Bread?

Other than ✨Garlic Bread✨, what are your favourite varieties of bread? (I'm partial to cinnamon)

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Am I asexual?

Ever since my bf of a year broke up with me, I haven’t felt sexual attraction to anyone. Could I just be missing the sexual connection I had with him or could I be asexual?

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Has anyone else experienced this on Reddit?

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We’ve won
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For the 14 people who recognize it
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I’m so far removed from sex I just don’t care.

I really don’t. I’m asexual because I just don’t care.

Sex sounds so boring. I never understood why people liked it.

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ace and allo relationship

I'm ace F19 and I finally found a guy that I like and he actually likes me back, he's M21. we haven't talked about it yet, but I'm assuming he's allo. I'm just concerned that this relationship isn't gonna go anywhere because of our sexuality difference.
does anyone have any advice on how early into this I should tell him I'm ace? or advice on how to make it work between us if he is allo?
thanks guys<3

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Can you find a body nice or attractive as an aesthetic appeal without finding it sexually appealing?




Like. Finding a body form or shape attractive or nice but you don’t find it sexually attractive.


Or see it like a renaissance statues or something like that.


Bc i do. I can find a body nice. I have Heard ppl saying nice body to others when they like someone. I always thought they meant the aesthetic appeal until they would tell me what they want to do with their body….


I never thought of doing something sexual with a body and i still dont. But i do find them huggable ( all bodies. I mean it as a compliment. I love hugs )

I would want to hug them but never go far from doing anything sexual.


Or maybe paint one like a renaissance painting.



I appreciate the aesthetic appeal but never gotten what was so appealing to do something sexual with someones body when you love them.

I dont think i feel this way. Idk how it feels.




So yeah, like the title says, can an asexual find a body nice as an aesthetic appeal instead of sexual? I would like to know

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Am I Asexual?

If you are questioning whether or not you are asexual (including all microlabels), reply to this post with what made you start questioning, and why.

If you are too shy to post a reply, then you can scroll through the responses for the advice you may be searching for.

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It's simple math , please🥲
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Bro why is it that religious people praise abstinency but not asexuality?

(I do understand that many asexuals do want to have sex and aren’t commonly abstinent but this is my experience and I am abstinent along with asexuality.)

Carrying on…

I recently talked to an extremely religious person who I knew to be lgbtqi(mind the absence of the a) accepting. I mentioned in passing that I was asexual and they flipped out! They said that there’s a first floor suite waiting for me in hell.

They also said that I shouldn’t say that I was on the lgbtqi spectrum since they said I was a “straight person who either couldn’t or didn’t want to have sex” (I am a minor btw.) they also said that if I was abstinent I should just “say it instead of trying to be special with a fake title”

I also mentioned that I was gay aroace where they said that “I couldn’t be two things and (once again) are just trying to be special.)

They also said the classic “sexuality is just a basic human need” line, which I obviously disagreed with. When I mentioned that I was also aromantic (making me aroace) they said something very similar, at this moment I really didn’t know what to do so I said that they could think whatever the hell she wanted and carried on with what I was saying before (which was something about photography btw)

Sorry for the long post.

TLDR; aphobe gets pissy about a passing mention. (I wish my phone would stop trying to autocorrect “aphobe”)

If you read that all, have a chocolate 🍫

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“If you're sex-averse and don't watch porn, what do you even do for fun?” me in my room:

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I'm just trying to have a drink
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Disappointed really vent
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funny way i found out i was ace

when i was around 6-ish, i had a fear of randomly becoming pregnant when you reached adulthood (as in becoming pregnant without sexual contact). i would literally go to bed SHAKING because i knew i would become an adult someday, and that meant surprise baby in my uneducated mind.

at 14, i had heard about asexuality, and the term clicked with me. at that point, i was never sexually attracted to anyone, even while going through puberty.

now, at 17, i feel like my childhood fear of pregnancy had a part in me discovering i was ace. the idea of becoming pregnant still makes me queasy, but i know now that it'll most likely never happen to me.

just a funny story i wanted to share since i was a dumb kid, but i guess it helped in the long run 😅

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Heartstopper Asexuality Representation

As an ace person, I’m really curious to hear people’s thoughts about the aro/ace representation in Heartstopper.

When I discussed my criticism of the show in the main Heartstopper sub, I got a lot of downvotes because, according to them; ‘Isaac is the only aroace character in a romance show’ so ‘of course he wouldn’t have much screentime’. But for me Heartstopper isn’t just a romance show. It explores queerness, friendship, bullying, conformity, (platonic) love, and identity; all themes that are extremely relatable and relevant to aro/ace people. I love the show (have watched it countless times lol) but honestly feel that asexuality could have been explored in a slightly more in-depth and nuanced way.

For me one of my favourite ‘representation’ moments in the show wasn’t actually a scene with Isaac (the openly ace character) but the scene where Nick and Charlie (both allosexual) first discuss sex and Charlie is like, “I’d only want to do it if you did, and if you didn’t ever want to do it, then I wouldn’t either”. I saw people on Twitter saying that dialogue/scene was 'cheesy', 'the bare minimum', 'unrealistic' etc, but for me that line represents the exact kind of healthy communication and affirmation of identity I want to have in my future relationship as an ace person :)

I’m appreciative to see aroace rep in mainstream media, but to be completely honest, I find the rest of the asexual ‘moments’ in Heartstopper a little lacking and overly simple. I was disappointed that much of the aroace discussions in Season 3 felt shoehorned in and as if they didn’t get the same care, time and exploration as all of the other identities represented on the show. Especially when Alice Oseman said she had ‘big ace plans’ for Isaac and because I loved her novel ‘Loveless’…I suppose I was expecting a little more from the show. I also hate that we know very little about Isaac's personality, life, and back story. Kind of feeds into the stereotype of ace people being ‘innocent’, ‘childish’, ‘boring in the bedroom = boring in life’ caricature. 

Anyways, sorry for the long post and I’m curious to hear what others think!

Edit: I also want to add that I'm not judging anyone who likes or enjoys the asexual representation on the show! I actually thought the scene where Isaac hugged the Ace book in the library was really, really beautiful, among many other moments :)

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Thoughts about sex as an asexual

I hate those people who say that sex is the most intimate and spiritual thing you can do with another person or some shit like that... I've seen multiple posts saying this. And it's so fucking stupid. Animals have sex and you're not saying the same thing about it. Sex to humans is like eating and sleeping, we need it to survive (we need sex at certain levels to procreate) but also like to do it for pleasure. (When I say "we" I mean the general population.)
By putting it on such a pedestal like this it erases the idea that people can love each other completely without having sex. It erases asexuality entirely. And removes the idea that romantic attraction can exist on its own without being anything less.
I'm not trying to downplay it and say that sex isn't important, that it doesn't connect people. It probably does I just frankly don't care and don't experience that myself.
As long as it's being done between to consenting people than good for you!
But this shit is purely purity culture. Sex isn't all that great- just another thing animals do.
Idk maybe I'm understanding this wrong but this is what I was thinking about last night staring at my ceiling.

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