Monochrome fit today. Been leaning into clothes that fit into who I am and would love to hear other unique styles
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Why are some people bothered by asexuality ?

Here’s something I don’t get lol why are some people bothered by asexuality how does me wanting to be single or never do sexual activities bothers you lol like it’s not that serious at all literally it’s my life isn’t my choice to be asexual this is just who I am asexuality isn’t a choice ,no sexuality is a choice actually so people need to worry about bigger things and important things that actually affects there lives because us asexuals don’t affect no one life.

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Oversexualized society via media

Most of you are too young to remember the huge flap in the 70's and 80's around "subliminal advertising." The gist was that images were claimed to be secreted into ads depicting sex to appeal to the subconscious to make a person think "sex" when they saw the product and be manipulated into purchases.

Up until then, in the hokey days of TV and advertising, the over-sexualizing was pretty juvenile and terribly obvious. A shapely woman in a pretty glamorous skimpy dress draped over the hood of a luxury car, is one example. Buy the car, get the (willing) girl.

Then the book "Subliminal Seduction" came out, and the buzz was all about sexualized images being placed in advertising, with the expected denials from the industry. The claim was that drawings of anatomy and things were in ice cubes, wisps of clouds, folds of cloth, et cetera. Simple case of pareidolia? Who knows.

But now

I'm a 68-year-old woman who gets YT and other ads (looking at you, Reddit) CONSTANTLY for ED medications. Hello? Don't have that body part and not with anyone who does. It's either that or the premature ejaculation ads. Straight-up sexualized fashion and other ads. Can't the algo figure out my demographic any closer than that???

Hell, I just recently played a piece ("Palladio" by Ken Jenkins) written in 1995 to celebrate a Renaissance architect, but nobody can now hear without thinking black/white mysterious diamond TV commercials that more than implied two people going to go do the horizontal mambo in the next minute.

So then

I have to wonder if the society in which we live is OVERsexualized and that what is thought to be "normal" is a warped definition of human sexuality in all reality. I think if I put the color blue into enough media consumption, it wouldn't be long before the majority of the population was wearing, painting their walls, designing blue refrigerator/stove combos, and claiming blue as their favorite color. Add the "survival" triggering aspect, as well as the gratuitous pleasure component and it's ARGGGGGHHH!!!

So, so over it.

[scoots soapbox back under desk\]

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This seems accurate for most of us
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Nationalism
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My allo partner wants to have sex

So, my girlfriend, since i said i was assexual, first she doenst believed me that much, but now she believes but still insists on having oral sex and all that stuff, yesterday she tried to "seduce me" to do something just cuz my pen was hard, but i dont even know the cause of that erection, i didnt want anything, we did oral sex to each other and by the end of the act she said it could happen more, and said to me to consider having normal sex with her BUT I DONT WANT TO, first, this month we already had oral sex, second i cant handle the risk of having a kid, I DONT WANT TO HAVE SEX THIS OFTEN, man, if we had the night just watching tiktok or sum i would enjoy SO MUCH MORE. I did enjoy the "mechanic" part of sex, and the end that it, but i dont want to have it, when its happening im like, "ok this is kinda good" but on the start and on the after i feel like someone is talking about some shit that i dont fucking care, i dont want sex that often, maybe sometimes in a 2-4 months span i can handle, but more than this its fucking overwhelming. Someone help me

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Stop it damn it I am just trying to exist
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Songs Recommendations that are Ace coded

Hello! I am creating an ace playlist for myself and am having a hard time finding songs that are ace or at least ace coded. It just seems that most songs are about romance or sex (which are good songs) and I’m looking for something different.

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I wish I was a aroace.

I’m asexual, unfortunately not aromantic. I’m literally a hopeless romantic, constantly daydreaming about it and it’s frustrating.
The realistic chances of me being in a romantic relationship feel close to zero, and not just for me but for many people in this situation.
This realization often makes me wish I were aroace so I wouldn’t have to want something that feels largely inaccessible.

I’m still pretty young and most relationships at this age aren’t very sexual but even participating in them feels pointless. It feels unfair to invest time, mine or someone else’s in something that’s unlikely to work out.

And people often advise me that have good platonic relationships, I do.. I do have very good friends but the need for the other won’t go away by just having good friends, I keep myself busy all the time, studies, hobbies and what not but yet…

Anyone who relates? And would like to share their experience or opinion?

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