I joined AceSpace. Wish me luck!

I am 42 have finally realized I am ace after decades of failed relationships and thinking there was something wrong with me. And I am excited to have found this community that is so incredibly welcoming, so I feel like I am not alone in my Journey.

That said, I have been struggling to find people in person who are ace whom I can add to my circle. I’ve told a few people about my revelation and they mostly have been supportive but confused about it. I want friends, and ultimately a relationship, with people who really understand.

I’m hoping AceSpace can help me with that. It’s not giving me a ton of results, only 6 people or so in a 100 mile radius. But I’m hopeful patience will win out here.


Anyone have positive experiences they can share?


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Asexual/ARomantic Looking for friends or possible relationship.
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I tried sx but heck nah, I felt like I betrayed myself :')
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I hate my queen bed 😭

When I finally moved out, I went shopping at Ikea with my family to buy a bed. And I got pressured to get a queen sized bed. They said "trust me you want a big bed". But why?!?! I'm not having one night stands! There's no demand for ace guys in this dating market so who is the other side of the bed for?! I just want to play Elden Ring on a 65 inch screen and eat sushi, but because of this giant ass bed in my awkwardly designed studio apartment, there's no space for a TV or couch!

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Hehe Look What I Made
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Me be like
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Look at what arrived yesterday! :D

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Pornography

Do asexual people watch pornography?

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i know this is probably an extremely dumb question, but are asexuals allowed to have septum piercings?

i’ve seen quite a few comments online now expressing frustration when straight people wear septum rings bc its “queerbaiting”. and im wondering, is it the same for us asexuals? i dont want to lead people on just bc i have a septum ring, but i also want to express myself how i want. anyone else have thoughts on this? i know it sounds ridiculous😭 i’ve only realized im asexual as of recently

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My wife recently realized she might be on the asexual spectrum and it’s kind of rocked my world

I’ve been with my wife for 16 years, married 10 with 3 kids. She is sex-positive, and we’ve had what I thought was an ok sex life. I’ve always figured she had a lower sex drive but she’d try to get in the zone and said it does feel good.

Lately, though, she’s been thinking more about desire and how she thinks about sex. To hear her describe it, anything sexual is more often about the physical release and sensation than acting on some desire or lust. She says occasionally she feels a craving for it, but it tends to be short-lived. On top of this, there is a lot of complicated baggage about wanting to make me happy, her self image, shame around sex, and being “broken.”

She hasn’t been explicit about this self-exploration, but it came to a head the other night. I asked if she wanted to have sex, since it’d been several weeks, and had been really craving her. She said no, which I 100% respected, but it kind of dawned on me that she almost never wants me, and probably won’t ever want me the way I want her. That’s been a hard realization to process and tbh makes me pretty sad. We had a big talk where she explained her feelings and what she’s been exploring, and that convo has re-contextualized our whole sexual relationship. It’s been a rough couple of days.

In no way do I want her to try to change or do I want to pressure her or anything. I love her more than anything, and love our life together, and I want her to understand herself fully. Maybe this isn’t the right place for partner support, but it feels bad realizing that our sexual relationship hasn’t been what I thought it was, and it might never be what I think I need.

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Hormones, Brain, and Body can't agree on what they want

I don't know how my hormones didn't get the memo but this always fucking happens around this time of the month. I literally don't know how to deal with it, it's uncomfortable, and it feels like my own body is trying to coerce me into things I don't want to do. Sometimes I wonder if I'm repressed but whenever I actually try to do what my hormones want nothing even fucking happens and I just want to make it stop permanently. I just don't have the hardware or software to do this shit

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I will now proceed to levitate!
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What is the best kind of cake?

I'm partial to lemon cake myself.

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Can't think of a title
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HELLO

Hello, I would love to have new friends 😊😊😊😊😊

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am i asexual?

i have never actually had a desire to be in a relationship. i've been in two before, but the whole lovey dovey act genuinely turns me off so much, but for some reason everyone else acts like its completely normal. i still get mildly attracted to people in a way, but i don't want a relationship ever again, and tbh i never wanted to be in one in the first place but i just felt like i had to. i'd much prefer to be close friends or fuck buddies but the label 'girlfriend' or 'boyfriend' just ruins everything for me. i need help on why i am this way, because whenever i confess this to anyone they look at me like i'm crazy or say it's because i have childhood trauma or something. my brother said it must be because i'm gay, but i don't believe i am. i was just wondering if the people on here had a similar experience to me?

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If aromantic people can have romantic relationships, could alloromantic people be friends with someone they're romantically attracted to?



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Alrighty, i just wanna make sure im not alone

I feel so out of place.

Lets just say, im in highschool and.. you probably know how this goes.

I just want a genuine conversation and friend where we can hangout, talk, bond, dance, goof off, etc, without everything turned sexual.

So far, i am unsuccessful with this matter. People here are either crazy horny, rude, talk crap behind peoples backs, etc.

Like, at this point, im just trying to find someone who sex isn’t everything to them and are at the very least, respectful.

People here will look at you and be like, “thats the one” without even talking to you. Then ask you out, or only talk to you because they had that physical interest and would like to get to know you more because they like how you look.

People checking people out, like crazy, chatting with their friends about someone as they walk by. Dude, im talking about these people are the type of people on why we have a dress code. Cuz i’ve met people, if you could see an outline of someones bra through their shirt, someone is wearing leggings, etc, and they go feral and its insane. “Dang.. that girl needs to cover up…” thirsty type of people. Most people here just wants to bang!! Its nasty and just straight up rude and disrespectful at this point.

Im just looking for just one respectful person and partner to be by my side. Someone who understand me, and i, them. Someone who we can match eachothers energy. Someone who is respectful enough to not check people out, and just NOT BE A FREAKING PERVERT. WHERE IS THE RESPECT IN THIS WORLD- WHY IS IT SO HARD TO FIND-

I have multiple friend groups here, but why does none of them feel like home? if that even makes sense. I just wish i had one person, one person.

Unless i just need to accept this alone factor, i got my dog, my hobbies, my music, etc haha.

Thanks for listening lol! Havea great day! ✨✨✨ take some garlic bread lol spawns garlic bread





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