How i feel after finding out an intimacy that i assumed is non-sexual is actually sexual for most people
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What should you say to an Aphobic person?

I have previously just used their arguments against them, ex "asexuals dont exist its against nature", well then allosexuals must not either. "its not normal" Normal is a social construct.

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How i feel after finding out an intimacy that i assumed is non-sexual is actually sexual for most people
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Aphobia is weird

I’m not asexual, I’m just voluntarily celibate. BUT. I just don’t understand aphobia, how could someone hate another person because they don’t want sex…
…like what? What do you mean you’re seething at the idea that someone doesn’t fancy sex? That’s objectively old creepy man mentality.
Ew.

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DnD pride keychains I made
https://www.reddit.com/gallery/1og2hrk

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How did you find out you were cupiosexual?
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I think I might be aromantic

Im 15, and have an extremely close best friend who for a long time, I thought I had a crush on. I told him a while back and he rejected me, no hard feelings we’re still best friends. A couple weeks ago I got a boyfriend who i broke up with yesterday because I thought I just didn’t like him. Whenever he would kiss me, or hold my hand, or try anything romantic it would just feel weird and wrong, and I thought it was just cuz maybe I still liked my best friend. But when I really think about it, I wouldn’t want to do any of that with my best friend too, or anyone. With this best friend it’s like, I thought I liked him cuz I wanna spend my life close with him and I think he’s handsome and funny and stuff, but I don’t think I’d want to do anything romantic, I think that stuff is just mostly weird and cringe. I’m still sexually/aesthetically attracted to people, like when someone is hot I’m gonna feel attracted to them, but I don’t think I’d want a romantic relationship unless it was someone I really cared for and it would just be so they’re happy, I’d be just ok with being romantic if that makes sense. I know I’m really young though so I’m not sure if this is just me being young or what, but when I think about the idea of being aromantic it’s freeing in a way? If that makes sense lol? But yea. So I was just wondering if anyone else would have advice/similar experiences/etc etc! Thanks!!!! :)

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told a friend i'm asexual

happened earlier this week. i usually try to just avoid the topic because not everyone understands it. but it came up because we've both recently realised his best friend is interested in me and he asked me about it. he doesn't know for sure but based on what his best friend has done for me, it's out of the ordinary. but because he's also my friend and he sees my like a little sister type of thing, he wanted to know more about my view of things.

so he was asking me what do i feel for his friend etc. and i didn't know how to respond so in the end i told him i'm aroace, although i am open to dating. initially i overexplained and said something about maybe something is wrong with my hormones. but then he told me he's aware about that because his wife had explained it to him before. it made me feel lighter. and then he went on to reassure me he gets it even though i felt awkward to continue the conversation at that point.

so yesterday we had an event and his wife showed up so i talked to his wife. before this we never had the chance to meet, but i did indirectly communicate with his wife via him and vice versa. i thought she would be a cool person to talk to which turned out to be true. she told me she herself is queer (not ace but still) so she understands asexuality. which was nice to hear because before her, even bisexuals and lesbians i knew personally never understood asexuality. the only person i knew irl who understood it is asexual herself so it's really rare that someone gets all understanding when i have to explain why i have no interest in certain topics.

honestly i'm never really big on coming out to people, it's something i never cared about because to me my sexuality is my own business. but this felt quite lightening because for awhile i did want to bring up to my friend the topic of his best friend and in the end it happened with a good conclusion. plus i made a new friend in his wife lol.

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Assexual with high libido?

Basically, as the title suggests

I usually have a high libido but self pleasure is enough for me. Have tried sex in many different ways and honestly can't even get it up most of the times with other people. Never understood my friends who "had to f*ck" and would go out with any tinder date just for it.

Even when I'm in a relationship I prefer self pleasure instead of pursuing my partner.

Does this make me ace? Honestly the only thing I "miss" about sex is the idea of intimacy. Which in itself kind of shows I'm not "pleased" by sex? If the only thing I miss is the idealized intimacy of the situation.

I've always been kind, considerate in my past relationships, did surprise dates, flowers, communication, just an overall healthy relationship . But all of them have ended due to sex related issues. I'm not "bad" in bed, I simply never pursued them sexually because I wasn't interested in that, and they didn't feel "desired".

I'm curious if any assexuals here have a similar experience of having a high libido but no interest in sex. Therapy hasn't helped much and I'm curious if I'm ace or just have some sort of blockage with sex (maybe not feeling comfortable with others, don't like feeling vulnerable, etc)

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how do aces date allos?

I'm ace and I would definitely prefer an asexual partner because I feel like I'd feel almost uncomfortable(?) with a sexual partner, but ik that's pretty uncommon (to find aces). For those who are dating allos, how do they idk manage their libido(?) without hooking up or having sex w you?

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Made this small "bracelet" of the asexual flag (Might change flair)
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Made garlic bread to celebrate Ace Week yesterday! Plus my outfits from the week and a lanyard and some dice I made

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