Asexuality

I recently discovered that I'm asexual, I'm in panick what should I do?

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Asexuality

I recently discovered that I'm asexual, I'm in panick what should I do?

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UPDATE: How would you feel about an Allo, seeking out asexual partners?

Soooo... I think I'm just asexual lol.

Some of you may remember the post I made a few weeks ago. About being allo (or at least so I thought), but not wanting sex for personal reasons. I didn't word things very well (my bad), and some people assumed the worst (understandable). But after reading the responses and having some time to think, I've realised that I'm actually just asexual lol.

So, I'm trans, and whenever my T dose changes, so does my sexuality. Pre-T I was 100% sex-repulsed asexual, then I started T which gave me a libido and made me straight. Then the dose was increased and suddenly I was gay, and then again and I was bi. But for the most recent (and final) dose adjustment, like before, I could feel something changing around the right time, I felt something different. But this time, I didn't know what had changed, I didn't notice anything different.

But after reading all the comments on my last post, I've realised that I can't actually remember the last time I experienced sexual attraction, not since the last increase. Thinking about sex in a hypothetical way is still fine, but unlike before, when it comes to an actual person with a real identity, that becomes very distressing.

I don't think I noticed the shift, because nothing actually functionally changed for me. My fantasies just shifted from involving real people, to the vague concept of it. And I never actually had to confront the fact that I am no longer comfortable with the idea of having sex because I was never sexually active anyway.

So yeah lol, turns out I'm just just asexual again, or more specifically aegosexual now.



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A part of me wishes that I won’t have to explain myself

I’m sex-favourable and I sort of wish I didn’t have to anticipate saying the following “but I can have sex!” that inevitably comes after it.

Like for example on Hinge, my sexuality is set to asexual, and I use one of the prompts to iterate the “well actually, we can still do it, yes!” as a quick clarification.

It feels frustrating. It definitely plays a role in why I’ve never really brought up my sexuality directly with someone. If my closer relationships proceed to ask good faith questions to get to know me more, I don’t think I would mind it, but otherwise I hate that the burden of education could fall on me.

I also anticipate that discussing my favourability for sex will feel incredibly personal and again, why do I need to adjust my boundaries in the name of education?

And this definitely lowkey applies if you’re sex-repulsed (not that I can speak for sex-repulsed aces, I can only imagine) but the constant invalidation and having to explain yourself must be fucking exhausting.

I’m not here to shit on labels or say that educating people about asexuality and its nuances is ultimately bad but sometimes I feel like it would be a lot easier I simply didn’t have to explain myself because people don’t know any better.

Like I said, I don’t often discuss my sexuality with people I know so I don’t know if this is an experience I’m merely projecting for myself, but I want to know other people’s thoughts?

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What is love

What is the diference betwen realy wanting to be friends and hafing a crush?

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Really tired of my parents thinking me being sex repulsed is "teenage embarrasment"

I am not out to anyone yet, so my parents think I have just not reached that phase in life yet where I am ready for this kind of topic (i am almost 17, I do have time but most people my age are already past that), but it's really annoying that every time I get disgusted in romance / sex scenes in movies it gets passed off as being immature or too young mentally. Are people not allowed to be uncomfortable with some topics, regardless of age? I don't get it

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