One of my psychiatrists said I am asexual because of my extreme arrogance
I once visited a psychiatrist maybe I was 20 at that time. I desire sex and have had sex with more than 50 men in my life, all hook-ups. I have had sexual encounters with women as well. But I do not feel physically attracted to anyone. I do feel pleasure during sex but I do not feel sexually attracted to any man or woman regardless of how attractive they are.
When I asked my psychiatrist about this, he said that I am extremely arrogant and put myself above the rest of humanity. He said I think being attracted to someone while they are not attracted to me feels like disrespect. He said I have filled my mind with so many ideas of superiority that I protect myself with maladaptive mechanisms. He even said I am narcissistic about my narcissism.
Does it make sense?
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I once visited a psychiatrist maybe I was 20 at that time. I desire sex and have had sex with more than 50 men in my life, all hook-ups. I have had sexual encounters with women as well. But I do not feel physically attracted to anyone. I do feel pleasure during sex but I do not feel sexually attracted to any man or woman regardless of how attractive they are.
When I asked my psychiatrist about this, he said that I am extremely arrogant and put myself above the rest of humanity. He said I think being attracted to someone while they are not attracted to me feels like disrespect. He said I have filled my mind with so many ideas of superiority that I protect myself with maladaptive mechanisms. He even said I am narcissistic about my narcissism.
Does it make sense?
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Sex-repulsed while being both romantic and sensual definitely causes some problems
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Better than Sex: Ace Edition
Living in the world where sex is seen as peak pleasure is odd. I have like a million of things that feel better than sex. Here is my incomplete list in no particular order:
That moment of pure presence
That first sip of a perfectly brewed cup of coffee or tea
Reading a book so good you forget time exists
Ice-cold water when you’re thirsty
Finding forgotten money in an old pocket
Falling down youtube music rabbit holes
Falling down rabbit holes of trailers so good you don’t even care about the movies anymore
A warm hug from someone you love
Laughing till your stomach hurts
All green lights on the way home
Getting into clean sheets after a hot shower
Someone you love remembering the little things
Writing or drawing and losing track of time
Feeling weightless floating on water
Sun on your face on a cold day
Flipping your pillow to the good side
What feels better than sex for you?
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Living in the world where sex is seen as peak pleasure is odd. I have like a million of things that feel better than sex. Here is my incomplete list in no particular order:
That moment of pure presence
That first sip of a perfectly brewed cup of coffee or tea
Reading a book so good you forget time exists
Ice-cold water when you’re thirsty
Finding forgotten money in an old pocket
Falling down youtube music rabbit holes
Falling down rabbit holes of trailers so good you don’t even care about the movies anymore
A warm hug from someone you love
Laughing till your stomach hurts
All green lights on the way home
Getting into clean sheets after a hot shower
Someone you love remembering the little things
Writing or drawing and losing track of time
Feeling weightless floating on water
Sun on your face on a cold day
Flipping your pillow to the good side
What feels better than sex for you?
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Sounds like the perfect vibe. No distracting nudity, just delicious food
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The majority thinks we will be wiped first, what are y'all's thoughts?
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hypersexuality?
hii im new here^^ i wish this post doesnt violate any rule (i already read them all) but is it possible that i've felt ace pretty much my whole life but at some point also developed hypersexuality due to trauma? let me know:3
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hii im new here^^ i wish this post doesnt violate any rule (i already read them all) but is it possible that i've felt ace pretty much my whole life but at some point also developed hypersexuality due to trauma? let me know:3
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Can you trust your partner without wanting to have sex with them?
Bc anytime when i hear abt ppl needing to have sex with partners, they would always say its bc they trust their body with them which i think its okay tbh if you do.
But can it be possible to trust your partner even without wanting to have sex?
Bc ppl put on trust with sex but if i were in a relationship, it would be sexless.
I do this bc i am sex-repulsed, but it doesnt mean that i don’t trust a partner ( if i even have a crush. I don’t even know what i am talking abt ). Or that i don’t love them for not having the same attraction as them
And if i do end up having a partner i don’t want them to misunderstand that. I don’t want them to think that i dont wanna have sex with them bc i dont trust them.
Like… it just feels uncomfortable Especially since i would have to justify that this isnt them reason why. I dont wanna force myself to have sex with them but i also don’t want them to think that i don’t trust them bc of that. I wish there was a way to trust someone without them needing a body to do so.
Like, can there be a way of trusting your partner with your body on not having sex or on not leading to that?
Bc i would totally appreciate it if i dont need to.
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Bc anytime when i hear abt ppl needing to have sex with partners, they would always say its bc they trust their body with them which i think its okay tbh if you do.
But can it be possible to trust your partner even without wanting to have sex?
Bc ppl put on trust with sex but if i were in a relationship, it would be sexless.
I do this bc i am sex-repulsed, but it doesnt mean that i don’t trust a partner ( if i even have a crush. I don’t even know what i am talking abt ). Or that i don’t love them for not having the same attraction as them
And if i do end up having a partner i don’t want them to misunderstand that. I don’t want them to think that i dont wanna have sex with them bc i dont trust them.
Like… it just feels uncomfortable Especially since i would have to justify that this isnt them reason why. I dont wanna force myself to have sex with them but i also don’t want them to think that i don’t trust them bc of that. I wish there was a way to trust someone without them needing a body to do so.
Like, can there be a way of trusting your partner with your body on not having sex or on not leading to that?
Bc i would totally appreciate it if i dont need to.
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Can you trust your partner without wanting to have sex with them?
Bc anytime when i hear abt ppl needing to have sex with partners, they would always say its bc they trust their body with them which i think its okay tbh if you do.
But can it be possible to trust your partner even without wanting to have sex?
Bc ppl put on trust with sex but if i were in a relationship, it would be sexless.
I do this bc i am sex-repulsed, but it doesnt mean that i don’t trust a partner ( if i even have a crush. I don’t even know what i am talking abt ). Or that i don’t love them for not having the same attraction as them
And if i do end up having a partner i don’t want them to misunderstand that. I don’t want them to think that i dont wanna have sex with them bc i dont trust them.
Like… it just feels uncomfortable Especially since i would have to justify that this isnt them reason why. I dont wanna force myself to have sex with them but i also don’t want them to think that i don’t trust them bc of that. I wish there was a way to trust someone without them needing a body to do so.
Like, can there be a way of trusting your partner with your body on not having sex or on not leading to that?
Bc i would totally appreciate it if i dont need to.
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Bc anytime when i hear abt ppl needing to have sex with partners, they would always say its bc they trust their body with them which i think its okay tbh if you do.
But can it be possible to trust your partner even without wanting to have sex?
Bc ppl put on trust with sex but if i were in a relationship, it would be sexless.
I do this bc i am sex-repulsed, but it doesnt mean that i don’t trust a partner ( if i even have a crush. I don’t even know what i am talking abt ). Or that i don’t love them for not having the same attraction as them
And if i do end up having a partner i don’t want them to misunderstand that. I don’t want them to think that i dont wanna have sex with them bc i dont trust them.
Like… it just feels uncomfortable Especially since i would have to justify that this isnt them reason why. I dont wanna force myself to have sex with them but i also don’t want them to think that i don’t trust them bc of that. I wish there was a way to trust someone without them needing a body to do so.
Like, can there be a way of trusting your partner with your body on not having sex or on not leading to that?
Bc i would totally appreciate it if i dont need to.
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Free LGBTQ refugees South Sudan
To my family, my friends, and to anyone who may read this:
Today, I am preparing to take a journey that may change my life forever,or end it. I write these words not only as a goodbye but as an explanation, so that if I do not survive, my story will not vanish in silence.
I did not choose this life. I fled my home when I was still young because of who I am,because being LGBTQ+ where I come from meant danger, rejection, and violence. I ran with nothing but hope, believing that somewhere in the world, there must be a place where I could live freely, love openly, and exist without fear.
But the journey has been cruel. Years have passed, and I remain trapped in refugee camps where life has stopped moving. The promises of safety turned into endless waiting waiting for resettlement, waiting for acceptance, waiting for a future that never comes. Every day is survival. There are no jobs, no opportunities, no dignity. The walls around me may not be made of concrete, but they are just as real.
I have tried everything. I have knocked on every door, filled out every form, begged for every chance,but the world moves slowly, and my hope has been breaking piece by piece. I see others around me give up, and I fear I am becoming one of them.
So, I have made the hardest decision of my life: I am leaving.
I know the risks. I know I may be arrested, beaten, robbed, trafficked, or even die at sea. But staying here means a slower death,the death of dreams, of identity, of purpose. People will ask, “Why risk everything?” And my answer will be this: because staying means living without ever being alive. Because I would rather die reaching for freedom than spend the rest of my life trapped in silence and fear.
I am not chasing wealth or luxury. I am chasing something far simpler: the right to exist. I dream of living in a place where I can walk hand in hand with someone I love, where I can work, where my name and my identity are respected, where I am not defined by shame or secrecy.
Do not blame me for leaving. Do not hate me for risking everything. I love my homeland, but it did not love me back. I have been abandoned by leaders who pretend not to see us, and forgotten by a world that looks away while we suffer in silence.
If I make it, I will not forget where I came from. I will carry my country in my heart and do what I can to help others like me. But if I don’t survive,if the sea swallows me, if the borders close on me, if the road takes me before I reach the light,then let these words be my voice.
Tell the world I did not run for riches. I ran for my life.
Tell them I was tired of being invisible.
Tell them I wanted to live, love, and breathe as my true self.
And to those I love,forgive me for leaving you behind. It is the hardest thing I have ever done. I carry your faces, your prayers, and your memories with me. I go with fear, yes… but also with courage. Because even when everything is against you, there is still strength in hope.
A refugee, an exile, a dreamer,but above all, a human being.
#freeLGBT refugees South Sudan.
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To my family, my friends, and to anyone who may read this:
Today, I am preparing to take a journey that may change my life forever,or end it. I write these words not only as a goodbye but as an explanation, so that if I do not survive, my story will not vanish in silence.
I did not choose this life. I fled my home when I was still young because of who I am,because being LGBTQ+ where I come from meant danger, rejection, and violence. I ran with nothing but hope, believing that somewhere in the world, there must be a place where I could live freely, love openly, and exist without fear.
But the journey has been cruel. Years have passed, and I remain trapped in refugee camps where life has stopped moving. The promises of safety turned into endless waiting waiting for resettlement, waiting for acceptance, waiting for a future that never comes. Every day is survival. There are no jobs, no opportunities, no dignity. The walls around me may not be made of concrete, but they are just as real.
I have tried everything. I have knocked on every door, filled out every form, begged for every chance,but the world moves slowly, and my hope has been breaking piece by piece. I see others around me give up, and I fear I am becoming one of them.
So, I have made the hardest decision of my life: I am leaving.
I know the risks. I know I may be arrested, beaten, robbed, trafficked, or even die at sea. But staying here means a slower death,the death of dreams, of identity, of purpose. People will ask, “Why risk everything?” And my answer will be this: because staying means living without ever being alive. Because I would rather die reaching for freedom than spend the rest of my life trapped in silence and fear.
I am not chasing wealth or luxury. I am chasing something far simpler: the right to exist. I dream of living in a place where I can walk hand in hand with someone I love, where I can work, where my name and my identity are respected, where I am not defined by shame or secrecy.
Do not blame me for leaving. Do not hate me for risking everything. I love my homeland, but it did not love me back. I have been abandoned by leaders who pretend not to see us, and forgotten by a world that looks away while we suffer in silence.
If I make it, I will not forget where I came from. I will carry my country in my heart and do what I can to help others like me. But if I don’t survive,if the sea swallows me, if the borders close on me, if the road takes me before I reach the light,then let these words be my voice.
Tell the world I did not run for riches. I ran for my life.
Tell them I was tired of being invisible.
Tell them I wanted to live, love, and breathe as my true self.
And to those I love,forgive me for leaving you behind. It is the hardest thing I have ever done. I carry your faces, your prayers, and your memories with me. I go with fear, yes… but also with courage. Because even when everything is against you, there is still strength in hope.
A refugee, an exile, a dreamer,but above all, a human being.
#freeLGBT refugees South Sudan.
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