I am not asexual but...
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I wish i wasnt assexual

I kind of hate it. I see other non asexuals talk about love and experiences and vulnerability which i often feel repulsed by. It makes me feel like i’m a sociopath or something. Sex is normal thing but i physically can’t sit comfortably with the thought of me doing it. I want to be able to love someone romantically too, i just don’t know if i can. Non asexuals seem to base songs, movies, and other forms of art around romantic love. It’s like, their whole purpose. It feels like a piece is missing from my emotional brain functions because i just don’t feel it. I cringe when i hear romantic lyrics. I get uncomfortable when i sense someone likes me. I came out to my parents many times and they told me i haven’t met the right person yet, that my opinion on wanting kids (absolutely 100% NO) might change in a decade. Even when i do like someone, the chances of them not wanting sex either is slim to none. AGGHHRN

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Am I weird to want a relationship with somebody as an asexual woman?

I identify as asexual, and I have never been in a relationship ever since identifying as asexual. I want to have a relationship, preferably with another person who is asexual so that we can have a relationship based on mutual interests, and even have an emotional attachment to each other, and be able to do things such as basic, cuddling, or kissing or hugging, all without the expectation of jumping into bed. Unfortunately, the more asexual people that I chat with, the more I keep getting told that people who are asexual don’t want to be in a relationship. Is it that they really don’t want to be in a relationship and don’t want to date or is it more situational circumstances? Because, I’m curious, if many people who are asexual, don’t want to date or be in a relationship, don’t they get lonely or fear getting older and being alone? How do people deal with the loneliness and not having a partner to share life with? I am still really learning about this this community and this identity so please excuse me if my question comes across as naïve or offensive. I do not mean to offend anybody, I just need answers. Thanks in advance

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How can I tell I'm ace?

Hi, if this doesn't belong here, let me know. I've been questioning since I've been 13, I'm now 21. The main reason I've been questioning this long is because, I do get horny. It's not much, maybe once or twice a month.

I've noticed as well, that I Don't really have any attraction to others. It's rare, but it does happen. So can I be ace? Any help is appreciated

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i found The One, but she's allosexual

21f, lesbian, ive had multiple relationships with other women who were all allo, and i was always upfront about my sexuality as an asexual. i would identify as a stone top because that makes me the least-involved in sex as possible. i like pleasing my partner, it doesn't turn me on, but i like it. they knew that, but they didn't know i kinda really dislike sex itself lol.

to me, sex is boring, can get kinda gross and its not how i like to spend my time, but it makes their life better and they feel appreciated and cared for. i have to force myself to start, but it's not so bad once im actually doing it.

i had problems in past relationships because sometimes i couldn't get myself to do it. the bad reaction i'd get for my abstinence made me anxious and upset, so i decided to just stay celibate and not date anyone again unless they magically happened to be ace (my dating pool as a masc lesbian is already small enough😐).

against my will, i fell in love with the best woman i've ever met, and we are discussing sex stuff before we do anything but im so fuckin scared to be honest and tell her im ace. if i was completely honest, id tell her i never want to have sex, ever. but i can't say that. she expresses so much desire to be close to me sexually because im not a very touchy-feely person physically or emotionally in the first place. i dont want to deny her this when i already can't give her so much other stuff.

i need some advice other than "tell her the truth". this might be toxic and tell me off if this is the wrong place to ask this, but how do i get over my asexuality or make it easier to force myself to have sex? any tips? literally anything? i would smoke weed before sex as a teen, but sometimes i dont have the time before the mood changes in the bedroom.

thank you for reading, and i'm sorry for the question lol

EDIT: im not saying that i WONT tell her im ace. im not fully Replused by sex, so i just wanted to know if there was literally any hope of being able to make myself more comfortable with it before i end up telling her ab my sexuality. "how do i get over my asexuality" was stupid to ask, and i apologize. its not possible. i was just emotional and being unrealistic. please ignore that!

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I (f20) am in college and think I’m on the asexual spectrum. It’s been hard for me in friendship circles.

Usually don’t post like this but wanted to get some more asexuals opinions on this…

So let me just start by saying that all throughout highschool I never was interested in guys at all. I had some fake crushes on some guys I thought were cute in the face, but when I tried to think of them sexually I got repulsed. Now I’ve been in college for two years, I’ve had one boyfriend (now ex) and he’s the only person I’ve ever I guess felt “sexually” attracted to in my life. Like it didn’t feel like a total violation to think of him in that way. We never did have sex though so I’m not 100%

Anyways, the thought of hookup culture and kissing randos at bars disgusts me. Everytime I’m with my girlfriends and they tell me about experiences like this or stuff I secretly get super uncomfortable but want to be supportive cuz I’m all for girls going what they want. The idea of this is just totally disgusting to me because I generally find the idea sex and other hookup actions gross. Being in college feeling this way I feel like a prude but I swear it’s not a moral thing it’s a physical reaction.

I think the best way to describe me would be demisexual. And I hate the people who are like “aren’t we all?” NO. I don’t feel sexual attraction to hot men on the street or celebrities. I can tell when someone is physically attractive but it’s never sexual.

Also I know people might ask. No I do not like women. I know it sounds like I might but I promise you I am also repulsed by them sexually in the same way and also because I am straight lol.



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