too ace for the allos, too sensual for the aces, feeling stuck in between.

I (F40) feel so alienated a lot of the time. I'm ace (obviously) in the way that I don't desire any sex acts. BUT, I'm also very very sensual. I love touch. I LOVE kissing. Hell, I even enjoy some non-sex related kinkery. But it puts me at a weird in-between.
I'm polyamorous, so I do desire to meet new people (women and fems only I'm a lesbian), but one of two things happens very regularly.
1. I get written off completely for being ace.
2. I DO hit it off with someone, and it goes well, but their interest goes out the window when I get physical, but not TOO physical.
3. Sometimes I get real lucky and find a happy medium, but this one is less frequent.

I dunno.
I'm not after any advice in particular or anything. Just venting. It kinda sucks.

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How do you manage subtle flirting?

I’m an asexual student at a very small university (~50 students who regularly attend classes), and I’ve noticed that people sometimes misread my kindness as romantic interest.

It’s not direct asking out — it’s more subtle flirting, and it makes me uncomfortable. I’d like to set boundaries early, before it escalates, but I’m not sure how to do that without being rude or escalating things.

Has anyone else dealt with subtle flirting as an asexual? How do you manage it in a way that feels safe and respectful for you?

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