Ace Book recommends?
Does anyone have any good asexual book recommendations? I’ve been wanting to buy some but don’t know which ones are worth the read or have actual good representation. (I didn’t know what flair to put so I just put represent lol) :]🖤🩶🤍💜
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Does anyone have any good asexual book recommendations? I’ve been wanting to buy some but don’t know which ones are worth the read or have actual good representation. (I didn’t know what flair to put so I just put represent lol) :]🖤🩶🤍💜
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I feel so free
Ever since I found out I was asexual a month or so ago I’ve felt so free not only that a few weeks after I then became aromatic too. I’ve just never felt so free like I don’t have to worry about any norms or standards.
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Ever since I found out I was asexual a month or so ago I’ve felt so free not only that a few weeks after I then became aromatic too. I’ve just never felt so free like I don’t have to worry about any norms or standards.
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non ace people calling characters ace
would love to know if this is just me, but does anyone else get really suspicious when non ace people headcanon a character as ace or aroace? it almost never feels in good faith and it always tends to be towards characters that are perceived as ‘cold’ or ‘emotionless’
i would appreciate the spreading of awareness of asexuality, if it actually felt like they were educated on it but most of the time they aren’t. it just feels like they see an ‘unemotional’ character who isn’t as focused on romance/sex as others and immediately go ‘asexual’, without even realising that it’s a spectrum and plenty of ace people are sexually active or are in relationships. i feel like most of the time it’s just harmful stereotypes being reinforced but they want to seem inclusive, or they use our labels to stave off a ship they don’t like but want to seem like they have a ‘smart’ reason. it just feels like everyone who can’t relate just really misunderstands asexuality.
it also feels problematic to assert that any character not focused on being in a relationship/sleeping with people must not feel attraction, instead of just making the choice to not do that, inadvertently reinforcing the idea that sex/romance is integral and you have to want it if you feel attraction. especially feels problematic towards female characters.
for example: if an ace person headcanons wednesday addams as being ace, im like yeah that makes sense! i personally see her as demi, but any hc from an ace person is so valid to me. but if an allo person does it, it feels like it’s never in good faith and it’s because she’s perceived as having no emotion or not showing affection, even though that’s not true.
an ace headcanon i universally love is vigilante because he’s clearly asexual but still sex positive and extremely expressive, so it doesn’t feel like they saw a deadpan character and went ‘oh they must be ace or aroace’
idk this is just a pet peeve of mine and i wanted to know if it was just me lol
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would love to know if this is just me, but does anyone else get really suspicious when non ace people headcanon a character as ace or aroace? it almost never feels in good faith and it always tends to be towards characters that are perceived as ‘cold’ or ‘emotionless’
i would appreciate the spreading of awareness of asexuality, if it actually felt like they were educated on it but most of the time they aren’t. it just feels like they see an ‘unemotional’ character who isn’t as focused on romance/sex as others and immediately go ‘asexual’, without even realising that it’s a spectrum and plenty of ace people are sexually active or are in relationships. i feel like most of the time it’s just harmful stereotypes being reinforced but they want to seem inclusive, or they use our labels to stave off a ship they don’t like but want to seem like they have a ‘smart’ reason. it just feels like everyone who can’t relate just really misunderstands asexuality.
it also feels problematic to assert that any character not focused on being in a relationship/sleeping with people must not feel attraction, instead of just making the choice to not do that, inadvertently reinforcing the idea that sex/romance is integral and you have to want it if you feel attraction. especially feels problematic towards female characters.
for example: if an ace person headcanons wednesday addams as being ace, im like yeah that makes sense! i personally see her as demi, but any hc from an ace person is so valid to me. but if an allo person does it, it feels like it’s never in good faith and it’s because she’s perceived as having no emotion or not showing affection, even though that’s not true.
an ace headcanon i universally love is vigilante because he’s clearly asexual but still sex positive and extremely expressive, so it doesn’t feel like they saw a deadpan character and went ‘oh they must be ace or aroace’
idk this is just a pet peeve of mine and i wanted to know if it was just me lol
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People who have come out as ace - what's your age?
I just am curious if older people are coming out as ace, or just the youths? I am 42, and don't think it's anybody's business, but I have read lots of posts here about people coming out.
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I just am curious if older people are coming out as ace, or just the youths? I am 42, and don't think it's anybody's business, but I have read lots of posts here about people coming out.
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I made my bff an ace hat and ace bandana! (We are both aro ace) Both are a combo of existing crochet patterns and my own tweaks/additions.
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I'm sick of being objectified
For context I am a 16 identifies female born female apothisexual, I work at a wendy's and I am just sick of being seen as a body or a women first and a person with feelings second The amount of times someone has come in and would just stare at my br***ts the entire time they were ordering and make comments like oh you remind me of my granddaughter(To be clear in a creepy way usually the ones who stare) or your so pretty(again in a creepy way), even had a late 30s man ask me on a date once, is sickening the fact that someone can just go into a fast food place leer at a minor and make creepy comments and it's seen as normal is honestly so revolting to me. I genuinely just hate it I have two older sisters who have had numerous similar/worse situations mean while my brothers have had no such similar situations(obviously this still happens to some men but it is unfortunately way more common and normalized to sexualize and objectify women)
sorry about my bad grammar I wasn't sure how to word this in the way I wanted to also sorry if this breaks any rules of the subreddit
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For context I am a 16 identifies female born female apothisexual, I work at a wendy's and I am just sick of being seen as a body or a women first and a person with feelings second The amount of times someone has come in and would just stare at my br***ts the entire time they were ordering and make comments like oh you remind me of my granddaughter(To be clear in a creepy way usually the ones who stare) or your so pretty(again in a creepy way), even had a late 30s man ask me on a date once, is sickening the fact that someone can just go into a fast food place leer at a minor and make creepy comments and it's seen as normal is honestly so revolting to me. I genuinely just hate it I have two older sisters who have had numerous similar/worse situations mean while my brothers have had no such similar situations(obviously this still happens to some men but it is unfortunately way more common and normalized to sexualize and objectify women)
sorry about my bad grammar I wasn't sure how to word this in the way I wanted to also sorry if this breaks any rules of the subreddit
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Asexual reproduction!
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According to this, we asexuals have a special method of reproduction! Stay garlicy :P
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can asexuals sexually desire within fantasy context?
So i consider myself asexual.
In real life, I rarely experience sexual attraction to anyone, and when I do, it’s short-term.
However, when I watch p.rn and see a specific actor (let’s call him M) in a sexual scene, I feel sexual desire specifically for M in that moment.
Outside of that scene, I don’t find M attractive, I am not attracted to him, and most likely I wouldn’t care about him even if I saw him naked in real life.
Does this mean I’m actually sexually attracted to M(because i do desire him when i see him in sexual scene) or is my desire only part of a fantasy attraction?
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So i consider myself asexual.
In real life, I rarely experience sexual attraction to anyone, and when I do, it’s short-term.
However, when I watch p.rn and see a specific actor (let’s call him M) in a sexual scene, I feel sexual desire specifically for M in that moment.
Outside of that scene, I don’t find M attractive, I am not attracted to him, and most likely I wouldn’t care about him even if I saw him naked in real life.
Does this mean I’m actually sexually attracted to M(because i do desire him when i see him in sexual scene) or is my desire only part of a fantasy attraction?
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