I came out to my friends
When I came out they all went pretty much in unison ‘but you read smut’. I tried to explain to them that asexuality is just a lack of sexual attraction but they weren’t having it and they didn’t understand. What should I do?
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When I came out they all went pretty much in unison ‘but you read smut’. I tried to explain to them that asexuality is just a lack of sexual attraction but they weren’t having it and they didn’t understand. What should I do?
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Can I be asexual and have a fetish?
I've never had sexual desires, sex drive, etc. never found humping to be arousing or exciting, and I've viewed sex as odd and not anywhere close to what 'love' should look like.
I was born (or at least had since a very young age) an attraction to something alternative (not comfortable with saying currently, considering I'd get backlash) and kinda had it as my "sex"- like I was attracted to it as an ordinary person would be attracted to sex, but only as a different thing. Do I still count as asexual if I frequently masterbate to it and find it attractive?
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I've never had sexual desires, sex drive, etc. never found humping to be arousing or exciting, and I've viewed sex as odd and not anywhere close to what 'love' should look like.
I was born (or at least had since a very young age) an attraction to something alternative (not comfortable with saying currently, considering I'd get backlash) and kinda had it as my "sex"- like I was attracted to it as an ordinary person would be attracted to sex, but only as a different thing. Do I still count as asexual if I frequently masterbate to it and find it attractive?
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Ace Erasure in Therapy Community
Just feeling really sad and need somewhere to vent about this. I’m an ace therapist and one of my favorite accounts to follow from a fellow couples therapist has been making some posts lately that could really benefit from a non compulsory sexuality viewpoint and some ace friendly nuance. I made a respectful comment on her Instagram post and was met with hostility from her followers. I tried to engage thoughtfully but gave up.
Then tonight she made another post and I went to the comments where someone made fun of my viewpoint and the therapist agreed with them. So now I’ve unfollowed her but it just makes me really sad that none of these people are willing to try to see things differently. Sigh.
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Just feeling really sad and need somewhere to vent about this. I’m an ace therapist and one of my favorite accounts to follow from a fellow couples therapist has been making some posts lately that could really benefit from a non compulsory sexuality viewpoint and some ace friendly nuance. I made a respectful comment on her Instagram post and was met with hostility from her followers. I tried to engage thoughtfully but gave up.
Then tonight she made another post and I went to the comments where someone made fun of my viewpoint and the therapist agreed with them. So now I’ve unfollowed her but it just makes me really sad that none of these people are willing to try to see things differently. Sigh.
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Any opinions around naked cuddling?
Well for me, i am pretty indifferent to it.
Idc abt nudity, i think bodies can be something beautiful/admiring without it being sexual. Like a art peace or just admirace of the aesthetic. I don’t see naked people as something that turns me on because i see a lot of videos relating to art/drawings and they do show nudity. And it made me see nudity as a form of art and aesthetic beauty.
So naked something that i am not so bothered as long as i am comfortable and as long as the pants are still on ( genitals creep me out )
I am ok if it is topless. I can enjoy skin to skin contacts and admire bodies aesthetically but as long as the pants are still on since the bottom parts freak me out IN MY OPINION
I still prefer cuddling with clothes on since it is comfy. But i am ok with naked cuddling ( again…as long as it is with pants on )
Sooo yep. And i want to know how you guys feel about it?
Is it ok for you? Do you like it? Do you not care or do you not like it at all?
( it is ok to not asnwered. It is mostly asked to ppl who want to asnwer it )
I am curious on what you opinions are ( if that’s ok )
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Well for me, i am pretty indifferent to it.
Idc abt nudity, i think bodies can be something beautiful/admiring without it being sexual. Like a art peace or just admirace of the aesthetic. I don’t see naked people as something that turns me on because i see a lot of videos relating to art/drawings and they do show nudity. And it made me see nudity as a form of art and aesthetic beauty.
So naked something that i am not so bothered as long as i am comfortable and as long as the pants are still on ( genitals creep me out )
I am ok if it is topless. I can enjoy skin to skin contacts and admire bodies aesthetically but as long as the pants are still on since the bottom parts freak me out IN MY OPINION
I still prefer cuddling with clothes on since it is comfy. But i am ok with naked cuddling ( again…as long as it is with pants on )
Sooo yep. And i want to know how you guys feel about it?
Is it ok for you? Do you like it? Do you not care or do you not like it at all?
( it is ok to not asnwered. It is mostly asked to ppl who want to asnwer it )
I am curious on what you opinions are ( if that’s ok )
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The flag colours
Please explain to me, why does it have four colours for the flag? Like, I genuinely want to know the reason as to why.
Also, I’m graysexual, and would also like a reason for the colours of that flag but I weirdly think that that’s more self explanatory than the asexual flag.
But also, 4 colours for the asexual flag??? What other pride flags have 4 coloured lines, I’m genuinely curious and confused. Curifused.
I am confusion. How is this pretend I’m pointing at the asexual flag 4 colours but this pointing at graysexual flag is not 4 colours. Asexuals explain.
If you get the reference… has some garlic bread idk.
Oh god now I’m hungry.
I need some garlic bread and some gateau in no particular order. And sleep but after the garlic bread and gateau.
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Please explain to me, why does it have four colours for the flag? Like, I genuinely want to know the reason as to why.
Also, I’m graysexual, and would also like a reason for the colours of that flag but I weirdly think that that’s more self explanatory than the asexual flag.
But also, 4 colours for the asexual flag??? What other pride flags have 4 coloured lines, I’m genuinely curious and confused. Curifused.
I am confusion. How is this pretend I’m pointing at the asexual flag 4 colours but this pointing at graysexual flag is not 4 colours. Asexuals explain.
If you get the reference… has some garlic bread idk.
Oh god now I’m hungry.
I need some garlic bread and some gateau in no particular order. And sleep but after the garlic bread and gateau.
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Any opinions around naked cuddling?
Well for me, i am pretty indifferent to it.
Idc abt nudity, i think bodies can be something beautiful/admiring without it being sexual. Like a art peace or just admirace of the aesthetic. I don’t see naked people as something that turns me on because i see a lot of videos relating to art/drawings and they do show nudity. And it made me see nudity as a form of art and aesthetic beauty.
So naked something that i am not so bothered as long as i am comfortable and as long as the pants are still on ( genitals creep me out )
I am ok if it is topless. I can enjoy skin to skin contacts and admire bodies aesthetically but as long as the pants are still on since the bottom parts freak me out IN MY OPINION
I still prefer cuddling with clothes on since it is comfy. But i am ok with naked cuddling ( again…as long as it is with pants on )
Sooo yep. And i want to know how you guys feel about it?
Is it ok for you? Do you like it? Do you not care or do you not like it at all?
( it is ok to not asnwered. It is mostly asked to ppl who want to asnwer it )
I am curious on what you opinions are ( if that’s ok )
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Well for me, i am pretty indifferent to it.
Idc abt nudity, i think bodies can be something beautiful/admiring without it being sexual. Like a art peace or just admirace of the aesthetic. I don’t see naked people as something that turns me on because i see a lot of videos relating to art/drawings and they do show nudity. And it made me see nudity as a form of art and aesthetic beauty.
So naked something that i am not so bothered as long as i am comfortable and as long as the pants are still on ( genitals creep me out )
I am ok if it is topless. I can enjoy skin to skin contacts and admire bodies aesthetically but as long as the pants are still on since the bottom parts freak me out IN MY OPINION
I still prefer cuddling with clothes on since it is comfy. But i am ok with naked cuddling ( again…as long as it is with pants on )
Sooo yep. And i want to know how you guys feel about it?
Is it ok for you? Do you like it? Do you not care or do you not like it at all?
( it is ok to not asnwered. It is mostly asked to ppl who want to asnwer it )
I am curious on what you opinions are ( if that’s ok )
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I don’t get the appeal of sex
If I never learned about sex, I would never think of it to be a thing.
Like truly I don’t see the appeal or what’s so special about it. I don’t wanna be touched or felt in that way.
It feels unnatural and wrong.
Does anyone else feel this way
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If I never learned about sex, I would never think of it to be a thing.
Like truly I don’t see the appeal or what’s so special about it. I don’t wanna be touched or felt in that way.
It feels unnatural and wrong.
Does anyone else feel this way
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Okay so if you're grossed out by wording some books uses to describe a lingering kiss, don't click.
Ok so, I'm asexual, demi-panromantic for full explanation. Very very sex repulsed. I listen to audiobooks of all sorts (I have severe ADHD and have to activate my brain while working) all the time and frequently they have very er... Descriptive "sex and other types of... Showing affection?" All gross me out.
But that also leaves me very ignorant about what goes on in books and whether it's at all realistic. So when they say "he claimed my mouth with his tongue" ... Please tell me that doesn't actually happen in RL? I have to skip forward as it is (luckily most books tend to have the most descriptive sex stuff toward the end of a chapter so I can just skip to the next chapter) but I've heard of (what it was called when I was in high school anyway which was a very long time ago) "French kissing" involving tongues and mouths but like... Is this actually a thing? Blegh. I'm 37m and have zero experience in sexuality/sensuality so please ignore my ignorance. I literally have no one I can ask and the only reason I'm asking here is because it's more or less anonymous 😂
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Ok so, I'm asexual, demi-panromantic for full explanation. Very very sex repulsed. I listen to audiobooks of all sorts (I have severe ADHD and have to activate my brain while working) all the time and frequently they have very er... Descriptive "sex and other types of... Showing affection?" All gross me out.
But that also leaves me very ignorant about what goes on in books and whether it's at all realistic. So when they say "he claimed my mouth with his tongue" ... Please tell me that doesn't actually happen in RL? I have to skip forward as it is (luckily most books tend to have the most descriptive sex stuff toward the end of a chapter so I can just skip to the next chapter) but I've heard of (what it was called when I was in high school anyway which was a very long time ago) "French kissing" involving tongues and mouths but like... Is this actually a thing? Blegh. I'm 37m and have zero experience in sexuality/sensuality so please ignore my ignorance. I literally have no one I can ask and the only reason I'm asking here is because it's more or less anonymous 😂
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How do you explain asexuality to family members who don't understand it?
Lately I’ve been thinking a lot about what it’s like to experience asexuality when even the idea of sex feels uncomfortable. Not just “not interested,” but genuinely uneasy mentally or physically when the topic comes up. And honestly, it can be confusing when the world treats sexual attraction like the default setting for being human.
It’s weird trying to explain that you can care about someone deeply, want connection, love, closeness just not the sexual part and that it doesn’t mean something is wrong or missing. Sometimes the hardest part isn’t the feeling itself, but the pressure: “you’ll change,” “just wait,” “you just haven’t met the right person.”
So I’m curious for anyone who’s been through this. How do you deal with discomfort around sex in conversations, relationships, or even just socially? What helped you accept your feelings instead of questioning them?
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Lately I’ve been thinking a lot about what it’s like to experience asexuality when even the idea of sex feels uncomfortable. Not just “not interested,” but genuinely uneasy mentally or physically when the topic comes up. And honestly, it can be confusing when the world treats sexual attraction like the default setting for being human.
It’s weird trying to explain that you can care about someone deeply, want connection, love, closeness just not the sexual part and that it doesn’t mean something is wrong or missing. Sometimes the hardest part isn’t the feeling itself, but the pressure: “you’ll change,” “just wait,” “you just haven’t met the right person.”
So I’m curious for anyone who’s been through this. How do you deal with discomfort around sex in conversations, relationships, or even just socially? What helped you accept your feelings instead of questioning them?
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