I'm Asexual and trying to have a child...

Long story short, I've finally realized that I'm asexual, and I'm working with my partner to have a child. We'd like to have a child naturally if possible. The problem is, I have no interest in sex and therefore can't ejaculate during it. I have no problem masturbating, but sex is an entirely different beast.


We're currently looking up IVF, but that's extremely taxing on her, and therefore, us. Clearly, biologically would be the best option.

Does anyone have any recommendations? All jokes aside, I keep thinking of using a turkey baster, but if that were a legitimate option, why would folks need IVF?

I appreciate your help and advice in advance!



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I don’t want to be asexual

I’ve had sex before. I enjoy masturbating and the concept of sex. But for the past 10 yrs or so, I haven’t had a partner that turns me on. I meet with people, we’re both physically attracted, and it’s like there’s no way for me to get turned on. It’s become problematic in relationships. I consider that maybe I’m demi-sexual. But I’m hitting a point where maybe it’s just asexual and I feel extremely disappointed in myself for being this way. I so badly want to be able to reciprocate the sexual energy, and I hate that I can get in the mood by myself, but not with another. Any advice or perspective is welcomed.

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Was curious to know how other asexuals dress

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The ppl ik want me to date bad

Hi I’m 19f, I think I may be asexual/aromantic. I’ve never been in a relationship and I don’t want one. I’ve tried to talk to guys and I’ve had one ask to kiss me but I said no and I weirdly regret it because then at least I’d know I for sure was asexual if I didn’t like it. Anyway I don’t wanna tell people I’m asexual because I don’t wanna disappoint my friends and family. My mom is constantly telling me I should try to date and that it’s insane how I’ve never dated anyone. My cousin recently got married and she’s my age. And she said “It’s crazy how she’s married and you’re not even close to getting married”. It kinda hurt my feelings because I can tell she’s disappointed in me. And it’s not like I’m trying, as my friends have tried to set me up with people and I always end up not doing it. I’m not sure if it’s anxiety or I genuinely don’t wanna do it. It’s hard for me to like people, I think in highschool it was easier for me to develop a crush but now it’s like I want nothing to do anyone… I find this part of myself so annoying.

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Found one Facebook. It was too good not to share 👏👏👏
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I don't know much about asexuality, but I think I am. I need guidance.

Okay, it's something I've suspected for a while. I don't know how to explain it. It's not that I don't feel pleasure; in fact, I like it. But with myself... (you know). But when I imagine it being with someone else, it disgusts me, and not just disgusts me. I don't feel any kind of emotion or interest when it's with someone else. Something happened recently, and I couldn't...

Is this normal? That I'm fine with myself, but with someone else it's uncomfortable and unpleasant? Could it be considered asexuality? I don't know much about the topic; I understood it to mean having no interest in sex at all. I would really appreciate it if someone could talk to me about it.

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Am I aroace or aroallo

So at first I thought I was aro ace as I hate romance and not that big into sex but them some days I have strong urges of doing sexual activities while having no romance so I must be alloaro. But what puts me off is dating and qpr. I prefer qpr but only if I'm thinking that I'm aroace since I hate romance and not interested in sexual activity like other aro aces because we can't date. But when I do crave sex a qpr won't be fitting and has no point to it so I will have to date instead and I hate dating.

I'm just confused about myself

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I’m so confused

TW// mention of SA


I don’t even know if ace is the right term. I’m still questioning. I just started healing and I found that I have only ever wanted sex for women to like me more. It was never about me or pleasure that much. Now that I realized that, I don’t want anything. I feel zero desire. I have been sexualized since I was 5 and even possibly raped but my memories are blurry. I definitely was hyper sexual from ages 5-13. Looking back, it felt like I used to say sexual things for people to like me. I have never had sex consensually before but I’m glad I realized this before I did.

I dunno if I can be ace when I still have fantasies. I have no desire to do them in real life like I’m 100% fine dying a virgin. I can still feel desire for sex just not when it’s real. I dunno I’m so confused. Has anyone had a similar experience?


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Hmmmmm interesting
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My partner told me she is a heterosexual woman after 20 months, and I’m non-binary and asexual I need help

I’m non-binary and asexual. I’ve been in a relationship for about 20 months.

Throughout this time, I believed my partner was also non-binary. She supported me, agreed with my critiques of gender roles, and joined me in criticizing how rigid gender norms make people’s lives harder. Based on this, I genuinely thought we shared a similar gender perspective.

Recently, she had what she describes as a complete emotional breakdown. She told me that for the past 20 months she feels she has been suppressing herself, and that in reality she sees herself as a woman who is heterosexual and attracted to men. She says her understanding of “love” has always been directed toward men, and that she now doubts whether she ever truly loved me or whether she was forcing herself into an identity and relationship that didn’t align with her.

She says she wants to break down her heteronormative mindset, but outside of those norms she feels like she has no sense of self, no personality, no joy, and this realization is causing daily panic attacks and emotional crises. She feels empty without the framework she grew up with, even though she intellectually criticizes it.

At the same time, I’m struggling deeply. I’m still trying to be understood and accepted for who I am, and now I’m also trying to emotionally support her while she’s in constant distress. I feel overwhelmed, confused, and scared of hurting her further.

The questions she keeps asking and that we both don’t know how to answer are:

Are heteronormative attractions and roles something people are born with, or are they shaped by upbringing and social conditioning?

Regardless of whether they are innate or learned, can these patterns realistically change?

If she doesn’t “change” them, is it even possible for her to genuinely fall in love with someone who is not a man?


I don’t want her to suffer. I don’t want either of us to keep living in crisis mode. But I also don’t want either of us to erase ourselves to make the relationship work.

I’m looking for perspectives from people who’ve experienced identity shifts, late realizations, mixed-orientation relationships, or anything similar. Honest insights are appreciated.

Thank you for reading.

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Questioning if I'm asexual

Hi folks,

This feels a bit embarrassing to come to reddit and share, but here I am.

When I was a teenager, I was very curious about sex and masterbated myself quite a lot, whilst regularly watching videos. Whenever I watch videos and masterbate, I think about having sex with other people, but then as soon as I stop, I get turned off at the thought of having sex.

In your opinion, is this asexual, or would you suggest exploring another sexuality? I just hate the thought of sex with someone, I'm pretty content on my own.

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How do you guys handle the want for non sexual physical touch?

This is kinda an inquiry mixed with rant so just a warning.

Unfortunately physical touch is my main love language but I’m sex repulsed, so it’s very hard to find a partner.

I have severe OCD that causes me to not want to have physical contact with just anyone, hugs, handshakes, high fives, are out of the question for normal people.

But when I like someone I don’t get the same feeling to keep away from them, it takes me a while to like someone because I need to know their habits first to determine if they are cleanly or not.

But once I start liking someone I almost crave to be near them physically.

It’s been about 3 years since I was in my last relationship and I’m starting to fantasize about cuddling, kissing, holding hands, etc. but unlike allosexual people with sexual fantasies who can just look up p*rn, there isn’t much out there to satisfy this feeling for me.

Has anyone else ever felt this way? If so, how did you deal with it?


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That's all I am gonna say
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Pride merch

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Who cares about "ass or t!ts", the real question is collar bones or hands?

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