I feel like “I don’t date/I’m asexual” never gets a normal response
Yesterday this guy at work who’s temporarily transferred from another store was asking me about what I do outside of what. Stuff like if I’m in school or what I wanted to do with my degree, if I had a relationship. For context I’ll clarify rn he has a male fiance. I tell him no, I don’t date. He’s like “oh, you don’t date?” I say no, he says something else like maybe “you don’t date at all?” The confused response we’re all probably used to.
I don’t know if he knows the meaning or has even heard the term, but to clarify I tell him “No, I’m asexual.”
“Oh! Okay.” A few moments later: “well you can still date even if you’re asexual.”
On the inside I’m facepalming. Because if I say I don’t date because I’m asexual, it’s not hard to put two and two together. Also, thanks for explaining my own sexuality to me. “I’m aromantic asexual.”
There’s a moment he doesn’t say anything where it seems like he still disagrees or is still confused. I was definitely anticipating him questioning that response too, but he just says “Alright.”
It was a brief moment and I will say I already wasn’t in the best of moods at work. I tend to use asexual as a blanket term even though it doesn’t necessarily mean aromantic too, but again, I feel like you can still connect the dots.
I think it was sometime before this he asked me “why so sad” because I was “so quiet.” I wasn’t sad at all and don’t know why he thought that or if he was just saying it. He’s been here for about a week so we haven’t worked that many shifts together yet it seemed like he felt being quiet was out of character for me somehow. I had told him my social battery was just low and looking back I think I’ve been a little burned out by work. He says he gets it but then continues to ask me all these questions above which definitely put me in a worse mood. Sometimes I wish people would know to just accept a simple answer and move on.
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Yesterday this guy at work who’s temporarily transferred from another store was asking me about what I do outside of what. Stuff like if I’m in school or what I wanted to do with my degree, if I had a relationship. For context I’ll clarify rn he has a male fiance. I tell him no, I don’t date. He’s like “oh, you don’t date?” I say no, he says something else like maybe “you don’t date at all?” The confused response we’re all probably used to.
I don’t know if he knows the meaning or has even heard the term, but to clarify I tell him “No, I’m asexual.”
“Oh! Okay.” A few moments later: “well you can still date even if you’re asexual.”
On the inside I’m facepalming. Because if I say I don’t date because I’m asexual, it’s not hard to put two and two together. Also, thanks for explaining my own sexuality to me. “I’m aromantic asexual.”
There’s a moment he doesn’t say anything where it seems like he still disagrees or is still confused. I was definitely anticipating him questioning that response too, but he just says “Alright.”
It was a brief moment and I will say I already wasn’t in the best of moods at work. I tend to use asexual as a blanket term even though it doesn’t necessarily mean aromantic too, but again, I feel like you can still connect the dots.
I think it was sometime before this he asked me “why so sad” because I was “so quiet.” I wasn’t sad at all and don’t know why he thought that or if he was just saying it. He’s been here for about a week so we haven’t worked that many shifts together yet it seemed like he felt being quiet was out of character for me somehow. I had told him my social battery was just low and looking back I think I’ve been a little burned out by work. He says he gets it but then continues to ask me all these questions above which definitely put me in a worse mood. Sometimes I wish people would know to just accept a simple answer and move on.
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