weird coming out story
commented this in another post earlier, thought i'd share it here as well because it left an impression on me.
i used to play this one online game and i met a dude there. we met in this one groupchat function to chat. and we all hit off very well. this one guy started to private message me because i was the only one who didn't have discord and he claimed he didn't want me being left out. i did befriend the others but i got the closest to him and another guy (who wasn't weird plus he was attached). initially he assumed i was a guy but after talking more he found out i'm a girl and we got along well. from there we played together often, he'd help me level up because i'd quite recently restarted on a new character at that point. then i noticed he seemed interested in me, he mentioned he liked my personality and started joking about meeting me someday and marrying me and asked for my number multiple times. he actually wanted discord but that was a no from me. i told him not now because we only knew each other in-game for a couple of months, plus giving numbers out to strangers is weird.
eventually i told him i'm asexual and his response was, asexuals can date. i didn't tell him i was aromantic too, because i am actually cupio. so what i did was tell him that's true, and asked him if that would be a problem for him. then he started getting all defensive saying my sexuality isn't his business, why am i telling him, he never asked, it's totally irrelevant, etc. basically he was acting like he hadn't been hitting on me and that me sharing my sexuality was unsolicited. he blocked me after and we never talked again. very confusing experience.
for a long time after i felt like maybe it was my fault, maybe he really didn't need to know that, maybe i was jumping the gun for bringing it up in the first place. maybe talking about sex even in this way was being inappropriate. but was i really the one being weird when he'd talk about marrying??
it took a long time before i stopped blaming myself and decided online men can be so weird. he wasn't the only weirdo i'd met via games so. i would think he only befriended me to hit, but it was kind of nonsensical because we lived continents apart plus he never took it hard when i rejected giving my number. he'd just laugh it off and then try again days later. maybe he was hoping to sext idk. well whatever it is i hope you're happy out there, go fk yourself, Tim.
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commented this in another post earlier, thought i'd share it here as well because it left an impression on me.
i used to play this one online game and i met a dude there. we met in this one groupchat function to chat. and we all hit off very well. this one guy started to private message me because i was the only one who didn't have discord and he claimed he didn't want me being left out. i did befriend the others but i got the closest to him and another guy (who wasn't weird plus he was attached). initially he assumed i was a guy but after talking more he found out i'm a girl and we got along well. from there we played together often, he'd help me level up because i'd quite recently restarted on a new character at that point. then i noticed he seemed interested in me, he mentioned he liked my personality and started joking about meeting me someday and marrying me and asked for my number multiple times. he actually wanted discord but that was a no from me. i told him not now because we only knew each other in-game for a couple of months, plus giving numbers out to strangers is weird.
eventually i told him i'm asexual and his response was, asexuals can date. i didn't tell him i was aromantic too, because i am actually cupio. so what i did was tell him that's true, and asked him if that would be a problem for him. then he started getting all defensive saying my sexuality isn't his business, why am i telling him, he never asked, it's totally irrelevant, etc. basically he was acting like he hadn't been hitting on me and that me sharing my sexuality was unsolicited. he blocked me after and we never talked again. very confusing experience.
for a long time after i felt like maybe it was my fault, maybe he really didn't need to know that, maybe i was jumping the gun for bringing it up in the first place. maybe talking about sex even in this way was being inappropriate. but was i really the one being weird when he'd talk about marrying??
it took a long time before i stopped blaming myself and decided online men can be so weird. he wasn't the only weirdo i'd met via games so. i would think he only befriended me to hit, but it was kind of nonsensical because we lived continents apart plus he never took it hard when i rejected giving my number. he'd just laugh it off and then try again days later. maybe he was hoping to sext idk. well whatever it is i hope you're happy out there, go fk yourself, Tim.
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My asexuality is ruining my love life
Yesterday for the second time this year, the girl I was dating broke things off citing a lack of physical touch/intimacy (in mild forms even) saying it was a turn off. And I completely expected it.
This happened before mid this year. I am really fed up. I have no interest in physical touch/intimacy at all, and it’s taking a serious toll on my relationships. HELP.
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Yesterday for the second time this year, the girl I was dating broke things off citing a lack of physical touch/intimacy (in mild forms even) saying it was a turn off. And I completely expected it.
This happened before mid this year. I am really fed up. I have no interest in physical touch/intimacy at all, and it’s taking a serious toll on my relationships. HELP.
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