I just came out. So relieved.

I had a total meltdown post therapy with my brother (we live together). Explained that I loved my bf but didnt care about sex and didnt know what to do. My brother was entirely calm and told me ' I feel the exact same way'

I thought i was insane for feeling like sex was just a side. Turns out my brother felt the same way this whole time.

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I feel ashamed of my desire for only cuddling and not sex


I (37M) separated from my partner (35M) of nine years a few months ago.

Reflecting on the relationship and my own feelings since separating, it has become clear to me that I am asexual.

After dipping my toe back into the dating pool for the first time this week, I raised my lack of interest in sex with my therapist. She started to “reassure” me that my interest in sex would return as I heal from the separation, find a new partner, etc.

I had to clarify that there isn’t anything to “return”. Sex has always been something I’ve done because it was the expectation, not because I ever wanted it.

I’ve known that about myself for a while. What I’m realizing now, however, is that I still have physical desires.

I want to cuddle. I want to kiss. I want to touch. I want skin contact. I want to rest my head on someone’s lap and feel his hands running through my hair.

I feel embarrassed by this. These feel like the kinds of things a child wants, not a gay man pushing 40.

How do you handle the fact that you don’t have “grown up” desires?

How do you communicate this to other people without feeling embarrassed?

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hiii is this normal, and asexuals actually feel like this?
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