A part of me wishes that I won’t have to explain myself
I’m sex-favourable and I sort of wish I didn’t have to anticipate saying the following “but I can have sex!” that inevitably comes after it.
Like for example on Hinge, my sexuality is set to asexual, and I use one of the prompts to iterate the “well actually, we can still do it, yes!” as a quick clarification.
It feels frustrating. It definitely plays a role in why I’ve never really brought up my sexuality directly with someone. If my closer relationships proceed to ask good faith questions to get to know me more, I don’t think I would mind it, but otherwise I hate that the burden of education could fall on me.
I also anticipate that discussing my favourability for sex will feel incredibly personal and again, why do I need to adjust my boundaries in the name of education?
And this definitely lowkey applies if you’re sex-repulsed (not that I can speak for sex-repulsed aces, I can only imagine) but the constant invalidation and having to explain yourself must be fucking exhausting.
I’m not here to shit on labels or say that educating people about asexuality and its nuances is ultimately bad but sometimes I feel like it would be a lot easier I simply didn’t have to explain myself because people don’t know any better.
Like I said, I don’t often discuss my sexuality with people I know so I don’t know if this is an experience I’m merely projecting for myself, but I want to know other people’s thoughts?
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I’m sex-favourable and I sort of wish I didn’t have to anticipate saying the following “but I can have sex!” that inevitably comes after it.
Like for example on Hinge, my sexuality is set to asexual, and I use one of the prompts to iterate the “well actually, we can still do it, yes!” as a quick clarification.
It feels frustrating. It definitely plays a role in why I’ve never really brought up my sexuality directly with someone. If my closer relationships proceed to ask good faith questions to get to know me more, I don’t think I would mind it, but otherwise I hate that the burden of education could fall on me.
I also anticipate that discussing my favourability for sex will feel incredibly personal and again, why do I need to adjust my boundaries in the name of education?
And this definitely lowkey applies if you’re sex-repulsed (not that I can speak for sex-repulsed aces, I can only imagine) but the constant invalidation and having to explain yourself must be fucking exhausting.
I’m not here to shit on labels or say that educating people about asexuality and its nuances is ultimately bad but sometimes I feel like it would be a lot easier I simply didn’t have to explain myself because people don’t know any better.
Like I said, I don’t often discuss my sexuality with people I know so I don’t know if this is an experience I’m merely projecting for myself, but I want to know other people’s thoughts?
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What is the diference betwen realy wanting to be friends and hafing a crush?
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What is the diference betwen realy wanting to be friends and hafing a crush?
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Really tired of my parents thinking me being sex repulsed is "teenage embarrasment"
I am not out to anyone yet, so my parents think I have just not reached that phase in life yet where I am ready for this kind of topic (i am almost 17, I do have time but most people my age are already past that), but it's really annoying that every time I get disgusted in romance / sex scenes in movies it gets passed off as being immature or too young mentally. Are people not allowed to be uncomfortable with some topics, regardless of age? I don't get it
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I am not out to anyone yet, so my parents think I have just not reached that phase in life yet where I am ready for this kind of topic (i am almost 17, I do have time but most people my age are already past that), but it's really annoying that every time I get disgusted in romance / sex scenes in movies it gets passed off as being immature or too young mentally. Are people not allowed to be uncomfortable with some topics, regardless of age? I don't get it
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