts invading my personal space and I tell her again that especially since I'm not feeling well that I just want to relax. She keeps trying to push boundaries and trying to kiss me and cuddle up to me. Finally I couldn't take it anymore and told her she needed to leave, she seemed very offended at this.
Over the next few days she kept texting me constantly and would be upset if I took even 5 minutes to respond. I just started to ignore the texts not knowing how to deal with it all. Kind of sad that she ruined a possible friendship by trying to overstep all of the boundaries I was setting.
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A little over a week ago one of my coworkers left a note for me asking to text them. I did and we were getting along well talking in an out of work setting. Then a few days later I was feeling very under the weather and she asked if she could come over. I said yes thinking that she would just be coming over to relax and watch a movie or something since I wasn't feeling well. About 30min before she comes over she sends me a picture of her in her underwear, I made it clear to her after that picture that I was asexual and wasn't looking for anything like that.
Proceed to her coming over, within the first 5 minutes she starts invading my personal space and I tell her again that especially since I'm not feeling well that I just want to relax. She keeps trying to push boundaries and trying to kiss me and cuddle up to me. Finally I couldn't take it anymore and told her she needed to leave, she seemed very offended at this.
Over the next few days she kept texting me constantly and would be upset if I took even 5 minutes to respond. I just started to ignore the texts not knowing how to deal with it all. Kind of sad that she ruined a possible friendship by trying to overstep all of the boundaries I was setting.
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Coworker ruined any possibility of a friendship.
A little over a week ago one of my coworkers left a note for me asking to text them. I did and we were getting along well talking in an out of...
The cashier who rang me up had ace cake earrings on.
They had one with the regular ace colors on one ear and the aro colors on the other. Being on a military base, im sure they don't get a lot of people who know or are accepting of that kind of stuff. I thought I'd share because it was a nice interaction once I mentioned the earrings and it was my first time meeting another ace in the wild! :)
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They had one with the regular ace colors on one ear and the aro colors on the other. Being on a military base, im sure they don't get a lot of people who know or are accepting of that kind of stuff. I thought I'd share because it was a nice interaction once I mentioned the earrings and it was my first time meeting another ace in the wild! :)
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The cashier who rang me up had ace cake earrings on.
They had one with the regular ace colors on one ear and the aro colors on the other. Being on a military base, im sure they don't get a lot of...
hi,i'm a bit confused so i'll ask here
can i be asexual but still want to hug,hold hand,kiss(?) and etc. both male and female?
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can i be asexual but still want to hug,hold hand,kiss(?) and etc. both male and female?
https://redd.it/ommaj9
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hi,i'm a bit confused so i'll ask here
can i be asexual but still want to hug,hold hand,kiss(?) and etc. both male and female?
A(ce) Journey
Hi, I desperately needed a place to tell my story and feel accepted. So that's why I'm making this post.
When I was little I faked having crushes so people would stop bothering me about it.
During my teen years I've always felt like I kinda didn't belong anywhere, because people where either talking about sex or doing it, even among my queer friends.
I've had friends tell me I was "too pure and innocent for these dirty thoughts" - I thought about sex and such because I felt I had to, otherwise I would eventually always be the weird one. Everybody talked about it so it must be nice, right?
Between highschool and university I've had 3 different partners and all of them were ace, so there wasn't such a rush to do "stuff".
I actually had my first experience when I was 21 and it was okay but nothing lifechanging. And during these romantic relationships my partners told me I wasn't romantic enough, and I didn't feel such strong feelings as well.
Then I had a period, after a very bad breakup, where I wanted to feel normal for once. During that time, that lasted aroung 7-8months, my brain just went foggy and I faked enjoying sex with a fwb because people were more eager to talk to me (even my friends - that before this period told me "it's okay if youre ace!! but youll find love eventually" - were extremely happy about me having sex because they thought I was happy probably).
I then realized, thanks to talking to people outside of that friend group, that many things were happened without my full consent (had too much alchol, ignoring when i told "no" and such) - I broke off that fwb situation and felt utterly disgusted by myself and everything I put myself through.
This happened around three years ago, after that I started slowly accepting that sex just isn't for me, and romantic relationships are still a big cloud of confusion.
I'm in a romantic relationship right now with someone I realized is also my best friend; we've been together for around a year and they've bene so accepting and nurturing even though they're allo (but told me that prefers being with me rather than having sex ).
I trust them with all my heart, even though I'm scared one day they'll realize they want something else. I think this is the best relationship I had both romantic and platonic.
I'm still struggling with understanding wether I have romantic feelings - because I'd be fine even without romantic ways to show affection (kisses), I just want them to be the person I share my life with and viceversa.
Ive come out to a few friends and they were all very accepting, besides one that thinks asexuals don't "struggle" as much as other sexualities.
I don't know whether to come out to other friends, my family, coworkers and such because most of them think that asexuality is not real or would shame me about being a terrible partner.
I'm so thankful for my 2 ace friends because they keep up with all my struggles and can understand perfectly how I feel.
Because honestly.. Even just thinking about sex makes me feel gross and disgusting - I like the "idea" of intimacy it gives but intimacy can be found in so many other ways.
I've also had a lifelong struggle with my gender identity so who knows, sometimes I joke about being a triple A!
Thank you if you read through all of this, and I'm very grateful to this community🖤🤍💜
https://redd.it/omkv7t
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Hi, I desperately needed a place to tell my story and feel accepted. So that's why I'm making this post.
When I was little I faked having crushes so people would stop bothering me about it.
During my teen years I've always felt like I kinda didn't belong anywhere, because people where either talking about sex or doing it, even among my queer friends.
I've had friends tell me I was "too pure and innocent for these dirty thoughts" - I thought about sex and such because I felt I had to, otherwise I would eventually always be the weird one. Everybody talked about it so it must be nice, right?
Between highschool and university I've had 3 different partners and all of them were ace, so there wasn't such a rush to do "stuff".
I actually had my first experience when I was 21 and it was okay but nothing lifechanging. And during these romantic relationships my partners told me I wasn't romantic enough, and I didn't feel such strong feelings as well.
Then I had a period, after a very bad breakup, where I wanted to feel normal for once. During that time, that lasted aroung 7-8months, my brain just went foggy and I faked enjoying sex with a fwb because people were more eager to talk to me (even my friends - that before this period told me "it's okay if youre ace!! but youll find love eventually" - were extremely happy about me having sex because they thought I was happy probably).
I then realized, thanks to talking to people outside of that friend group, that many things were happened without my full consent (had too much alchol, ignoring when i told "no" and such) - I broke off that fwb situation and felt utterly disgusted by myself and everything I put myself through.
This happened around three years ago, after that I started slowly accepting that sex just isn't for me, and romantic relationships are still a big cloud of confusion.
I'm in a romantic relationship right now with someone I realized is also my best friend; we've been together for around a year and they've bene so accepting and nurturing even though they're allo (but told me that prefers being with me rather than having sex ).
I trust them with all my heart, even though I'm scared one day they'll realize they want something else. I think this is the best relationship I had both romantic and platonic.
I'm still struggling with understanding wether I have romantic feelings - because I'd be fine even without romantic ways to show affection (kisses), I just want them to be the person I share my life with and viceversa.
Ive come out to a few friends and they were all very accepting, besides one that thinks asexuals don't "struggle" as much as other sexualities.
I don't know whether to come out to other friends, my family, coworkers and such because most of them think that asexuality is not real or would shame me about being a terrible partner.
I'm so thankful for my 2 ace friends because they keep up with all my struggles and can understand perfectly how I feel.
Because honestly.. Even just thinking about sex makes me feel gross and disgusting - I like the "idea" of intimacy it gives but intimacy can be found in so many other ways.
I've also had a lifelong struggle with my gender identity so who knows, sometimes I joke about being a triple A!
Thank you if you read through all of this, and I'm very grateful to this community🖤🤍💜
https://redd.it/omkv7t
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A(ce) Journey
Hi, I desperately needed a place to tell my story and feel accepted. So that's why I'm making this post. When I was little I faked having crushes...
do u guys get that sense of like euphoria when you find another ace people and its just like wow im not alone
cuz that happened today it had my toes curling i was so happy :) and he was black as well so it was really comforting to know i have someone who relates to the same stuff that i go thru i love it
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cuz that happened today it had my toes curling i was so happy :) and he was black as well so it was really comforting to know i have someone who relates to the same stuff that i go thru i love it
https://redd.it/omokdr
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do u guys get that sense of like euphoria when you find another...
cuz that happened today it had my toes curling i was so happy :) and he was black as well so it was really comforting to know i have someone who...
SOOOOOO Many Queer People Still Are Aphobic And I'm SICK OF IT
❗CW: Swearing, Aphobia❗
I was just browsing r/actuallylesbian just for the heck of it. When I came across a post asking "Why Are So Many Lesbians Asexual" Now, while I could see how someone could see that and get red flags, I interpreted that as a rather innocent question and just something someone noticed and was curious about.
But the post had a heap of replies already so I looked through them just to see if my input as something who is Aceflux was needed. And all I saw was people just SHITTING on Sex-Favorable Aces left and right. Invalidating them, saying it was impossible, saying they were just trying to get special points off of the fact that they just aren't "visually stimulated".
ANY reply that was saying anything different or trying to explain got downvoted to HELL and I'm just...
Done...
Needless to say I didn't reply with anything. I didn't want to put myself into that situation. As a sex-favorable person 😞
If you personally have ever experienced anything like this then I want you to know that you ARE valid, and you ARE correct, and you ARE loved and appreciated. No matter who tells you you're not 💜💜💜
https://redd.it/omtn5d
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❗CW: Swearing, Aphobia❗
I was just browsing r/actuallylesbian just for the heck of it. When I came across a post asking "Why Are So Many Lesbians Asexual" Now, while I could see how someone could see that and get red flags, I interpreted that as a rather innocent question and just something someone noticed and was curious about.
But the post had a heap of replies already so I looked through them just to see if my input as something who is Aceflux was needed. And all I saw was people just SHITTING on Sex-Favorable Aces left and right. Invalidating them, saying it was impossible, saying they were just trying to get special points off of the fact that they just aren't "visually stimulated".
ANY reply that was saying anything different or trying to explain got downvoted to HELL and I'm just...
Done...
Needless to say I didn't reply with anything. I didn't want to put myself into that situation. As a sex-favorable person 😞
If you personally have ever experienced anything like this then I want you to know that you ARE valid, and you ARE correct, and you ARE loved and appreciated. No matter who tells you you're not 💜💜💜
https://redd.it/omtn5d
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SOOOOOO Many Queer People Still Are Aphobic And I'm SICK OF IT
❗CW: Swearing, Aphobia❗ I was just browsing r/actuallylesbian just for the heck of it. When I came across a post asking "Why Are So Many Lesbians...
Need your help
I want to post on asexual singles but I need 25 comment karma and one it taking forever . I’ve had Reddit a month and don’t really use it too much except looking at Asexual posts
https://redd.it/omuafh
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I want to post on asexual singles but I need 25 comment karma and one it taking forever . I’ve had Reddit a month and don’t really use it too much except looking at Asexual posts
https://redd.it/omuafh
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Need your help
I want to post on asexual singles but I need 25 comment karma and one it taking forever . I’ve had Reddit a month and don’t really use it too much...
I came out to my sister and she accepts me ^^
I came out to her about being a lesbian around a year ago, so while in the car i told her i was asexual but still was romantically a lesbian. I had to explain to her what it was but after that she said she is okay with it. So yay!
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I came out to her about being a lesbian around a year ago, so while in the car i told her i was asexual but still was romantically a lesbian. I had to explain to her what it was but after that she said she is okay with it. So yay!
https://redd.it/omwsne
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I came out to my sister and she accepts me ^^
I came out to her about being a lesbian around a year ago, so while in the car i told her i was asexual but still was romantically a lesbian. I...
I usually wear a Grey hat with my Grey mantle to represent a bit of my aceness. But now the Pikachu hat gave it to me too :3 feeling Ace and colorful today.
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cat stack in asexual flag colours
https://www.reddit.com/gallery/on2vy9
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