Tired of finding NSFW when trying to find things I like
Ever since I first used the internet I'd regularly get jumpscared with nsfw content while trying to find stuff I liked. Safe search and filters have helped, but I'm just disgusted at how sexualized the internet is to the point that there's literally the meme of "rule 34" being used to fetishize everything. I feel uncomfortable even just searching for the stuff I enjoy online for fear some porn will appear in the search results. It's triggering and gross.
I'm tired of my mental illnesses being fetishized. I'm tired of my coping mechanisms being fetishized. I'm tired of feeling like a child when I'm almost 30 just because I can't stand the thought of being associated with anything sexual. The concept that it's supposedly normal for allosexuals to have sexual fantasies about real people without their consent is just really disgusting to me and I feel like I could never fully trust a romantic partner, or even just the average person online.
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Ever since I first used the internet I'd regularly get jumpscared with nsfw content while trying to find stuff I liked. Safe search and filters have helped, but I'm just disgusted at how sexualized the internet is to the point that there's literally the meme of "rule 34" being used to fetishize everything. I feel uncomfortable even just searching for the stuff I enjoy online for fear some porn will appear in the search results. It's triggering and gross.
I'm tired of my mental illnesses being fetishized. I'm tired of my coping mechanisms being fetishized. I'm tired of feeling like a child when I'm almost 30 just because I can't stand the thought of being associated with anything sexual. The concept that it's supposedly normal for allosexuals to have sexual fantasies about real people without their consent is just really disgusting to me and I feel like I could never fully trust a romantic partner, or even just the average person online.
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There are so many variations of asexuality but I think there's one thing we can all relate with
"You'll grow out of it"
"You just haven't find the right person for you yet"
When you tell people that you're not planning on marrying or having kids.
I know there are aces that date and have kids but I know most of us find these statements hella annoying.
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"You'll grow out of it"
"You just haven't find the right person for you yet"
When you tell people that you're not planning on marrying or having kids.
I know there are aces that date and have kids but I know most of us find these statements hella annoying.
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maybe its a pet peeve, but does anyone else roll their eyes at this?
at the joke that ace people write the "filthiest" smut or something? i dont know, i mean, some probably do, but it seems to be such a dumb joke, at least to me.
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at the joke that ace people write the "filthiest" smut or something? i dont know, i mean, some probably do, but it seems to be such a dumb joke, at least to me.
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Why do people jump to invalidating your identity?
Tw: brief mentions of sex
Small rant
I’ve noticed casual aphobia is pretty rampant. I’m not saying every single allo that says something aphobic is doing it on purpose, because I know most of the time it’s not, but I can absolutely tell when people are being deliberately obtuse. I don’t discuss my asexuality with people in my real life because I don’t really think it’s their business, I don’t want to have to explain something like asexuality to my family who (while accepting) doesn’t totally understand lgbtq+ identities. But I do discuss it online, and the responses I receive are really strange.
A lot of people jump to invalidating or trying to convince you you’re not asexual. Or making unwarranted suggestions. The amount of times I’ve heard “well, I thought I was asexual then tried XYZ turns out I’m not!” Good for you, but I’m actually asexual. No suggestions you make of things to try will ‘open my eyes’ to the fact that I’m not. it’s just really annoying that some people can’t accept that a group of people just aren’t really into sex or dislike it.
I don’t need your input on my asexuality, I don’t need your suggestions, and I don’t need your commentary. I know my own identity better than you would.
It’s especially annoying because I absolutely gave sex a fair shot at gauging my interest. I started out interested in it when I became sexually active, but I realized I actually didn’t really enjoy it or was interested in it. I was only interested in it because it was shiny and new. So it feels really insulting when people imply I just haven’t done it right or given it a fair shot. I don’t even hate sex or anything, I’m just not interested in it. It feels like a chore to me most of the time, sometimes the idea makes me uncomfortable. I think it’s too much work for too little reward. I only utilize it as a means of connection and intimacy with my partner. I don’t see it as necessary otherwise. If I went the rest of my life never having sex again I’d be perfectly happy with that.
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Tw: brief mentions of sex
Small rant
I’ve noticed casual aphobia is pretty rampant. I’m not saying every single allo that says something aphobic is doing it on purpose, because I know most of the time it’s not, but I can absolutely tell when people are being deliberately obtuse. I don’t discuss my asexuality with people in my real life because I don’t really think it’s their business, I don’t want to have to explain something like asexuality to my family who (while accepting) doesn’t totally understand lgbtq+ identities. But I do discuss it online, and the responses I receive are really strange.
A lot of people jump to invalidating or trying to convince you you’re not asexual. Or making unwarranted suggestions. The amount of times I’ve heard “well, I thought I was asexual then tried XYZ turns out I’m not!” Good for you, but I’m actually asexual. No suggestions you make of things to try will ‘open my eyes’ to the fact that I’m not. it’s just really annoying that some people can’t accept that a group of people just aren’t really into sex or dislike it.
I don’t need your input on my asexuality, I don’t need your suggestions, and I don’t need your commentary. I know my own identity better than you would.
It’s especially annoying because I absolutely gave sex a fair shot at gauging my interest. I started out interested in it when I became sexually active, but I realized I actually didn’t really enjoy it or was interested in it. I was only interested in it because it was shiny and new. So it feels really insulting when people imply I just haven’t done it right or given it a fair shot. I don’t even hate sex or anything, I’m just not interested in it. It feels like a chore to me most of the time, sometimes the idea makes me uncomfortable. I think it’s too much work for too little reward. I only utilize it as a means of connection and intimacy with my partner. I don’t see it as necessary otherwise. If I went the rest of my life never having sex again I’d be perfectly happy with that.
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