Having hard time accepting it...

I don't really like sex. I'm 27 M...can get erection and all, just don't feel attracted to anyone sexually and it's been like this for my whole life... I've tried many times but I just feel nothing. I like the idea of sex but the actual thing is just...well idk how to put it but I think you guys will get me. Even though I try to show my partner that I'm enjoying it with her, I am just pretending...I don't feel much.
I used to think maybe I was gay but nothing there as well.
I love my partner, I really do and want to take things further but I'm having hard time pretending to like it when I don't and it's been melting my brain.


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Is this acephobia?

My brothers believe that asexuality is a stupid concept and think it’s just something people use to make themselves feel special for being different. They say it’s idiotic to “put labels” on feelings like demisexuality, graysexuality, aromanticism, and others whenever I bring up the topic. Because of that, I’m afraid to tell them that I identify as asexual.
Would their behavior be considered acephobia?

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My therapist disagrees that I am asexual, has anyone experienced this?

I've been going to this therapist for awhile, previously he would try to encourage me to date and try to have sex because he considers it an important part of normal human socialization.

A few months ago I mentioned that I'm starting to view myself as asexual/aromantic and while he was not against it at first in my last session he opened by asking if I still feel asexual/aromantic or if he thinks I'm using that label as a way to avoid the pain of further romantic failure.

He started telling me that what I'm actually feeling isn't a lack of desire for sex or romance, but learned helplessness caused by lifelong social rejection. He told me I should continue trying to date and working towards the goal of a relationship, even if I don't feel like I want one because I'd change my mind once I experienced it.

I really don't know how to respond to this, has anyone else had experience with these kinds of questions from their therapists?

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I lost my virginity today

So um... I lost my virginity a few hours ago. Like, y'know, the whole thing. Before that, I had received oral sex, but today (apart from that lol), I had penetrative sex.

Despite being ace (not even demi, never felt any sexual attraction towards anyone at all), I somehow knew I would enjoy sex before doing anything. I was right, and now that I got the full experience, I can still say that I do enjoy it, but also... penetrative sex is kinda weird. Does it feel good? Yes. Does it take you there? No (to most people with vaginas, according to my previous research). So, um, sure it's nice, but not something to go crazy about. I know it was my first experience, so maybe things will get better. Or maybe not. It will probably happen with this guy again as we have some sort of "arrangement" and honestly I want to keep experimenting. But I'm not sure how I feel. I'm not a virgin anymore, which for most of my life I thought I would be. I used to think I would always be the "virgin ace".

You know what people, I wish I hadn't liked it at all so I could be ace & not care about sex at all, lol. I feel like things would be easier.

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I hate masterbating with a burning passion.

My reasons for being asexual and not having sex is plain ol “never thought about it other than learning about it and don’t care”.

I decided to masterbate. I get it. But I also don’t.

Like I rather be making an omelette with bacon in it.

…and that is exactly what I did. The food was good.

To the however we exist if we even exist at all… Thank you for asexuality in its simplest form as well as all else me.

Fun? I love being an asexual; but damn it all the hell that those such as me didn’t get no sexy drive. Pfttttttttttttt.

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This sexuality is a love hate relationship

i hate this so much , but yet i’m so lucky. I hate this because i’ll never be normal, and i’ll end up living alone. But i’m so lucky because there’s a chance i could be infertile, but that doesn’t really affect me because i don’t ever plan on having kids. Like genuinely i’m pretty lucky because if i wasn’t ace, i would be devastated, but like gwaiuwbehwjwksyenebeueieibeueuehr

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