Older aces do you worry about being lonely?

I’m at a crossroads. I’m almost 30 and every one of my friends is either in a long term relationship, engaged or married. They’re buying houses with their spouses. And I’m single and alone. But I’m ace. But I feel sad that I may just be along the rest of my life. And you could say oh well friendships! But my friends don’t have much time for me now that they’re partnered. And you could say oh find another ace! In my area that’d be like finding a needle in a cornfield. Its hard enough finding someone: single, similar interests, available, within generally my age, and ace?? Not exactly easy.

I wish I could have a normal relationship minus intimacy but who else in the world would want that.

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Anytime some rando tries to flirt…
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Downloaded Hinge, now I want to delete it

For some context, all throughout middle school, high school, and college I was pretty boy crazy. I had a lot of talking phases, but never had a proper boyfriend. I would lose interest really quickly though once they reciprocated, and eventually labeled myself as aroace. I still found men attractive throughout my 20’s, but it was mainly limerence and I got over it after a few months. I never talked to them or initiated anything.

I’m 29 now and decided to downloaded Hinge to test the waters. However, I’ve been finding myself so icked out as I look through the profiles. Not icked out by the men, but icked out by the concept of dating. It just feels so cringe and stressful for some reason. The talking stage, the pressure of intimacy, all the things that we have to consider for compatibility, the “red flags” and the “green flags”, it all feels so performative. I’d rather have a relationship progress like the ones you see in kdramas or a shoujo anime, but that’s not reality. Reality is more transactional.

I think I’ll probably delete Hinge and be single for the rest of my life lol. It just feels more comfortable that way. I do get lonely and want to act on my desires (visual attraction) sometimes, but then I think about how much work goes into it, and how cringe flirting is, and decided that it’s better to just stay single.

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Disappointed more people dont know how much we like garlic bread

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For other asexual woman, did getting your period scare you like it did for me?

Sorry if this question isn’t appropriate for this subreddit, and sorry if this isn’t the right flair. I have no idea what flair to use for this so I just guessed 😅.

When I got my first period, it scared me to death 💀. I was literally screaming and crying for like, five minutes, purely disgusted by the sound of them. I was wondering if I’m the only one?

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Horny as an asexual

Hallo Ladies, am I the only one who gets horny when I am on my period?

I hate the feeling so what do you do to deal with it? Any tips?

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Over 40 and just discovering I may be asexual

Hi, I am a 45 year old divorced single mum and I am new here in this community and I wanted to share my story as many people here seem to be much younger. I was married once, and have one child. I had a lot of short term or long term relationships with kind of "normal" sex.





I just ended a new relationship with a guy after three months and I am glad I don't have to have sex with him anymore. He was a really nice and lovely guy but wanted sex all the time and I did not.

And I realized that I always wondered how people voluntarily had sex in long term relationships.

For me it always felt like a chore. I participated because it was expected.

I did enjoy it most of the times, but I would never initiate.

I always thought I chose the wrong men and if I would meet the right one, I would want to have sex with him forever. But I always had this issue, and I had many relationships.

So I guess it's me...

It felt better to have sex at the beginning of the relationships when it was new but still it was nothing I would really desire...

The only time I really felt desire was when it was kind of forbidden. I once was the sidepiece of a married man (not proud of it), and I really felt attracted to him. But of course this relationship did not go into long term.





So I looked into this subreddit and I guess I am kind of grey-asexual or aegosexual. I like to read smut and watch porn from time to time. But I only watch lesbian porn. I do not enjoy watching men in porn. But I never met a woman I would want do have sex with in real life, so I guess I am not bi oder lesbian.





I generally feel like bodies are kind of gross and I do not want to interact with anyone naked. Sex felt always better for me when we had clothes on. Maybe this is an issue of my body aging and of bad body image but I do not want to get naked with anyone.





So I guess I am starting to wonder if I might be kind of asexual after having a ton of sex in my life.

Are there other people like me who found out they are asexual later in life?

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