I’ve finally made my first garlic bread!

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And you're a great support group, can't even start on how much you have helped me
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Being asexual but not aromantic sucks sometimes

I still get crushes so I have feelings to refferance back to on what I could be missing out on. Every time I have liked anyone it was unrequited and just stung me. I've never been in a relationship but I wish I didn't long for emotional and physical intimacy like cuddling. I see romantic things everywhere and instead of just not caring I feel jelous for a time I could have had my feelings requited but didn't because of not being desirable. If I was aromantic I wouldn't care about romance. I try to just decenter romance as the most I can do but it is everywhere when I go out and see couples or when I can't hang out with a friend without being a third wheel to their partner.

The worst part is I am jelous of what I missed out on but if there was never the romantic attraction there in the first place it wouldn't be just something I missed out on from being romantically undesirable because I just wouldn't care about it in the first place. It sucks that I'm shackled to this primal urge within me for love that I can't even attain in the first place. Its such a waste of feelings to always catch them for the wrong person. I can't escape my biological need for companionship romantically but why should I feel that I need it when I can't even have it? Why should I feel a need for it if I don't even have the courage to attain it or talk to anyone? The logical solution would be to be born aromantic but I can't make myself become that or get rid of my desire.

Romance is a part of almost everything and since I feel romantic attraction that is what makes it sting all the worse because it is a desire in the first place. I think of all the times when I had crushes that were unrequited and get jelous of people who got what I wanted. Desire really is the root of all suffering.

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UK's online safety act and what it means for this subreddit

Hello everyone.

As you might have heard the UK's Online Safety Act has come into force this week. One of the consequences is that websites are now required to verify the age of anyone in the UK accessing "adult content". In the case of Reddit they have decided that this means all subreddits and posts with the "NSFW" label, which will unfortunately catch a lot of queer support groups / content. We believe is inappropriate in general, and particularly in our case where what's marked as "NFSW" is tame textual content.

The mod team are considering changing our post labelling policy so that no posts are marked "NSFW". Instead we can create a new flair for this purpose. This does unfortunately mean that we lose some features – with the official NSFW label users that don't want to see such content can set it to hidden in their settings. However, having a new flair hopefully strikes the right balance.

Let us know what you think of this proposal and the situation in general.

Thanks – your mod team.

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Ace mem
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Learned this sub was a thing (which I’m very glad for), have some garlic bread I made the other day (week? Idk anymore)!

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witch asexual are u?

are u a garlic bread asexual or cheesy bread asexual?? owo

for me, i am a cheesy bread asexual. uwu

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would i make more sense to date another asexual?

18f, i feel like no men will really want to be in a relationship with me because im ace. especially being aego can be really confusing to them. most dudes either think it's not real, or it's just not their thing (which is fine). so would it make sense to just date another ace man? i feel like this has probably already been talked about so sorry😭

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"sneaking around"
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Adult sites no longer accessible in the UK

UK internet users may (or may not) have noticed that a lot of sites hosting adult content are no longer accessible from today. Proof of age is now required, which could mean uploading documents or using facial recognition.

Although there are some good intentions behind this, it isn't proving popular with many people. And I'm guessing if it works here, it will be rolled out elsewhere.

I'm curious to know how aces feel about it? Will you / would you go down the proof of age route? Will you miss those sites or will you barely notice? And do you feel this is potentially about more than supposedly keeping kids safer?

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Genuinely why do ppl care what we do in private?

Listen, I understand asexuality can be a complex sexuality due to the large spectrum surrounding it, so there's bound to be questions out of pure curiosity. I get that.

But then almost half of the questions I see here are stuff like "do asexuals enjoy sex???" "do asexuals masturbate???" "do asexuals enjoy hot sloppy style footjob dommy mommy mlm french kissing??" and shit like that. Literally, why do y'all wanna know so badly? Do u see us, ace folk, asking u, an allo, what u do in bed 24/7? No we do not bcuz we're not licensed sex therapists therefore it's none of our fucking business. Plz be respectful and do the same, what we do with our sex lives does not concern u, nor does it affect u in any way.

There's an entire FAQ here just for that reason which answers every question in detail, no need to be so invasive with ur questions.

Also srry if I came off very aggressive with this post, I rlly needed to voice my frustrations abt the fact that some ppl rlly need to just stfu over certain personal topics

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