My partner and I (both ace) met in college when we were 19 years old. We just celebrated her 30th birthday.
Feeling a bit sappy tonight, folks. Tonight at dinner we realized that we had spent our entire 20s together.
When I figured out I was ace in high school, I kind of just quietly assumed that I'd probably never find someone to spend my life with. Jokes on me, because I met my partner literally my first year of college.
Ten years later, here we are! We moved to the big city together. We have an adorable apartment and a cat. We craft and cook and read and work out and play video games and just in general have a goddamn hoot together. She is truly my best friend. She makes me want to be the best version of myself. I can't wait to spend this next decade with her, living our best ace lives.
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Feeling a bit sappy tonight, folks. Tonight at dinner we realized that we had spent our entire 20s together.
When I figured out I was ace in high school, I kind of just quietly assumed that I'd probably never find someone to spend my life with. Jokes on me, because I met my partner literally my first year of college.
Ten years later, here we are! We moved to the big city together. We have an adorable apartment and a cat. We craft and cook and read and work out and play video games and just in general have a goddamn hoot together. She is truly my best friend. She makes me want to be the best version of myself. I can't wait to spend this next decade with her, living our best ace lives.
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I feel bad for not desiring my boyfriend
He can't stop touching me, telling me I'm hot, just getting horny for me in general and I always try to match his energy, but recently I found out I suck at it because he told me he felt like I didn't want to do anything sexual to him at all. I just initiate kisses and that's kind of it.
It stopped me dead in my tracks because I never had a want to take off his shirt, see him naked, or touch his body in a sexual way and I didn't know I was supposed to...? I like cuddling but I always assumed that "needing" to touch someone sexually was an exagerration. Yes he is beautiful and I like looking at him, but it doesn't turn me on.
And I wasn't even sure if I was ace when we started dating, because people always told me I couldn't be and that it'd change when I found a boyfriend.
I'm trying to get more physical with him to make him happy, but I wish I could just have that program that everyone else has in their heads that tells them to do all that stuff automatically, so I wouldn't always be scared that I'm missing something obvious that an allo would've done in my place.
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He can't stop touching me, telling me I'm hot, just getting horny for me in general and I always try to match his energy, but recently I found out I suck at it because he told me he felt like I didn't want to do anything sexual to him at all. I just initiate kisses and that's kind of it.
It stopped me dead in my tracks because I never had a want to take off his shirt, see him naked, or touch his body in a sexual way and I didn't know I was supposed to...? I like cuddling but I always assumed that "needing" to touch someone sexually was an exagerration. Yes he is beautiful and I like looking at him, but it doesn't turn me on.
And I wasn't even sure if I was ace when we started dating, because people always told me I couldn't be and that it'd change when I found a boyfriend.
I'm trying to get more physical with him to make him happy, but I wish I could just have that program that everyone else has in their heads that tells them to do all that stuff automatically, so I wouldn't always be scared that I'm missing something obvious that an allo would've done in my place.
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Being loved is scary.
This is my personal experience and I would appreciate if someone would listen to me and maybe give me a word of advice or something.
I'm 20yo man. I'm asexual and I have befriended a woman who's also asexual. We have been talking for almost an year.
She would sometimes vent to me and I would say comforting words. Somehow, she fell for me. She said that she was in love with me, but It doesn't end there.
This woman has very negative thoughts and lashes out at me for anything. When I say I find someone pretty, she gets jealous to the point of saying she would stop talking to me if I ever said those words again. She even planned with a friend of hers to pretend to be in a relationship with him and then tell me she was in a relationship in order to test if I would feel upset, angry or jealous. (I just wished her a happy, healthy relationship. In the end she didn't get what she wanted)
She would threaten me, saying she would stop talking to me, saying I wasn't worth and that ''all men are the same'' just because I didn't love her back.
However, I cherish our friendship a lot, so I would get upset when she gets negative, jealous, throw insults and harmful words at me for something I'm not to blame for (Not feeling romantic feelings for her)
She says her life is not worth if the person she loves (Me) doesn't love her back and that I'm always gonna be a friend to her. She also multiple times stated that she would ''end it all'' because I don't love her and that she's always gonna be ''alone''.
She had also said that one day I would live with her and that we would be together, even though I said I don't love her in that way. She has already planned a future that I don't want.
This is genuinely scary for me. It looks like I'm being somehow pressured or manipulated to get into a relationship with her just for the sake to make her happy and not feel sad anymore, even though her love is one-sided.
What should I do? What should I tell her? And how?
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This is my personal experience and I would appreciate if someone would listen to me and maybe give me a word of advice or something.
I'm 20yo man. I'm asexual and I have befriended a woman who's also asexual. We have been talking for almost an year.
She would sometimes vent to me and I would say comforting words. Somehow, she fell for me. She said that she was in love with me, but It doesn't end there.
This woman has very negative thoughts and lashes out at me for anything. When I say I find someone pretty, she gets jealous to the point of saying she would stop talking to me if I ever said those words again. She even planned with a friend of hers to pretend to be in a relationship with him and then tell me she was in a relationship in order to test if I would feel upset, angry or jealous. (I just wished her a happy, healthy relationship. In the end she didn't get what she wanted)
She would threaten me, saying she would stop talking to me, saying I wasn't worth and that ''all men are the same'' just because I didn't love her back.
However, I cherish our friendship a lot, so I would get upset when she gets negative, jealous, throw insults and harmful words at me for something I'm not to blame for (Not feeling romantic feelings for her)
She says her life is not worth if the person she loves (Me) doesn't love her back and that I'm always gonna be a friend to her. She also multiple times stated that she would ''end it all'' because I don't love her and that she's always gonna be ''alone''.
She had also said that one day I would live with her and that we would be together, even though I said I don't love her in that way. She has already planned a future that I don't want.
This is genuinely scary for me. It looks like I'm being somehow pressured or manipulated to get into a relationship with her just for the sake to make her happy and not feel sad anymore, even though her love is one-sided.
What should I do? What should I tell her? And how?
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Why do I prefer women in their underwear and feel grossed out when I see them naked
What ever I see them in their underwear or swimsuit it turns me on but if I see them naked I feel grossed out I am a man btw
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What ever I see them in their underwear or swimsuit it turns me on but if I see them naked I feel grossed out I am a man btw
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Am I Asexual?
I am attracted to men, as a man, but I only orgasm from a specific fetish. However, I experience romantic attraction. Imagining the person I am romantically attracted to performing my fetish makes me lose their romantic appeal and disgusts me. What category am I in? What am I
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I am attracted to men, as a man, but I only orgasm from a specific fetish. However, I experience romantic attraction. Imagining the person I am romantically attracted to performing my fetish makes me lose their romantic appeal and disgusts me. What category am I in? What am I
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Is it just sex?
Okay so I have this friend who is asexual. Now my feelings towards them are complicated but for the purposes of this discussion you should know that I have no interest in having sex with them, I can't even imagine it.
HOWEVER,
I am obsessed with their hands and face and do imagine kissing both.
My question is, as an asexual person, do you just not like sex, or is it everything up to and including hand and general kissing?
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Okay so I have this friend who is asexual. Now my feelings towards them are complicated but for the purposes of this discussion you should know that I have no interest in having sex with them, I can't even imagine it.
HOWEVER,
I am obsessed with their hands and face and do imagine kissing both.
My question is, as an asexual person, do you just not like sex, or is it everything up to and including hand and general kissing?
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