everyone demisexual?](https://www.asexuality-handbook.com/faq/isnt-everyone-demisexual.html) • [Can someone become asexual? / can sexuality change?](https://www.asexuality-handbook.com/faq/can-someone-become-asexual.html) • [What's the difference between HSDD and asexuality?](https://www.asexuality-handbook.com/faq/whats-the-difference-between-hsdd-and-asexuality.html) • [Don't people need sex? What about Maslow's hierarchy?](https://www.asexuality-handbook.com/faq/dont-people-need-sex.html) • [How common is asexuality?](https://www.asexuality-handbook.com/demographics.html) (Includes: "Are most asexuals women, or men?", "Are all women asexual?")

###Asexuals and sex

[Do asexual people have sex?](https://www.asexuality-handbook.com/faq/do-asexual-people-have-sex.html) • [Why do asexual people have sex?](https://www.asexuality-handbook.com/faq/why-do-asexual-people-have-sex.html) • [How can you like sex and be asexual at the same time?](https://www.asexuality-handbook.com/faq/how-can-you-like-sex-and-be-asexual-at-the-same-time.html) • [Do asexual people masturbate?](https://www.asexuality-handbook.com/faq/what-if-i-masturbate.html) • [Do asexual people like kissing?](https://www.asexuality-handbook.com/faq/do-asexual-people-like-kissing.html)

###Asexuality in society

[Are asexual people LGBT?](https://www.asexuality-handbook.com/faq/are-asexual-people-lgbt.html) • [Are asexual people straight?](https://www.asexuality-handbook.com/faq/are-asexual-people-straight.html) • [Do asexual people experience oppression?](https://www.asexuality-handbook.com/anti-asexual-bias.html) • [Why do asexuals feel the need to come out?](https://www.asexuality-handbook.com/faq/why-do-asexuals-feel-the-need-to-come-out.html) • [Why do asexual people need to label themselves?](https://www.asexuality-handbook.com/faq/why-do-asexual-people-need-to-label-themselves.html) • [Why do asexual people wear sexy clothes / makeup?](https://www.asexuality-handbook.com/faq/why-do-asexual-people-wear-sexy-clothes-or-makeup.html) • [Why does representation matter?](https://www.asexuality-handbook.com/faq/why-does-representation-matter.html)

###Asexuals and relationships

[How can you have a relationship without sex?](https://www.asexuality-handbook.com/faq/how-can-you-have-a-relationship-without-sex.html) • [What's the difference between a QPR and a romantic (non-sexual) relationship?](https://www.asexuality-handbook.com/faq/whats-the-difference-between-a-qpr-and-a-romantic-relationship.html) • [Should I tell my partner that I'm asexual?](https://www.asexuality-handbook.com/faq/should-i-tell-my-partner-that-im-asexual.html) • [How can I convince my partner I still love them?](https://www.asexuality-handbook.com/faq/how-can-i-convince-my-partner-i-still-love-them.html) • [My partner is asexual. Should we break up?](https://www.asexuality-handbook.com/faq/my-partner-is-asexual-should-we-break-up.html)

###On the nature of allosexuality

[What does sexual attraction feel like?](https://www.asexuality-handbook.com/faq/what-does-sexual-attraction-feel-like.html) • [What does arousal feel like?](https://www.asexuality-handbook.com/faq/what-does-arousal-feel-like.html) • [How often do allosexuals think about sex?](https://www.asexuality-handbook.com/faq/how-often-do-allosexuals-think-about-sex.html) • [What is love?](https://www.asexuality-handbook.com/faq/what-is-love.html) • [Why does sex sell?](https://www.asexuality-handbook.com/faq/why-does-sex-sell.html)

###Advice

[Am I broken?](https://www.asexuality-handbook.com/faq/am-i-broken.html) • [Should I come out as asexual?](https://www.asexuality-handbook.com/faq/should-i-come-out-as-asexual.html) • [How can I relate to / interact with allosexuals?](https://www.asexuality-handbook.com/faq/how-can-i-relate-to-interact-with-allosexuals.html) • [How can I be less angry / upset?](https://www.asexuality-handbook.com/faq/how-can-i-be-less-angry-upset.html) • [How can I become asexual?](https://www.asexuality-handbook.com/faq/can-someone-become-asexual.html) • [How can I support

asexuals?](https://www.asexuality-handbook.com/faq/how-can-i-support-asexuals.html)

###Other

[I'm writing an asexual character. What should I consider?](https://www.asexuality-handbook.com/faq/im-writing-an-asexual-character-what-should-i-consider.html) • [Isn't the term 'allosexual' offensive?](https://www.asexuality-handbook.com/the-term-allosexual.html)

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Love Language
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What do you identify as?

Where do you fall under the spectrum of asexuality and why?

Looking to learn more :) Thanks! Details appreciated.

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Help me with an assignment?

Im doing an assignment for school and as a fellow asexual I thought why not make it about that? Well turns out I need to interview people for a part of the assignment. So do some of you mind helping me out on this 😅

Ps: its about the lack of men in the asexual community, so if you identify as a man please let me interview you 🙏

Pps: anyone willing is welcome, need people for the comparison

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I know they're ace but I just can't prove it
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My first Halloween as the ace icon Luffy himself
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Help me please in this

Long story, I was literally saved to death by someone, we were friends, became very close friends after he never left my side ( as in through helping me, we are in different cities) , taught me how to live again. Now, I don't know I never had any crushes in life, I couldn't feel attracted to anyone , then later felt I am a romantic, asexual. I am asexual. But I didn't know what love was, he atught me, indirectly, it's not just about giving roses, going on dates, it's about being there when no one wanted to be... It's about helping at someone's lowest, it's not about looks.
Ok, I cannot marry, have children etc. ( that's entirely diff topic)


But now I come to the point. Now he juat doesn't want to talk to me anymore.
I still didn't stop trying. Kept reaching out first and he talked, just 2-3 sentences and bye. It always came to how am I, as he may have felt I was not keeping well etc. but never reached out first and I forcefully initiated conversation only for it to come at how am I. Then one day, though I guessed from day 1 , that he was not doing well, he doesn't want to talk ( about his situation) and now he's told me directly that I focus on myself, my well being that's it . That will make him happy.
What should I do, the person whom I shouldn't have fallen in love with, I did, but am still demiromantic, asexual (from my side, We never discussed such things) .
I cannot even help him, that's eating me up, how can I, how should I . And my main question: How do I unlove him?

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i think i’m asexual, looking for others’ opinions/advice

hey, i’m just posting here in hopes to get some advice because this is the kind of thing i can’t really talk to my friends or family about.

so basically, i’m (19f) in my first serious relationship with my girlfriend (21f) who is literally just the most loving, thoughtful, and supportive partner i could ever hope for. not to mention the fact that she’s insanely beautiful, like she’s STUPIDLY attractive, we’ve been together for about 3 months and talking for longer than that but every time i see her i’m still just as gobsmacked by her perfection as i was the first time.

i say all of this to say, i know for sure that there isn’t any issue between us or within our relationship that could be causing me to have such a low libido. but the fact of the matter is, i just don’t really want to have sex.

this isn’t to say i don’t ENJOY our sex. i lost my virginity to her and every time we’ve done it since then, it was fine, like it felt good and i didn’t feel uncomfortable per se. but something i’ve noticed about myself is that i just really don’t like it that much. even when we’re just cuddling and she starts getting touchy, i always feel weirdly disappointed because i already know it means i’m going to have to ‘perform’ in a way (aka, act how somebody SHOULD act when they’re having fun during sex).

the only part of sex i enjoy is giving, and even that’s just because it makes me feel good knowing i’m making HER feel good and i like making her happy, not because i’m ever especially turned on or “in the mood”.

part of me knows it’s completely normal to be asexual, or to just generally not like having sex as much as others might. but part of me can’t help feeling really bad about it, almost guilty. i feel like i SHOULD want to have sex with my girlfriend, you know? i’m sexually attracted to her of course but that desire/need for sex just isn’t there. talking to her about it would probably help and i know this, but there’s this mental barricade telling me it will literally break our relationship or, even worse, make her insecure. my anxiety’s just getting the better of me about this.

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