I love the asexual community

I love you guys. You make me feel okay. I get so excited when I find out someone is also asexual. I feel like theres an understanding that I can have with you guys that I can’t with allos… that’s nothing against allos, I just think that I feel a camaraderie with a fellow ace in a certain way. And that feeling is something that really brings me joy. Thank you all.

Sorry if this is weird.. Im feeling heartfelt

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What do you think about kissing?
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What's the closest, most intimate term you're willing to call someone without leaning towards the "twin flame" or "soulmate" category?



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How do you feel about the daily “is my partner ace?” posts?

Interested in what other people’s take on this is. It’s not one or two posts, it’s all the time!

I think people ask with the best intentions, but it comes from a place of entitlement and allo privilege. I don’t think we need to hear how miserable a fellow ace is making their partner by not putting out. Our community really lacks in pride, and stuff like this just contributes to that. Also hate that there are asexuals who feel they have to partake in sexual activity just to keep their partner happy. I have so much love and empathy for our community, this should be a safe space. Kinda feels like a bit of an invasion.

What’s your take?

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Mhm would you use this?
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Guess what I found! A perfect recipe for garlic bread
https://youtu.be/I0YD30ZUjnI?si=j22ZUza5sSMhyNZg

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There are allosauruses, but where are asauruses? This is ace erasure!
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Saw this on IG yesterday. 1000% agree.
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Finding safer community

Maybe it's just me but as non-materialistic queer/ asexual neurodivergent person I constantly feel like I'm attracting same type of people who "get off" on trying to see me poor or mentally vulnerable to
"break me"

Since I essentially don't want all the things a normal person should want, sometimes I feel off-put by the peer pressure to do things. Any tips on how to handle these misaligned situations??

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asexuality and Joan of Arc (my reflection)
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I am doing great today! ( sexuality OCD vent sorry if it is a long post)
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Peferctly Put 😙🤌
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Peferctly Put 😙🤌(Wasn't sure what flair to use)
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What asexual dating platforms are out there?

Just curious if there's anything else besides acespace

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Is asexuality part of the queer community?

So I (23f) am bisexual and definitely on the asexuality spectrum, and think of myself as queer. The issue is that I don’t want to say that I am if being asexual is not included in the queer terminology. Anyway idk if that made sense lol and any advice would be greatly appreciated!



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Confused if I am ace or not

Hi, I(25F) am trying to understand where I fall on the sexual orientation spectrum, and I’m confused about whether I might be asexual or trauma-averse to sex. I’ve never felt sexual attraction to anyone, even though I can recognize when someone is attractive like seeing a painting, I mean I get the techniques and strokes but I don't want to disrupt with the painting. I’ve only felt romantic attraction toward men. I enjoy the idea of cuddling, hand-holding, cheek kisses, and emotional closeness, but sexual activity, being naked with someone, or even lip-kissing makes me uncomfortable or nauseous. I have libido during ovulation, but it feels purely physical like being hungry or thirsty. Also, I have a history of sexual abuse (a female relative in childhood for 7 years and assault by a guy when I was 23), so I’m trying to untangle that too. When I told my close friend I might be ace, she said not to label myself because “sexual attraction will come naturally in a serious relationship,” which only confused me more. I want companionship and a long-term partner, but I don’t know where I fit or how to label this. And I feel like getting into a relationship just to see if I am ace or not seems highly unfair to my future partner.

I cannot stop thinking about this and I am highly confused. I live in a pretty conservative place so talking about this openly isn't a viable option. This is kind of gnawing me from inside out so some feedback or advice would be highly appreciated, please.

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'Asexuality isn’t about a lack of intimacy, it’s about redefining it'
https://www.gaytimes.com/community/asexuality-isnt-about-a-lack-of-intimacy-its-about-redefining-it/

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Fork you Shayy [tw: aphobic SA and the like]
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Is it bad for me as someone who isn’t ace to seek dating asexual people?

I don’t like the constant pressure for sex that comes with relationships. It makes me feel uncomfortable and like my body isn’t mine. I do like sex and feel aroused, but usually not as often as the people I’m dating once the newness wears off. I would be fine if I never had it again. It turns into a chore that I constantly have to think about maintaining, and I really don’t want to live my life that way anymore. I want a partner who I wouldn’t be being “cruel” to if I never wanted to have sex again and I want a relationship where sex isn’t the most important thing for a connection. I feel some might say “just find someone like you” but a relationship where I either don’t care about sex or never wanna have sex again is considered cruel and unusual for most people who engage in it. I just wanna know some thoughts on this.

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What's your platonic orientation?

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