I havent eaten in like 12 hours and that's what it's like rn
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A great queer coded movie and a terrible pun. Happy pride month!
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I got an ace ring with the LGBT+ flag on the inside!
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This is a rant about the state of the community
Okay, so apparently I'm mask off at like 4 AM because I was mindlessly scrolling reddit and once again kept hitting these horrible comments about asexuality in this fucking forum. Like, this has been something that's been bothering me off and on for the past couple of years.
I'm 28. Yeah, I get it, I'm old compared to a lot of people I'm sure. Fine, whatever, I don't care. In this instance, my age is actually important because I first learned about asexuality and connected with it when I was 18. Also known as when I joined tumblr and fandom in general. Back then, the discussion of asexuality was clear: it's a lack of sexual attraction, that a lot of ace people are sex neutral or indifferent, but you can have a libido and seek out the act. It's just the lack of attraction that's important.
Sure, there were some people that acted like they were special because they were sex repulsed, but they were the minority. It was through asexuality and asexual spaces I was able. to safely begin exploring the concept of sex and not be quite so terrified of it as the baby Baptist closeted queer me was. And so when I started HRT and gained a bit of a libido it wasn't quite so traumatic.
I'm still asexual and generally sex repulsed. My experiences have changed how I view sex but there's still trauma for me to work through before I feel safe with a partner. And yet when I go to seek information online from other aces, or to even just look at memes, I'm overwhelmed by the amount of misinformation and the feeling of "I'm special because I don't like sex uwu" I've seen in various forums.
And I can't help but wonder if this is in part tied to the purity culture rise I've seen in fandom. The gatekeeping and purity policing is so frustrating. I don't know why those same standards I grew up with and finally escaped when I turned 18 is suddenly cropping up everywhere online by kids and adults that claim to be progressive.
I don't know. My anger is gone all at once. I'm just tired y'all. What's happened to the specificity? Why are aces trotting out the lie that "aces don't have sex"? We're hurting people with this misinformation.
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Okay, so apparently I'm mask off at like 4 AM because I was mindlessly scrolling reddit and once again kept hitting these horrible comments about asexuality in this fucking forum. Like, this has been something that's been bothering me off and on for the past couple of years.
I'm 28. Yeah, I get it, I'm old compared to a lot of people I'm sure. Fine, whatever, I don't care. In this instance, my age is actually important because I first learned about asexuality and connected with it when I was 18. Also known as when I joined tumblr and fandom in general. Back then, the discussion of asexuality was clear: it's a lack of sexual attraction, that a lot of ace people are sex neutral or indifferent, but you can have a libido and seek out the act. It's just the lack of attraction that's important.
Sure, there were some people that acted like they were special because they were sex repulsed, but they were the minority. It was through asexuality and asexual spaces I was able. to safely begin exploring the concept of sex and not be quite so terrified of it as the baby Baptist closeted queer me was. And so when I started HRT and gained a bit of a libido it wasn't quite so traumatic.
I'm still asexual and generally sex repulsed. My experiences have changed how I view sex but there's still trauma for me to work through before I feel safe with a partner. And yet when I go to seek information online from other aces, or to even just look at memes, I'm overwhelmed by the amount of misinformation and the feeling of "I'm special because I don't like sex uwu" I've seen in various forums.
And I can't help but wonder if this is in part tied to the purity culture rise I've seen in fandom. The gatekeeping and purity policing is so frustrating. I don't know why those same standards I grew up with and finally escaped when I turned 18 is suddenly cropping up everywhere online by kids and adults that claim to be progressive.
I don't know. My anger is gone all at once. I'm just tired y'all. What's happened to the specificity? Why are aces trotting out the lie that "aces don't have sex"? We're hurting people with this misinformation.
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Okay, so apparently I'm mask off at like 4 AM because I was mindlessly scrolling reddit and once again kept hitting these horrible comments about...
My father's attitude towards my asexuality has drastically changed and he's deliberately making me upset.
I apologize if there are typos or if I don't make sense. I'm typing this at 4:21 AM right after waking up.
My dad and I are rather close, and we normally don't argue, but lately, he's been crossing lines that he knows make me uncomfortable. I will preface this by saying that I didn't have a choice in coming out and he outed me to his girlfriend. Over the past year since I came out, he appeared to be trying to understand. But in the past few weeks, since about my 20th birthday, his attitude changed and he's been saying and doing things that he knows make me uncomfortable. Talking about the "adult" books he's been reading in way too much detail. telling me about the things he and my mother did, etc. He insists that he's a super supportive ally (only because he wears kilts, has long hair, and paints his nails), but then he said that because I am s*x repulsed and I refuse to read adult novels, I'm incapable of feeling romantic love and any relationship I have will ab*sive to my partner. He has made it very clear that he thinks asexuality is something that can be fixed, and he thinks that romantic and sexual attraction are completely linked and you cant have one without the other.
He used to be proud that I didn't become a hormonal mess like my sister(his words not mine), but once it became clear that it wasnt a choice, he keeps pushing me to date someone, trying to play matchmaker with me and my best friend, who is already in a serious relationship, pushing me to read the fifty shades series and other books like them, and trying to make me go into an "adult toy store" as a form of exposure therapy. I tried telling him that my sexuality isnt something you can fix and that it makes me uncomfortable that he acts like it is. I also told him that I am trying to find a partner. He responded by saying that I can't possibly find a loving partner and still be asexual. He uses the fact I want children as a way to say I can't be ace. I tried telling him that I dont have to sleep with someone to have children, I'm not limiting myself to cis men, and I never specified that I wanted biological children. But he wouldn't hear it.
I love my dad, he raised me and my sister alone after our mom passed, but his attitude has been making me feel as broken and hopeless as I felt before I realized I'm ace and when I was being badly physically hurt by my sister. And his attitude has made me hesitant to tell him I'm nonbinary. I don't want to cut him out of my life, or limit our relationship when I can move out, but its getting more and more difficult to be around him when he makes comments like the ones I've mentioned.
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I apologize if there are typos or if I don't make sense. I'm typing this at 4:21 AM right after waking up.
My dad and I are rather close, and we normally don't argue, but lately, he's been crossing lines that he knows make me uncomfortable. I will preface this by saying that I didn't have a choice in coming out and he outed me to his girlfriend. Over the past year since I came out, he appeared to be trying to understand. But in the past few weeks, since about my 20th birthday, his attitude changed and he's been saying and doing things that he knows make me uncomfortable. Talking about the "adult" books he's been reading in way too much detail. telling me about the things he and my mother did, etc. He insists that he's a super supportive ally (only because he wears kilts, has long hair, and paints his nails), but then he said that because I am s*x repulsed and I refuse to read adult novels, I'm incapable of feeling romantic love and any relationship I have will ab*sive to my partner. He has made it very clear that he thinks asexuality is something that can be fixed, and he thinks that romantic and sexual attraction are completely linked and you cant have one without the other.
He used to be proud that I didn't become a hormonal mess like my sister(his words not mine), but once it became clear that it wasnt a choice, he keeps pushing me to date someone, trying to play matchmaker with me and my best friend, who is already in a serious relationship, pushing me to read the fifty shades series and other books like them, and trying to make me go into an "adult toy store" as a form of exposure therapy. I tried telling him that my sexuality isnt something you can fix and that it makes me uncomfortable that he acts like it is. I also told him that I am trying to find a partner. He responded by saying that I can't possibly find a loving partner and still be asexual. He uses the fact I want children as a way to say I can't be ace. I tried telling him that I dont have to sleep with someone to have children, I'm not limiting myself to cis men, and I never specified that I wanted biological children. But he wouldn't hear it.
I love my dad, he raised me and my sister alone after our mom passed, but his attitude has been making me feel as broken and hopeless as I felt before I realized I'm ace and when I was being badly physically hurt by my sister. And his attitude has made me hesitant to tell him I'm nonbinary. I don't want to cut him out of my life, or limit our relationship when I can move out, but its getting more and more difficult to be around him when he makes comments like the ones I've mentioned.
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My father's attitude towards my asexuality has drastically changed...
I apologize if there are typos or if I don't make sense. I'm typing this at 4:21 AM right after waking up. My dad and I are rather close, and we...
me and my friend got our ace rings today !! aaaaaaaa i'm so happy
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