Why do people say you're not Asexual just because you haven't met "The One" yet?

I always wonder what goes through the minds of people who think that if by chance they meet someone, magically their sexual attraction will awaken absolutely out of nowhere! People don't know what it's like to not feel attraction and they keep talking nonsense, for me it's completely disrespectful, not to mention acephobia.
But people minimize this, after all it is a large minority, but this is not so far from LGBT, I mean, how does a straight man know he is straight? If he never tried it? After all, he just must not have found the right man. Do you realize how prejudiced that can be?

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Definitely my experience : r/aaaaaaacccccccce...
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I don't want a romantic partner or family as much as I want a more permanent Nerdy friend group

I'm so sick of hearing that "Romantic partner = happiness". I'm so sick of that being the defacto requirement otherwise you're a miserable lonely loser. I'm sick of hearing it

"But humans are social animals... Hur-dur"

Alright hypothetical wise guy, you wanna know what kind of relationship I FUCKING want? I want a Nerdy friend group. Specifically one that frequently hangs out, plays games talks about pop culture and maybe even as a cherry on top: we have shenanigans filled DnD sessions.


That's all I've ever wanted. Ever since I was in first grade and got way too much into roleplay and make-believe. I've always wanted that. But of course life happens and people move away, they come and go and suddenly you don't have that anymore. Fine... MAYBE THAT'S WHY MARRIAGE IS A THING?? So you can theoretically bind two people forever for the sole purpose of producing children and raising them and being together and all that bullshit. Fine, but I don't want that. I WANT MY FUCKING NERD GROUP!!! I don't care if I end up living alone. I'm good with that and like I won't say no to a romantic partner if we vibing, but that's like my 5th or 6th priority.


I want a friend group!!! One that hangs out frequently and even if sometimes life gets in the way once or twice we all there the following week.


A more permanent friend group! That's when I'm happiest. I'm not happiest in a romantic relationship, I'm happiest playing games with my friends. My happiest moment is when our local fucking Minecraft server from 12 years ago had like 6 people logged in at the same time all friends or friends of friends and we all just chilled on Skype. (Back when Skype was still a fucking thing)


I honestly wish that marrying a group of people in this kind of platonic tribe was a thing, because I would join the friend group I feel like I Vibe with the most with and never ever leave.




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It was a (not so wet) Tuesday
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I am not asexual but...
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I wish i wasnt assexual

I kind of hate it. I see other non asexuals talk about love and experiences and vulnerability which i often feel repulsed by. It makes me feel like i’m a sociopath or something. Sex is normal thing but i physically can’t sit comfortably with the thought of me doing it. I want to be able to love someone romantically too, i just don’t know if i can. Non asexuals seem to base songs, movies, and other forms of art around romantic love. It’s like, their whole purpose. It feels like a piece is missing from my emotional brain functions because i just don’t feel it. I cringe when i hear romantic lyrics. I get uncomfortable when i sense someone likes me. I came out to my parents many times and they told me i haven’t met the right person yet, that my opinion on wanting kids (absolutely 100% NO) might change in a decade. Even when i do like someone, the chances of them not wanting sex either is slim to none. AGGHHRN

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Am I weird to want a relationship with somebody as an asexual woman?

I identify as asexual, and I have never been in a relationship ever since identifying as asexual. I want to have a relationship, preferably with another person who is asexual so that we can have a relationship based on mutual interests, and even have an emotional attachment to each other, and be able to do things such as basic, cuddling, or kissing or hugging, all without the expectation of jumping into bed. Unfortunately, the more asexual people that I chat with, the more I keep getting told that people who are asexual don’t want to be in a relationship. Is it that they really don’t want to be in a relationship and don’t want to date or is it more situational circumstances? Because, I’m curious, if many people who are asexual, don’t want to date or be in a relationship, don’t they get lonely or fear getting older and being alone? How do people deal with the loneliness and not having a partner to share life with? I am still really learning about this this community and this identity so please excuse me if my question comes across as naïve or offensive. I do not mean to offend anybody, I just need answers. Thanks in advance

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How can I tell I'm ace?

Hi, if this doesn't belong here, let me know. I've been questioning since I've been 13, I'm now 21. The main reason I've been questioning this long is because, I do get horny. It's not much, maybe once or twice a month.

I've noticed as well, that I Don't really have any attraction to others. It's rare, but it does happen. So can I be ace? Any help is appreciated

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