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can asexuals sexually desire within fantasy context?

So i consider myself asexual.

In real life, I rarely experience sexual attraction to anyone, and when I do, it’s short-term.

However, when I watch p.rn and see a specific actor (let’s call him M) in a sexual scene, I feel sexual desire specifically for M in that moment.

Outside of that scene, I don’t find M attractive, I am not attracted to him, and most likely I wouldn’t care about him even if I saw him naked in real life.

Does this mean I’m actually sexually attracted to M(because i do desire him when i see him in sexual scene) or is my desire only part of a fantasy attraction?



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Are You Aro (Advice)?

**Hi everyone!**



Welcome to our weekly Advice post about Aromanticism! Aromantic people experience little to no romantic attraction.



**Do any of these resonate with you?**

\* You rarely (if ever) experience crushes on others.

\* You find the idea of a romantic relationship unappealing, and prefer strong platonic bonds.

\* You've been in romantic relationships but felt like you were going through the motions.

\* You've researched what crushes are "supposed" to feel like, but can't relate.



These are just a few signs you might be Aromantic. Aromanticism is a spectrum, and every person's experience is unique.



\*\*Have questions about aromanticism or your own identity?\*\* Ask away in the comments below, and we'll and your fellow Aro’s will do the best to help!

* [**More signs that you are Aro**](https://aromanticguide.com/am-i-aro)

* [**Honeymoon Phase**](https://health.clevelandclinic.org/what-is-the-honeymoon-phase)

* [**Types of attraction (might be incomplete)**](https://types-of-attraction.carrd.co/)

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Am I Aromantic or just confused?

I'm really confused about what I am. For a while, I thought I was asexual, then I found out I was demisexual, but these days I don't know if I'm aromantic. I feel physical attraction to people, and I hang out with friends. I think kissing is super cool, and I find the idea of sex attractive when I'm in a relationship where I really trust the person (I CAN'T HOOK UP WITH SOMEONE I DON'T KNOW OR HAVEN'T GOTTEN CLOSE TO). When I have crushes on people, I get a little obsessed with them, but it doesn't last long, a maximum of 1/2 months. I've never felt those butterflies in my stomach or anything like that.

A while ago, I was "hooking up with someone," but I couldn't LIKE the person. Initially, I really liked the person, and I thought they were pretty and so on, but it turned out that I suddenly no longer thought they were pretty, interesting, or even cool. I thought that if the person simply disappeared without giving me an explanation, I wouldn't care. After we "broke up," I didn't suffer, I wasn't even sad.

I came across the question of whether I've NEVER really liked someone. I've had a few crushes, but every time I moved towards something more serious, I froze and couldn't have anything more with that person, so I distanced myself and instantly forgot about the person.

I really don't know if I'm aromantic. I know I've never fallen in love with anyone. I don't know if it's because I have bad luck, or if it's because I REALLY idealize what a relationship would be like, since I'm a lover of romance books/movies.

My friend asked me if I wasn't aromantic, and I simply didn't accept it because I loved the idea of romance, and I didn't know how to answer... If anyone can help, please, I'm willing to listen to everything!

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My phone changed the word "apostila" to "apothisexual" when I was texting my dad and I'm afraid he saw it and just didn't comment anything

if that's how he finds out about it honestly fuck my life man

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I swear it’s as if I killed their favorite celebrity.
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I swear it’s as if I killed their favorite celebrity.
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21M and looking for bros

Hi, I'm 21 M and bored . I'd like to make new friends and have new fun experiences. I like reading and listening to music. And on most days, I just watch YouTube videos.

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The duality of being asexual, a 2 parter :3

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Am I a pervert?

I'm struggling with this a lot. Here's the thing. I'm asexual. I've never felt sexual attraction to anyone, I could never jerk off to any of my crushes and even my partner doesn't turn me on. Whenever we have sex I don't need it to be reciprocated and we're happy with that. Whenever I watch porn (which is rarely since I don't jerk off that often, I mostly watch solo stuff and usually only get turned on by the sensation the person would get from said action).
My problem is the fact that although I don't get any sexual gratification from this, I still have a lot of sexual thoughts. I have a very dirty mind and I'm ashamed to admit that sometimes I think about being used by older men. I stare at people in the wrong way, but again, not in the way an actual creep would do it. But am I actually a creep? I don't know. I've been exposed to sexual material ever since I was a little kid. I've had stuff happen to me that might've affected my mindset. I was pretty sexualized by my ex and some other people when we were still in puberty (so like 14-15).
So what even am i? Am I a pervert? A creep?
I need somebody to explain to me what is happening because it's making me sick just thinking about my behavior and all the things that come out of my mouth. Please

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This may be dumb but can asexuality run in the family?

Look look look, hear me out. I literally know that's not how sexuality works 😭 I just thought it was interesting that both my sister and I are ace AF, idk about my brother but as far as I know he's never been attracted to anyone IRL (but what do ik he's an 18 y/o boy, who knows what he does in his free time) my younger sister on the other hand came out before I even understood that I also fit under the umbrella. I guess my real question is more so, is there a higher chance you can be ace if ur related to someone who is, kinda like if u have a bipolar parent you are more likely to have bipolar than the general public. I know this leans on the gay uncle debate, and I don't mean to offend, I've just not met many aces IRL so I thought it was weird my own sister was also ace.

Please be nice this is half a joke 😭

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Thank you Asexual Reddit community for existing!!!

I ended up here through a lot of Google searches about asexuality, in an attempt to understand myself better.
You guys are so fantastic!!

I've never seen anyone speak openly like this but I really wanted to thank you for being so welcoming and kind.
Thanks to you, I understood myself better and, on top of that, I realized how much I was harassed in my old relationship.
If I hadn't read the stories of you going through the same thing, I would never have realized.
Because I thought I owed him sex because he was my boyfriend.
But no, I don't owe anyone sex if I don't want it.

You really helped me a lot!! Thank you very much for this 🥹

Please don't stop being the light in the lives of so many acespec as you were in mine ❤️

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Am i asexual?

I'm an 18-year-old guy and I've been thinking a lot about my sexuality lately. I know for sure that I really like guys and I want to be with them in a romantic way, hug, spend time together, say warm words and generally be with him physically without sex. As for my attitude towards sex, it's very ambiguous. On the one hand, I can experience sexual arousal, but at the same time not want to do it. I sometimes masturbate, but for me it's more of a physical pleasure and I just like to please myself. As for pornography, I can easily watch it, but I often get bored and sometimes even disgusted.

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To me, sex feels like a chore

I don't know if anyone else feels this way, and i hope i can give more context to this.

Sex to me feels like a chore, and not the kind of chore you do for yourself? If that makes sense. Like brushing your teeth, cleaning your home, washing the dishes, cooking, doing laundry etc. Because in a way those are chores you have to do, to maintain a clean home, healthy body & mind and such. These are the kind of chores you do for yourself as well, for your own well being.

But sex to me feels like a kind of chore you would do for someone else in order to make them happy? Like doing just their laundry, washing only their dishes, taking out their trash etc. A chore which in no way shape of form brings you happiness, but makes you "relieved" you did it for them. Because you feel like you owe this to them? And at least they won't nag you about it anymore, or at least for a while. You wouldn't otherwise do this if you were alone, but since you are in a relationship you feel somewhat obligated to do these chores just for the another person.

I hope i make sense. I know i'm just rambling at this point, but i hope i might find someone who might feel a similar way. I would like to hear your opinions as well!

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Question for asexual people who have sex

Hi asexual community!!
I'm asexual homoromantic.

I have a question for all asexual people (above all for gay ace) who are sexually active.

How did you find out you like sex, even if you don't have sexual attraction?

Or do you do only sex to satisfy your partner desires?
In other words, can you describe what is sex for you?
Thanks in advance

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