For other asexual woman, did getting your period scare you like it did for me?

Sorry if this question isn’t appropriate for this subreddit, and sorry if this isn’t the right flair. I have no idea what flair to use for this so I just guessed 😅.

When I got my first period, it scared me to death 💀. I was literally screaming and crying for like, five minutes, purely disgusted by the sound of them. I was wondering if I’m the only one?

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Horny as an asexual

Hallo Ladies, am I the only one who gets horny when I am on my period?

I hate the feeling so what do you do to deal with it? Any tips?

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Over 40 and just discovering I may be asexual

Hi, I am a 45 year old divorced single mum and I am new here in this community and I wanted to share my story as many people here seem to be much younger. I was married once, and have one child. I had a lot of short term or long term relationships with kind of "normal" sex.





I just ended a new relationship with a guy after three months and I am glad I don't have to have sex with him anymore. He was a really nice and lovely guy but wanted sex all the time and I did not.

And I realized that I always wondered how people voluntarily had sex in long term relationships.

For me it always felt like a chore. I participated because it was expected.

I did enjoy it most of the times, but I would never initiate.

I always thought I chose the wrong men and if I would meet the right one, I would want to have sex with him forever. But I always had this issue, and I had many relationships.

So I guess it's me...

It felt better to have sex at the beginning of the relationships when it was new but still it was nothing I would really desire...

The only time I really felt desire was when it was kind of forbidden. I once was the sidepiece of a married man (not proud of it), and I really felt attracted to him. But of course this relationship did not go into long term.





So I looked into this subreddit and I guess I am kind of grey-asexual or aegosexual. I like to read smut and watch porn from time to time. But I only watch lesbian porn. I do not enjoy watching men in porn. But I never met a woman I would want do have sex with in real life, so I guess I am not bi oder lesbian.





I generally feel like bodies are kind of gross and I do not want to interact with anyone naked. Sex felt always better for me when we had clothes on. Maybe this is an issue of my body aging and of bad body image but I do not want to get naked with anyone.





So I guess I am starting to wonder if I might be kind of asexual after having a ton of sex in my life.

Are there other people like me who found out they are asexual later in life?

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Have you ever been in love?

Although I’ve been in a couple of relationships, and had all consuming crushes on people (not the people I’ve had relationships with) I’ve never knowingly been in love. I can obsess about people, sure, and I can love people, but I don’t know the feeling of being in love. Does that have any bearing on being aromantic? Or can aro people still fall in love?

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So Tired Of The “My Parter Is Ace And I’m Not” Posts.

Asexual people can’t have our own subreddit without allos invading it. Do you not understand how triggering it is for us asexuals to go to our safe space just to see posts about how you guys are so unfulfilled in your relationships just because of sex?

All the posts are the same. “My partner is repulsed by sex, but I need it! What can I do?" What do you expect us asexuals to say? You want us, ASEXUAL people, to tell you that we think your asexual partner isn't enough because of sex, something we don’t even like? What do you expect from us? Asexuality is also a spectrum, and everyone who is ace is different. This literally boils down to just TALKING TO YOUR PARTNER. We can’t answer for them because we aren’t them. Why come on here and ask us instead of the person you’re with??

Have you ever stopped to think how many of us aces lost partners we cared about and bent over backwards for, leave us simply because we didn’t want to fuck them, even though many of us tell our partners we’re ace before we even get together and they say they’re okay with that only to break our trust like everyone else has later on? You’re rubbing our trauma in our faces.

I get it if they came out as ace after you get together, that is a little different. And yes breaking up is hard for everyone. But still, you can literally find someone else. You have BILLIONS of people to choose from - meanwhile us aces have less than 1% of the population. So it’s incredibly upsetting for us aces to have see posts of you guys complaining about this when we have less than 1% of the population to choose from. We’d rather not be reminded of how 99% of the population see us as unlovable no matter what we do simply because we’re asexual.

This subreddit isn’t for your posts like this. It’s for us. It’s our safe space. There’s a whole other subreddit for these posts that you can go to. So why post it on here? Why do you guys love reminding us that we aren’t enough for you?

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I manage with 10 just fine.
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