Synth nerds are mostly into SYSEX.
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I Don’t Know What This Is?

I am in a relationship and it’s not just this one but the relationships I’ve had before. I’ve had trouble communicating this: I don’t want to have sex. I do « feel horny » but it’s more akin to I feel this weird tension in my body. And my body tells me that this is the one way to get rid of it. It’s distracting, it’s annoying, it interrupts my thoughts with ideas of closeness that honestly I don’t want. I don’t want to have sex with my partner. Not because there’s anything wrong with them, but because I genuinely don’t think it’s enough. And I don’t think sex or sexual intimacy properly expresses what them and the other people I care about mean to me. It’s like there’s this itch under my skin where I want someone I care about to know I love them, and I feel my body misconstrue it. I’ve tried sexual intimacy, I’ve tried that kind of closeness, and the best way I can express it is that I feel tingly. Like pins and needles but without any reaction to it. I feel tingly and then I feel the tension subside and then I don’t feel anything. And then I feel disgust. My partner jokes that it’s « Catholic guilt » but that’s not it. I can see why it seems that way but it feels like (yet again in a vital way) the way my mind (and soul?) wants to interact with the world is in contrast to the way my body acts. I’ve tried to « cut myself off » because I know masturbating or the like doesn’t resolve anything. I know all it does is take the discomfort away but sooner or later it will be back. I like beautiful things (not in physical appearance way but in a more intimate psychological and artistic way), but I don’t want sex to be the way I express that. I feel tired, honestly. I don’t know how to appreciate the things and people I care about without my body intruding and demanding something that is not just unsatisfactory and uninteresting, but it just exhausts and disgusts me.
I guess, do y’all know of anyway to tackle this dissonance?
Oh and the touch. The gods’ damned touch. One moment I’m neutral to touch and the next the feeling of my clothes on my skin is driving me to the brink of a panic attack. And I can see it in my partner’s eyes how they don’t know when is the right or wrong time. How bitter and confused they look. And I’m just too damn tired to explain—and even if I could I wouldn’t be able to express everything fully before they somehow make it representative of the nature of our relationship and my opinion of them.
It feels like nothing could ever possibly go right. I feel like I want to pack up, take out a loan and rent an apartment. Live in isolation because it’s only when I’m alone that this shite feels more doable. Gods I feel so damn exhausted. Of myself. Of people.
I don’t know how to exist with people. I’m starting to feel more and more that I’m better with people when they’re not this close. When I can control the distance.
I hate when my partner’s hand is on my thigh and i feel my crotch react, because I know I don’t want this. I (my mind) does not want this, but it’s like I have to dig my nails into my skin before my body leaves me alone…

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Any hopeless romantic aces out there ?

I want to be in a relationship so bad but there isn't anyone that I'm attracted to in any way 😭😭 I see a pretty girl and I'm like 'damn she's fine' and then that's it. And even if I try to date it seems pointless cause I won't feel anything. I'd really like to find a QPR but where am I going to find someone like that ?? Especially in this country I haven't even met any aces in the wild.

I just want to have a partner to cuddle with and spend time with and it has to be a queer relationship.
I love love and I've been in love before. But, I just want someone that's special to me like that and they won't have any issues with me being who I am.

Can you relate?

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Go and fix your crooked smile first
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Me realizing I wasn't trans, I just didn't like being sexualized like all women:
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Does anyone else love being Asexual?

I love it. I don’t have sex because I just don’t want to. No thanks. The sex world isn’t for me.

But damn; I saw the lesbian subreddits on here thinking I could maybe post into them; I looked and was like, “So much sex and Acephobia I won’t be trying in these. Maybe the Asexual Subreddit will do something.”

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temu fashion, represents.
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How i found out i was ace

Me and my friends all sitting in a circle talking about sexuality when i realise ive no clue what i am

Me :Yo idk what i am what are some labels

My friend: well some people are lesbian some people are gay some people are bi or pan or omni etc and some people are ace

Me: wait whats ace

My friend: well ace or asexual people are people who have little to no sexual attraction

Me: (half joking) oh lol thats probably me cus i can never see myself beibg sexual with like anyone i just wanna die a virgin hahahahhahah lol lmaoo

Friend: uh yeah... thats the point

Me: ohhhhh so thats what that is

This was years ago in highschool and I've not wavered my opinion on sex since

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Are you 'in the closet' about your Asexuality?

I feel its a simpler life for me to just present as a typical heterosexual man.

My two main concerns are with coming out are:

1. People know I dated in my 20s and had 2 girlfriends where we averaged once a month sex - so I presume they wont believe me when I say have no desire to have sex.

2. I'm worried people may think i'm hiding behind asexuality to cover up something else like being gay in denial or having some sought of unusual kink.

Basically, I can see no upside of being 'out'.

With all that said, one person knows about my asexuality, but that was because they needed to know due to our friendship

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Can sex-repulsed asexuals watch spicy vids?




Yeah, ik this sounds stupid but i got curious abt it bc i never heard of asexuals that are sex-repulsed but still tolerate spicy vids or something like that.



Soooo yeah, i would like to know if it is possible for a sex-repulsed asexual to watch them. And if it is, would you like to talk abt it?

Im curious

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How is it like being asexual?

Your experiences?

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I like hugs. How do I find people to hug if my breath always smells like garlic bread?



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Any Egyptians here
https://www.reddit.com/r/ArabAsexual/comments/1o5xhsr/%D8%A7%D8%B9%D8%B1%D9%81_%D9%86%D9%81%D8%B3%D9%832/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web3x&utm_name=web3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button

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My bf broke up with me

I am Korean in early 20s. And I know I am asexual. I never felt comfortable with any sexual content ever in my life, and was not interested in any people that way.

This was my first serious relationship and it didn't went well. South Korea is not very opened to queer community and most of them doesn't know about the concept of asexual. When our relationship got a bit serious i told my ex that im a platonic person and was afraid of sex... He said he doesn't care and will wait until I was okay with it, he even said he already knew that I wouldn't be so into sexual stuff from the vibe I gave him before he got in to the relationship... so we got along well (or me just thinking it was going well). I tried to do *better* in the relationship... since I know my ex was sexually active and I couldn't fulfill that part of him. but 8 months in, he gave up. He said he cant continue this relationship if I cant have sex with him... It ended kinda dirty with other things he did while breaking up with me. I'm okay now but lost a little hope on dating. The whole situation going on while dating him was killing me inside, I lost 15kg in 8 months.

My question is... is dating as asexual better on other countries or is it the same? I know its gonna be difficult as well but is the situation any different from korea?

(english is not my first language sorry if it was too gibberish )

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Sexual men hate asexual women

I know this can bring drama by my experience really is that sexual men truly hate asexual women and find comfort in bullying them in any way they can think of. Has anyone else experienced this?
Why could this be?

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How do you feel when ovulating?

I’ve seen a couple posts/memes online over the years of people saying they become extremely horny/craving intimacy when ovulating. So I’m curious, how do my fellow asexual people feel during ovulation? For me I don’t notice any difference in sex drive and I never have so never really understood the “horny while ovulating” discourse.



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People Actually Do It?

I went to the grocery store earlier today and needed to grab some things from the personal care aisle. I walked by the display of condoms and thought to myself “I can’t believe people actually do that.” I’ve never once in my life desired sex or felt the need to masterbate. It’s just not something my body craves. It literally never crosses my mind. I could go my whole life without out it and be completely fine. I just can’t wrap my head around the fact that people need it like food and water. I feel like a defective robot that was made without the right hardware. I’m glad I found this community because it makes me realize that I’m not the only one out there with no sexual drive or desire.

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MY FRIEND CALLED ME A POSER ASEXUAL

So for more context, I am kinda sex repulsed and stuff but I'm also pan. Anyway, me and some of my friends decided to do a silly little thing and make a Google slide show with all the characters we would smash. It didn't actually mean I would smash them, but it was like a joke you know? So we print them out to show to our whole friend group. We're all having a good time and stuff and then comes my slide. It was mostly for giggles and stuff since I wasn't being serious, but one of my friends looked at it and shouted "You're a poser asexual! Asexual dont want to fuck anyone!" And one of them said "I thought Asexual didn't like anyone" then I had to explain that being Asexual meant not feeling sexual attraction (i still feel romantic attraction). But coming back to the first...what? How can I pose being Asexual? They have seen me gag when they talk about sex, and isn't asexuality a septum? Also this friend is always preaching about how they're the wokest and most left-wing of us all, so it's a bit funny that they dont know that.

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