Do we have stereotypes?

So I feel like all other sexual orientations have stereotypes: like gay men are feminine, or gay women move way too fast, or bisexuals are artsy/alternative. Not saying I agree with these or anything, but they definitely exist.

So I guess I’m wondering if there are similar ideas about asexuals that you have heard?

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Is being asexual a blessing?

Would love to hear your thoughts!

Personally, I find it to be a true blessing. The way asexual people love truly warms my heart. Loving someone for who they are and not what they give you. One of the purest forms of love in my opinion! Many asexual people love being close with their partner and sharing life with them. Atleast based on my experience! Thanks to my wonderful fiancé who healed me from a overly sexual ex. (The guy got bricked while I was crying one time!) I love my fiancé and his asexuality is a wonderful part of him which constantly brightens up our relationship. Such an affectionate man, I love him lots.

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"Nice" isn't a conditional thing you get paid back. If you are "nice" to earn something. You are attempting to engage in business transactions

I put this in "unpopular opinion" reddit and it was so unpopular it got locked immediately.

Though I feel it's likely very reluvant to this community and id like to know if you all agree.

The idea of "Nice guys" are not really nice people. A nice person is someone who is kind to others either out of sympathy, manners or human decency.

The idea of a "Nice guy" is in fact a marketing ploy. This is a marketing scheme and thats literally all it is.

Now some people suck at selling a product and marketing that product. In this case they would be the product and thier niceness is attempting to real in customers. Thier payment is what they expect to earn be is romance, favor, a date.

Since they are bad at marketing the market often rejects them. They are basically the same type of folks who throw a fit when they ask someone like the dude on Bar rescue to help fix thier bar.

Than say they are too good to listen to the host of show becuase "I know better than anyone". The fact of the matter is anyone can own a business, it doesn't mean you know how to market, sell or keep a customer.

In business you don't hold customers by gun piont. In fact that might arguably be considered extortion. An extortionist is not a business person. They are a crook.

Ironically, You dont see strippers, daddy's, sugars, pimps, hookers having a fit they didnt make enough sales. They know how business goes. So it shouldn't be different to someone selling thier kindness for romance.

You dont get customers by gun piont. You dont whine when you can't sell a product and if you are a truly nice person, you are nice if you are selling a product or being a freind. People need to stop getting into the business world when they can't read the market.

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“I’ve fully accepted being asexual – but people keep saying I’ll be alone forever.”

Hi everyone 💜
I'm a 22-year-old asexual woman from Iran, and I’ve fully embraced who I am.

I don’t feel sexual attraction — and that doesn’t make me broken. In fact, I love deeply, emotionally, and purely.

Still, people around me say things like:
"You’ll be alone forever."
"No one will love you unless you give them sex."

It hurts, but I refuse to believe love needs sex to exist.

Have you faced this? How did you deal with it? I’d love to hear your stories.

Sending a lotus hug 🪷
– Hannah

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Anything

Don't know what I am looking for, but want to learn everything about asexual spectrum, romantic and aromatic attraction also..

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Written by those above it
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Do you prefer to say you’re “asexual”, “on the ace spectrum”, or something else entirely (like a micro label)?

For me, it depends entirely on who I’m talking to.

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Is this asexuality?

Am I asexual, even if I don't want to be? Am I asexual if I feel like its because someone else took my sexuality away from me? Is it asexuality if I physically CAN'T have sex, even if I want to with some people?

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18Fwhere do yall meet new people?

Where do yall go to meet new people? Cause I don't like going drinking or go to parties

But not only irl, but also on here, cuz I'm 18 now and I can't be in the teen reddits anymore

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Can trauma cause asexuality?

Disclaimer: This isn't meant to offend anyone or to diminish someone's identity as if they're simply traumatized.

I sometimes wonder if I wasn't sexually abused by my mother then I would have less fears regarding sex. As an aegosexual I fantasize a lot and have quite the libido. But my only safe space to appreciate these desires are in my head. The idea of doing something with another person makes me extremely uncomfortable and ofcourse as someone who really looks into themselves often, I'm inclined to believe this is rooted in trauma.

But perhaps there is a difference between pure asexuality and just sex aversion.

Would love to hear your own stories/thoughts!

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How do you feel about sexual media?

I love playing games, and I mosrly play on my switch. Ive gotten into a game called Astral Chain and wanted more alternatives and find other games like it. People said to try bayonetta. Obviously, if you know Bayonetta, you'll know its very sexual. I dont care much about it cause the gameplay looks fun! So my question is. Do you care about media thats to sexual? Or do you dismiss it? Or actively avoid it?

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YOOO, CUPCAKKE IS ASEXUAL ( confirmed by HER )

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YOOO, CUPCAKKE IS ASEXUAL ( confirmed by HER )

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I'm so deeply confused (Was I groomed???)

TW for potential emotional manipulation/abuse.

I'll try to keep it short. Back when I didn't know I was aro I would try to date and make overwhelmingly negative experiences, either people would fall for me, pressure me into relationships, and react with abuse when I'd reject them, or they would keep me around for casual affection/sex only to cut me out of their lives after a few months. I also had a toxic relationship at some point.

This has caused my perception of intimacy to become distorted, I guess. Romance to me is now nothing but an excuse to emotionally manipulate and abuse people while it's possible to want to be affectionate (wanting to kiss, cuddle, etc.) while being "just friends". Basically, kissing and cuddling is now something platonic to me unless stated otherwise (in which case I don't want it). It has gone so far that now I could see two people kiss and I don't immediately assume they're a couple - because I've never been kissed in a romantic context; every single time I've been kissed the other person would make it clear we were "just friends". Why would I think of it as romantic when it's clearly not in my experience?

But now I'm starting to realize more and more how not just sex, but even physical affection is something most people perceive as strictly romantic. I'm so, so confused by this. It doesn't make sense to me. All my life I've essentially been taught kissing, cuddling, etc. were platonic things. Things you can do with people you're "just friends" with.

I've told a few people about this and they say I had been groomed. Have I? Is it really just romantic?

I don't know what to believe anymore.

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YOOO, CUPCAKKE IS ASEXUAL ( confirmed by HER )

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