Am i Asexual?
Hey. i don’t think i fully fall under asexuality, because i think about having sex and i get turned on but i can’t stand having actual sex i’ve tried a lot of different things during intercourse and nothing does it for me i also don’t get off to self pleasure either nor porn. i dont know if my body is just broken. i don’t really know why i’m posting this on r/asexual i just have a feeling i’ll get a good piece of advice or i hope to get pointed in the right direction.
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Hey. i don’t think i fully fall under asexuality, because i think about having sex and i get turned on but i can’t stand having actual sex i’ve tried a lot of different things during intercourse and nothing does it for me i also don’t get off to self pleasure either nor porn. i dont know if my body is just broken. i don’t really know why i’m posting this on r/asexual i just have a feeling i’ll get a good piece of advice or i hope to get pointed in the right direction.
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Aphobic things people have said to me after they found out I was ace.
"I don't get why you need a big fancy word just to say you're a prude." -Guy from school.
"So you're saying you won't let me hit? Like ever?" -Guy from school.
"God, this new generation and the BLTXYZ crap." -Old lady who saw my ace pin while in a grocery line.
"You didn't need the label. Who'd wanna fuck you anyway?" -Girl from school.
"Human beings are sexual creatures by nature. You want to tell me that you're an exception to nature?" -Biology teacher.
"Come on, at least explore a little before making any decisions. I can help." -Guidance counselor. This was just creepy.
I've been out for a year, and these are some of the new ones. I didn't even directly tell some of these people I was ace. Some found out via rumor, and I have it in my insta bio, and they feel the need to comment, including the guidance counselor, who told me this in my dms. Don't worry, he was fired.
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"I don't get why you need a big fancy word just to say you're a prude." -Guy from school.
"So you're saying you won't let me hit? Like ever?" -Guy from school.
"God, this new generation and the BLTXYZ crap." -Old lady who saw my ace pin while in a grocery line.
"You didn't need the label. Who'd wanna fuck you anyway?" -Girl from school.
"Human beings are sexual creatures by nature. You want to tell me that you're an exception to nature?" -Biology teacher.
"Come on, at least explore a little before making any decisions. I can help." -Guidance counselor. This was just creepy.
I've been out for a year, and these are some of the new ones. I didn't even directly tell some of these people I was ace. Some found out via rumor, and I have it in my insta bio, and they feel the need to comment, including the guidance counselor, who told me this in my dms. Don't worry, he was fired.
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A real conversation I’ve had with my very mormon mother
Her: And remember, absolutely no sex before marriage.
Me: Yeah, that wont really be a problem, I have no desire to have sex at all actually.
Her: Oh, that’s not good. We might need to talk to someone about that
Me: But you just said no sex before marriage!
Her: Yes but you shouldn’t not want to have sex!
This went on for the next 40 minutes, is she ok?
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Her: And remember, absolutely no sex before marriage.
Me: Yeah, that wont really be a problem, I have no desire to have sex at all actually.
Her: Oh, that’s not good. We might need to talk to someone about that
Me: But you just said no sex before marriage!
Her: Yes but you shouldn’t not want to have sex!
This went on for the next 40 minutes, is she ok?
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Term for a person without sexuality? black stripe+nonlibidoist+does not enjoy sexual activity
Hello any other people like this here? It's great that the asexual community is so diverse but it's still alienating not finding people like me in the minority of a minority.
The other times people have said to relate to this (complete lack of attraction+libido+enjoyment of sexual activity) they turned out to partially relate to this, which was disappointing as they are different experiences.
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Hello any other people like this here? It's great that the asexual community is so diverse but it's still alienating not finding people like me in the minority of a minority.
The other times people have said to relate to this (complete lack of attraction+libido+enjoyment of sexual activity) they turned out to partially relate to this, which was disappointing as they are different experiences.
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for His Roomate!
while he was drunk with his office mates…. Me sitting alone on his flat just thinking of him and being possessive for his 4th after party while thinking his roomate is too alone and did not go as his gf did not allow and thinking that he must be so kind and loyal… was in the comparison state and randomly someone knocks at my door and asking did you had food??
Uhmmm me in shocked mood I replied, had before coming here,
He stated’ well! Lets cook and have together….
I replied’ great! you start!
Now i am waiting inside the room and thinking whether to join him or not but mind is exactly stating why now!
In a deep thinking process and I stood up, i went to kitchen and he was there cooking some egg sandwich so Well I said ‘ Let me toast the bread and scramble the eggs’
He replied hmmmmm i will too help you after chopping veggies’
There was a silence for a while and toasting of bread was completed
Now comes the preparation, he asked me and there was some giggles and gossips along with the preparation
Now comes the sautéing and yes i burnt myself while lighting the gas… Huhhh go slow he replied
While me screaming Ohhhhhh shit!
Then he told me to just stand while he does…
Uff not kidding he was looking daymmm while cooking,
Suddenly we were now having eye contacts and that drunken eyes were saying a lots of hints!
Huhhhh why not he replied
What if I said
Chuck it he replied
And came closer while grabbing my waist and rubbing hand on my side line and waist in a seductive manner
While me looking into his eyes and questioning is it right?
And waiting for the reply of who cares! Let them enjoy while we make love!
Slowly while looking into his eyes we started rubbing our lips with each other and started kissing deep… removing all frustration and deep tongue engagement…. While he is pampering my Body while touching his smooth hands rubbing all over back and damnnn you know further….
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while he was drunk with his office mates…. Me sitting alone on his flat just thinking of him and being possessive for his 4th after party while thinking his roomate is too alone and did not go as his gf did not allow and thinking that he must be so kind and loyal… was in the comparison state and randomly someone knocks at my door and asking did you had food??
Uhmmm me in shocked mood I replied, had before coming here,
He stated’ well! Lets cook and have together….
I replied’ great! you start!
Now i am waiting inside the room and thinking whether to join him or not but mind is exactly stating why now!
In a deep thinking process and I stood up, i went to kitchen and he was there cooking some egg sandwich so Well I said ‘ Let me toast the bread and scramble the eggs’
He replied hmmmmm i will too help you after chopping veggies’
There was a silence for a while and toasting of bread was completed
Now comes the preparation, he asked me and there was some giggles and gossips along with the preparation
Now comes the sautéing and yes i burnt myself while lighting the gas… Huhhh go slow he replied
While me screaming Ohhhhhh shit!
Then he told me to just stand while he does…
Uff not kidding he was looking daymmm while cooking,
Suddenly we were now having eye contacts and that drunken eyes were saying a lots of hints!
Huhhhh why not he replied
What if I said
Chuck it he replied
And came closer while grabbing my waist and rubbing hand on my side line and waist in a seductive manner
While me looking into his eyes and questioning is it right?
And waiting for the reply of who cares! Let them enjoy while we make love!
Slowly while looking into his eyes we started rubbing our lips with each other and started kissing deep… removing all frustration and deep tongue engagement…. While he is pampering my Body while touching his smooth hands rubbing all over back and damnnn you know further….
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The double standard (Aroace GF vs Non aroace BF)
So I'm an aroace girl who's in a relationship with a non aroace boy the same age as me. We've agreed not to have sex until marriage, and it's for very similar reasons just with different logic behind it for us.
When people hear that we haven't had sex despite being together for a year the double standard with how they respond to me vs my boyfriend is insane.
When my boyfriend says he's not having sex with me, he's praised for being a good Catholic boy who's not giving into temptation and taking responsibility for his actions by not having reckless young adult sex. That he's one of the true good ones for not trying to pressure me into sex (as if this isn't/shouldn't be the bare minimum)
When I say I'm not having sex with my boyfriend and people learn it's partly because I'm aroace I get told I'm a prude who's "withholding affection and needs" from my boyfriend and I'm holding the promise of sex and children above his head to force him into marrying me one day. I've lost count of how many times I've gotten the "your poor boyfriend" comments when I say I don't want to have sex.
I honestly can't tell if this is misogyny or aphobia or somewhere in between. My boyfriend is praised for not having sex with me, but I just get demonized for it. This all comes from peers around our age (17-22) when the topic comes up. Are people really that obsessed with sex?
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So I'm an aroace girl who's in a relationship with a non aroace boy the same age as me. We've agreed not to have sex until marriage, and it's for very similar reasons just with different logic behind it for us.
When people hear that we haven't had sex despite being together for a year the double standard with how they respond to me vs my boyfriend is insane.
When my boyfriend says he's not having sex with me, he's praised for being a good Catholic boy who's not giving into temptation and taking responsibility for his actions by not having reckless young adult sex. That he's one of the true good ones for not trying to pressure me into sex (as if this isn't/shouldn't be the bare minimum)
When I say I'm not having sex with my boyfriend and people learn it's partly because I'm aroace I get told I'm a prude who's "withholding affection and needs" from my boyfriend and I'm holding the promise of sex and children above his head to force him into marrying me one day. I've lost count of how many times I've gotten the "your poor boyfriend" comments when I say I don't want to have sex.
I honestly can't tell if this is misogyny or aphobia or somewhere in between. My boyfriend is praised for not having sex with me, but I just get demonized for it. This all comes from peers around our age (17-22) when the topic comes up. Are people really that obsessed with sex?
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Have you ever shared a bed with a non-family member without any sexual interactions?
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Have you ever shared a bed with a non-family member without any sexual interactions?
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the struggles of asexual masturbating
Jerking off is fun. i dont always have the time or privacy to, so the rare times the conditions are right, it's a nice way to pass the time. Problem is. I'm asexual. like. super asexual. Porn doesn't DO anything for me (its just bodies moving !!! it means nothing !! it really just looks stiff and uncomfortable ! ) , I don't have any kinks or fetishes, I can't imagine MYSELF having sex (grosses me out), audios are BAD (no offense), art or animation is barely any different from real life porn. Literature or Fanfiction is like a 50/50. I find the description of emotions and feelings and senses to be much more immersive and it's just vague enough that it doesn't play like a real porno in my mind but then, sometimes they get corny or over the top So fast,, Or they are just TOO vague so it's barely personal and it's like cool, im reading, like, words on a page but its not turning me on, so what now. and then even if I read something that works it only works that ONE TIME.
It's like what am i supposed to DO dawg. I'm bound to reading but i dont care for the body parts youre describing as Girthy or Plump i dont CAREEE I DONT LIKE SEX ORGANS... i dont know what exactly i like and iT SUCKS cant a girl just jack off ever once in a while without going through this process.. the impossible task... does anyone relate to this, does anyone have any cheat codes for this any buggg fixes T.T
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Jerking off is fun. i dont always have the time or privacy to, so the rare times the conditions are right, it's a nice way to pass the time. Problem is. I'm asexual. like. super asexual. Porn doesn't DO anything for me (its just bodies moving !!! it means nothing !! it really just looks stiff and uncomfortable ! ) , I don't have any kinks or fetishes, I can't imagine MYSELF having sex (grosses me out), audios are BAD (no offense), art or animation is barely any different from real life porn. Literature or Fanfiction is like a 50/50. I find the description of emotions and feelings and senses to be much more immersive and it's just vague enough that it doesn't play like a real porno in my mind but then, sometimes they get corny or over the top So fast,, Or they are just TOO vague so it's barely personal and it's like cool, im reading, like, words on a page but its not turning me on, so what now. and then even if I read something that works it only works that ONE TIME.
It's like what am i supposed to DO dawg. I'm bound to reading but i dont care for the body parts youre describing as Girthy or Plump i dont CAREEE I DONT LIKE SEX ORGANS... i dont know what exactly i like and iT SUCKS cant a girl just jack off ever once in a while without going through this process.. the impossible task... does anyone relate to this, does anyone have any cheat codes for this any buggg fixes T.T
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Need advice
Hi. I have been living away from my transphobic and asexual phobic parents for about 3 years. Only problem is both of them have legal guardianship over my person and my estate, due to the fact that I am disabled. They are both abusive as well in every way but sexual. Last year, I almost got my mom out in jail for assaulting me. However, her, my dad, and my extended family would not stop pressuring me to drop the case, and eventually I did , as the peer pressure was too much for me. However, I personally would have preferred that she went to jail. What should I do? I don’t have the money to pay for a lawyer to challenge the guardianship. Also I have decided that my brother will be the only person in my entire family that I will keep in my life as he has been the only person who has been able to see things from both sides. The rest of my family refuses to believe me, even when I have been vulnerable with them. I am asexual and omniromantic if it helps. Also how should I go about finding a new chosen family?
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Hi. I have been living away from my transphobic and asexual phobic parents for about 3 years. Only problem is both of them have legal guardianship over my person and my estate, due to the fact that I am disabled. They are both abusive as well in every way but sexual. Last year, I almost got my mom out in jail for assaulting me. However, her, my dad, and my extended family would not stop pressuring me to drop the case, and eventually I did , as the peer pressure was too much for me. However, I personally would have preferred that she went to jail. What should I do? I don’t have the money to pay for a lawyer to challenge the guardianship. Also I have decided that my brother will be the only person in my entire family that I will keep in my life as he has been the only person who has been able to see things from both sides. The rest of my family refuses to believe me, even when I have been vulnerable with them. I am asexual and omniromantic if it helps. Also how should I go about finding a new chosen family?
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