Leaving This Sub
I can't tolerate seeing all the posts about sex. Sometimes, they can be very graphic too. Or, very explicit images posted, with no spoilers.
Even with spoilers, it sucks.
I also am tired of the constant, "Can ace and non ace people be in a relationship?"
Or, "Help, my Ace partner won't have sex!"
"My non-ace partner wants me to have sex"
What did you think would happen, in that situation? Seriously?
I just can't keep seeing this on my feed. I have to leave this sub.
If there is a more logical, SFW, sex-repulsed-aces-only sub on here, please let me know. I would love to join!
Goodbye, and take care, everyone. ✌️
https://redd.it/1p433eh
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I can't tolerate seeing all the posts about sex. Sometimes, they can be very graphic too. Or, very explicit images posted, with no spoilers.
Even with spoilers, it sucks.
I also am tired of the constant, "Can ace and non ace people be in a relationship?"
Or, "Help, my Ace partner won't have sex!"
"My non-ace partner wants me to have sex"
What did you think would happen, in that situation? Seriously?
I just can't keep seeing this on my feed. I have to leave this sub.
If there is a more logical, SFW, sex-repulsed-aces-only sub on here, please let me know. I would love to join!
Goodbye, and take care, everyone. ✌️
https://redd.it/1p433eh
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Am I asexual?
The long and short of it - I’m a 28 year old dude. Previously I’ve had no issue being attracted to women. Been with numerous, had a couple “serious” relationships. However, over the past year my drive has dropped to absolutely 0. I don’t understand why. I’m not attracted to anyone - women, men, anyone in between. It’s been a year since I last had sex and honestly I wouldn’t be upset if it continued this way for the rest of my life. I’m having a really hard time understanding what’s changed and why. Has anyone else had a similar experience? I’d love to chat.
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The long and short of it - I’m a 28 year old dude. Previously I’ve had no issue being attracted to women. Been with numerous, had a couple “serious” relationships. However, over the past year my drive has dropped to absolutely 0. I don’t understand why. I’m not attracted to anyone - women, men, anyone in between. It’s been a year since I last had sex and honestly I wouldn’t be upset if it continued this way for the rest of my life. I’m having a really hard time understanding what’s changed and why. Has anyone else had a similar experience? I’d love to chat.
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Sexism towards Aces, let's discuss; Ace men are impotent incels and women "just haven't found the right guy yet"/"need a dick" to fix them, or are sad cat ladies
I was typing up a post about being told how I "just hadn't met the right guy yet" but after thinking about it, if I were a man having this convo, he would have phrased it differently, and thought VERY differently of a man who admits to never wanting to have sex.
I'm often treated like a lesbian by a bigot, in that I just need the right guy, or like some sad sack who "gave up on love" and thinks they'll never get a boyfriend because they think they are fat and ugly.
While men must be scared shitless to admit they are Ace. It's called "Toxic masculinity" for a reason.
Same with virginity or celibacy.
For women it's a virtue or a tragic waste.
For men it's because they aren't "real men."
It's soo sad, there's different cons to being ace depending on gender, and it's still sad.
Out of the last 4 times I explained being an Ace to people, only once did someone overhearing popup and provide backup, and that was a lucky treat. Not once did the other person not question me several times. While if I were a man, some guy overhearing would have likely cracked a joke.
I already know what many fem-presently and woman aces go through, but I'd like to learn more about the male perspective on this topic.
How do you explain it? What are the common responses?
Do you even try to explain? or do you just fake it and hide yourself irl?
https://redd.it/1p45mqs
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I was typing up a post about being told how I "just hadn't met the right guy yet" but after thinking about it, if I were a man having this convo, he would have phrased it differently, and thought VERY differently of a man who admits to never wanting to have sex.
I'm often treated like a lesbian by a bigot, in that I just need the right guy, or like some sad sack who "gave up on love" and thinks they'll never get a boyfriend because they think they are fat and ugly.
While men must be scared shitless to admit they are Ace. It's called "Toxic masculinity" for a reason.
Same with virginity or celibacy.
For women it's a virtue or a tragic waste.
For men it's because they aren't "real men."
It's soo sad, there's different cons to being ace depending on gender, and it's still sad.
Out of the last 4 times I explained being an Ace to people, only once did someone overhearing popup and provide backup, and that was a lucky treat. Not once did the other person not question me several times. While if I were a man, some guy overhearing would have likely cracked a joke.
I already know what many fem-presently and woman aces go through, but I'd like to learn more about the male perspective on this topic.
How do you explain it? What are the common responses?
Do you even try to explain? or do you just fake it and hide yourself irl?
https://redd.it/1p45mqs
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My Mom Accepted Me After Many Years
I was at a comedy club with my mom last night and we were talking and getting drinks before the show. My mom is pretty much my only family and we’re incredibly close since my dad was hardly in the picture, but due to her lifestyle (she loves dating and the culture behind it) she never understood that I was asexual (she didn’t even believe it was a thing until a couple years ago).
And tonight we were talking about the raunchy jokes we heard last time we were there and I mentioned how I don’t want a relationship, and I expected her to say her usual “you’ll come around”
But instead she said “You just don’t see a real reason”
and she mentioned that I was like the white dragon from Dragon Riders of Pern. And how in that series when the riders enter a relationship, the dragons do too.
But this one dragon, Ruth, didn’t do that and when questioned he said “why would I want to?” And became friends with the other dragon instead.
And she looked me in the eyes after explaining that and was like “that’s you, isn’t it? You don’t need any of that, you don’t feel that towards other people and that’s ok”
And I started crying because she finally understood.
I’m going to start reading Dragons of Pern now
https://redd.it/1p4ce4v
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I was at a comedy club with my mom last night and we were talking and getting drinks before the show. My mom is pretty much my only family and we’re incredibly close since my dad was hardly in the picture, but due to her lifestyle (she loves dating and the culture behind it) she never understood that I was asexual (she didn’t even believe it was a thing until a couple years ago).
And tonight we were talking about the raunchy jokes we heard last time we were there and I mentioned how I don’t want a relationship, and I expected her to say her usual “you’ll come around”
But instead she said “You just don’t see a real reason”
and she mentioned that I was like the white dragon from Dragon Riders of Pern. And how in that series when the riders enter a relationship, the dragons do too.
But this one dragon, Ruth, didn’t do that and when questioned he said “why would I want to?” And became friends with the other dragon instead.
And she looked me in the eyes after explaining that and was like “that’s you, isn’t it? You don’t need any of that, you don’t feel that towards other people and that’s ok”
And I started crying because she finally understood.
I’m going to start reading Dragons of Pern now
https://redd.it/1p4ce4v
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Does any other guy take pride in not being attracted to anyone? Especially women?
My straight guy friends and many guys seem to spend a lot of their money, and try to impress women.
It’s also because women seem to be put on a pedestal more. I often get told by male relatives and other guys how I should “learn to talk to women” and criticize me on certain behaviors and hobbies because it’s not considered attractive to women.
I’m into anime and video games and people tell me women will find it cringe and unattractive.
Also a lot of women seem to just… have big egos. I’ve tried being nice to women and a lot of them thought I was flirting with them or something. I’ve had women bring up boyfriends randomly in a conversation or something.
https://redd.it/1p4gnla
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My straight guy friends and many guys seem to spend a lot of their money, and try to impress women.
It’s also because women seem to be put on a pedestal more. I often get told by male relatives and other guys how I should “learn to talk to women” and criticize me on certain behaviors and hobbies because it’s not considered attractive to women.
I’m into anime and video games and people tell me women will find it cringe and unattractive.
Also a lot of women seem to just… have big egos. I’ve tried being nice to women and a lot of them thought I was flirting with them or something. I’ve had women bring up boyfriends randomly in a conversation or something.
https://redd.it/1p4gnla
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