Rant about inclusion and acceptance
I'm realising everyday thanks to Ace communities on Reddit how wrong LGB friends and online strangers have been to tell me I'm not part of the LGBTQ+ Community which they told me "is centered around sex and love attraction" because I have none of those (I'm sex repulsed).
Some even said I wasn't part of the LGBTQIA+, but then told me A is for ally. So even if it didn't mean Aro or Ace (I'm both of those), I can't be a part of the Allies. While I completely support them.
...Forgive me this next sentence. I've finally come to the conclusion that these people were saying a lot of bs and I'm not okay with that. I've felt rejected, invalid and broken for. so. long.
If my problems were nothing because I have no need to hide in the darn toilets to kiss my bf/gf (since I have none nor the desire to have one), then why did I have people saying a whole lot of "you're not complete without doing it", a pinch of "Are you normal" and a whole truck ton of "YOU'RE MISSING SOMETHING" ?! And that's not even counting the classics but always there "you're young, you still have the time to change your mind" and the "when it falls on you, you'll see you can't do anything but follow it".
I didn't asked to be pitied in the "poor thing" or "clumsy girl" way, and I certainly didn't asked to be hated or looked like an alien at all! I wanted and needed support!
And maybe, juuuuuust maybe I don't want to change who I am! I didn't decided to be Aroace but I'm finally at a point where I know it's actually alright to be that and love it.
I apologize to everyone reading this. I want to bring positive and happy things and feelings to everyone, but just this once I needed to let that out. It's been bubbling up my whole life and I'll be 3 decades old next year, so it's been quite a while!
So I turned to the only place where I know people would understand me, at least a tinsy bit.
Thank you for being out there, that means a whole lot to me :,)
https://redd.it/oangmr
@asexualityonreddit
I'm realising everyday thanks to Ace communities on Reddit how wrong LGB friends and online strangers have been to tell me I'm not part of the LGBTQ+ Community which they told me "is centered around sex and love attraction" because I have none of those (I'm sex repulsed).
Some even said I wasn't part of the LGBTQIA+, but then told me A is for ally. So even if it didn't mean Aro or Ace (I'm both of those), I can't be a part of the Allies. While I completely support them.
...Forgive me this next sentence. I've finally come to the conclusion that these people were saying a lot of bs and I'm not okay with that. I've felt rejected, invalid and broken for. so. long.
If my problems were nothing because I have no need to hide in the darn toilets to kiss my bf/gf (since I have none nor the desire to have one), then why did I have people saying a whole lot of "you're not complete without doing it", a pinch of "Are you normal" and a whole truck ton of "YOU'RE MISSING SOMETHING" ?! And that's not even counting the classics but always there "you're young, you still have the time to change your mind" and the "when it falls on you, you'll see you can't do anything but follow it".
I didn't asked to be pitied in the "poor thing" or "clumsy girl" way, and I certainly didn't asked to be hated or looked like an alien at all! I wanted and needed support!
And maybe, juuuuuust maybe I don't want to change who I am! I didn't decided to be Aroace but I'm finally at a point where I know it's actually alright to be that and love it.
I apologize to everyone reading this. I want to bring positive and happy things and feelings to everyone, but just this once I needed to let that out. It's been bubbling up my whole life and I'll be 3 decades old next year, so it's been quite a while!
So I turned to the only place where I know people would understand me, at least a tinsy bit.
Thank you for being out there, that means a whole lot to me :,)
https://redd.it/oangmr
@asexualityonreddit
reddit
Rant about inclusion and acceptance
I'm realising everyday thanks to Ace communities on Reddit how wrong LGB friends and online strangers have been to tell me I'm not part of the...
Please note these subs cycle
I am now beginning to see people posting "How come we never hear from sex-repulsed ace?" posts again. So here's an explanation. THE SUB'S CYCLE. Currently, we are in the middle of a sex-favorable curve and as backlash for not representing sex-repulsed aces, we will see a sudden upsurge in posts for sex-repulsed aces. Then sex-favorable aces will feel left out and go back to posting tons of sex-favorable posts. It's not that you aren't seen it's just that we are at a different point in the cycle. It will get back to things you can relate to. Just be aware.
https://redd.it/oam6ro
@asexualityonreddit
I am now beginning to see people posting "How come we never hear from sex-repulsed ace?" posts again. So here's an explanation. THE SUB'S CYCLE. Currently, we are in the middle of a sex-favorable curve and as backlash for not representing sex-repulsed aces, we will see a sudden upsurge in posts for sex-repulsed aces. Then sex-favorable aces will feel left out and go back to posting tons of sex-favorable posts. It's not that you aren't seen it's just that we are at a different point in the cycle. It will get back to things you can relate to. Just be aware.
https://redd.it/oam6ro
@asexualityonreddit
reddit
Please note these subs cycle
I am now beginning to see people posting "How come we never hear from sex-repulsed ace?" posts again. So here's an explanation. THE SUB'S CYCLE....
First post here! I made myself on that picrew website and I’m proud of it!
https://redd.it/oaoot3
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https://redd.it/oaoot3
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Do you guys know other animated TV series that has good asexuality representation?
https://redd.it/oauj06
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https://redd.it/oauj06
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am i asexual?
(i'm a bit unsure if this counts as a discussion thing, but i wanted to ask asexual people since i feel like you guys would be the best to ask this abt)
am i asexual, or at least on the spectrum of asexuality?
i cant picture anyone sexually, and, even if i try, it just feels extremely gross, disgusting and like its not really me.
i guess ive felt sexual attraction before? maybe? its genuinely hard to tell.
ive never really been able to relate to anything sexual wise, a lot of things dont make me really feel anything. im genuinely afraid my indecisiveness and confusion can hinder my further relationships, etc.
am i asexual or just confused?
https://redd.it/oav0fv
@asexualityonreddit
(i'm a bit unsure if this counts as a discussion thing, but i wanted to ask asexual people since i feel like you guys would be the best to ask this abt)
am i asexual, or at least on the spectrum of asexuality?
i cant picture anyone sexually, and, even if i try, it just feels extremely gross, disgusting and like its not really me.
i guess ive felt sexual attraction before? maybe? its genuinely hard to tell.
ive never really been able to relate to anything sexual wise, a lot of things dont make me really feel anything. im genuinely afraid my indecisiveness and confusion can hinder my further relationships, etc.
am i asexual or just confused?
https://redd.it/oav0fv
@asexualityonreddit
reddit
am i asexual?
(i'm a bit unsure if this counts as a discussion thing, but i wanted to ask asexual people since i feel like you guys would be the best to ask...
I’m falling in love with a girl that’s asexual, and I’m not. Can and do asexual relationships with asexual and non-asexual people work?
I’ve been romantically involved with this girl for about a year (but we’ve been friends for a very long time), and about half a year ago I learned that she was asexual (I’m pansexual and definitely sexually attracted to her). For her, this means she basically is repulsed by sex, and I’m pretty sure she implied that she’d never want to have it. It’s really difficult because her and I have something really special. It’s like perfect in every other way besides our obvious difference in sexuality. It’s selfish that I feel this way, and I’m ashamed of it but it hurts to know that she doesn’t feel the same about me sexually. It makes me feel pathetic. And, I know that it’s who she IS and it’s literally not about me at all, but it’s really difficult to convince myself not to feel bad.
ANYWAY, can anyone give me advice on this? Especially if you know of a couple with differing sexual desires. This girl means everything to me, and she always has. I want to change my mindset, and I want to grow with her.
Thank you.
https://redd.it/oax1pg
@asexualityonreddit
I’ve been romantically involved with this girl for about a year (but we’ve been friends for a very long time), and about half a year ago I learned that she was asexual (I’m pansexual and definitely sexually attracted to her). For her, this means she basically is repulsed by sex, and I’m pretty sure she implied that she’d never want to have it. It’s really difficult because her and I have something really special. It’s like perfect in every other way besides our obvious difference in sexuality. It’s selfish that I feel this way, and I’m ashamed of it but it hurts to know that she doesn’t feel the same about me sexually. It makes me feel pathetic. And, I know that it’s who she IS and it’s literally not about me at all, but it’s really difficult to convince myself not to feel bad.
ANYWAY, can anyone give me advice on this? Especially if you know of a couple with differing sexual desires. This girl means everything to me, and she always has. I want to change my mindset, and I want to grow with her.
Thank you.
https://redd.it/oax1pg
@asexualityonreddit
reddit
I’m falling in love with a girl that’s asexual, and I’m not. Can...
I’ve been romantically involved with this girl for about a year (but we’ve been friends for a very long time), and about half a year ago I learned...
People are actually attracred to genitals???
So i just found out that people are actually attracted to genitals??? I thought it was just something they said but werent like that serious about, but its true??? I was fully convinced that doing sexual things to someone else like oral sex was something you just did for them or because youre expected to not because you actually want to lmaooo. Im losing my mind at this lolll
https://redd.it/oaxh72
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So i just found out that people are actually attracted to genitals??? I thought it was just something they said but werent like that serious about, but its true??? I was fully convinced that doing sexual things to someone else like oral sex was something you just did for them or because youre expected to not because you actually want to lmaooo. Im losing my mind at this lolll
https://redd.it/oaxh72
@asexualityonreddit
reddit
People are actually attracred to genitals???
So i just found out that people are actually attracted to genitals??? I thought it was just something they said but werent like that serious...