My boyfriend thinks he might be ace
Recently with my boyfriend we were talking about some stuff, and recently he's comming to a conclusion where he thinks he could be asexual or somewhere in that spectrum, as a joke I told him that if he want confident in his own assesment I could try to summon the asexual counsil of Reddit, and he actually liked the idea to maybe read from the lived experiences of others, and since he does not have a Reddit account he asked me to use mine and try to translate (he does not speak English and I don't really like most LGBTQA+ subreddits on our home language as they tend to be weirdly phobic) and so I'll try to point by point give his toughts and hope the counsil can help more than me, the boring allo can
1)He's seldom in the mood for fun time: As he points to It, he rarely wants to do stuff, while he does find me atractive (yay) he rarely feels like doing so, recently he's been a little more interested but as we began dating (6 years now) he struggled a lot to even consider the idea and mellowed to It as he got closer (I'm thinking maybe demisexual)
2) He finds me and other men atractive but does not like to think about himself doing stuff: I tried explaining that one thing its thinking some people are atractive and other Is thinking you can then in your bedroom, I guess due to culture he's struggling with that part
3) He's enjoyed It before: Like I said he does not often want to do something but when he does he enjoys It and so he feels It might invalidate the idea of being asexual, I don't think It does, or at the very least might put him somewhere in the spectrum thats not allo itself, tough I don't really think I have the language to explain It beyond a food alegory, as if he most of the time does not like pie but every now and then a specific slice of pie Is appealing enough to enjoy, it does not negate that he usually does not like pie
Mainly these are his toughts with some of my own toughts about it, I dont try to label him but if he does find any label around this confirting I think at the very least I should try and help him understand what I can.
https://redd.it/1ptfeu1
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Recently with my boyfriend we were talking about some stuff, and recently he's comming to a conclusion where he thinks he could be asexual or somewhere in that spectrum, as a joke I told him that if he want confident in his own assesment I could try to summon the asexual counsil of Reddit, and he actually liked the idea to maybe read from the lived experiences of others, and since he does not have a Reddit account he asked me to use mine and try to translate (he does not speak English and I don't really like most LGBTQA+ subreddits on our home language as they tend to be weirdly phobic) and so I'll try to point by point give his toughts and hope the counsil can help more than me, the boring allo can
1)He's seldom in the mood for fun time: As he points to It, he rarely wants to do stuff, while he does find me atractive (yay) he rarely feels like doing so, recently he's been a little more interested but as we began dating (6 years now) he struggled a lot to even consider the idea and mellowed to It as he got closer (I'm thinking maybe demisexual)
2) He finds me and other men atractive but does not like to think about himself doing stuff: I tried explaining that one thing its thinking some people are atractive and other Is thinking you can then in your bedroom, I guess due to culture he's struggling with that part
3) He's enjoyed It before: Like I said he does not often want to do something but when he does he enjoys It and so he feels It might invalidate the idea of being asexual, I don't think It does, or at the very least might put him somewhere in the spectrum thats not allo itself, tough I don't really think I have the language to explain It beyond a food alegory, as if he most of the time does not like pie but every now and then a specific slice of pie Is appealing enough to enjoy, it does not negate that he usually does not like pie
Mainly these are his toughts with some of my own toughts about it, I dont try to label him but if he does find any label around this confirting I think at the very least I should try and help him understand what I can.
https://redd.it/1ptfeu1
@asexualityonreddit
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