Favorite historical Ace
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For those who don't want a partner, why not? And what type of connection are you okay with having instead?

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What's with the arophobia?!?!

Comments calling people who have trouble distinguishing friendships and romantic relationships "dumb" get upvotes while those calling out the arophobia get downvoted???

This is something many aro folks struggle with, me included. No matter how hard I try, I can't help but view romantic relationships as just friendships with a lot more expectations. That's the only difference to me. People can cuddle with friends, kiss them, even have sex with them without it being romantic.

This is part of my identity, but apparently it makes me dumb?

Ffs, have some solidarity with aromantics...

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Question for sex-favorable aces - libido and being sex-favorable

Sex-favorable ace here. I have written about my own experiences in previous posts so I'll save some time here.

We often here the phrase from people that they "need to get some", "need to get laid", "it's been a while since I got some", etc.

As a sex-favorable ace, I have sometimes felt something like this (maybe)....BUT It is due the libido aspect (some people say it is like an itch), not being drawn to sex itself if that makes sense.

Regarding asexuality - for me there are no hot skin flushes. No ravenous huger feeling. No need to take a cold shower. No need to "fan" myself, etc. Sex is mechanical. Pleasurable mechanical, sure, but still mechanical. I mean, I can think of my grocery list while I am having sex.

So there are basically three options if it has been a long time since the itch has been, well, itched - it may result in a wet dream, or can be addressed via masturbation or sexual intercourse.

Would the fact that I prefer sex to the other two options (masturbation and wet dreams) negate asexuality? I am not saying I am "using" my partner as a method of relieving one's libido, but to be blunt, for me it feels much better, plus there is general intimacy and bonding between myself and my wife that occurs.

Can anyone relate?

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Ace Clown Design! Sebastian Cornflower!

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Time for your geometry lesson, class
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So I was starting to think I was Asexual and now I find out there are different types of Asexual people and now I am starting to get a migraine LITERALLY!!! Maybe I'm just too old to Figure out what I am🤷‍♀️



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I feel bad for the kid 😔😔

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Asexual but I want to experience an orgasm. Is my partner the problem?

Disclaimer: I love my partner. I do my best to be caring, supportive, and empathetic to the fact that they have complex trauma and autism, which is a newer diagnosis they are personally struggling with. This is just a necessary place to vent. I will probably come off as an asshole, but I am in therapy and I put a lot of effort into not being an asshole to my partner or most other people.

Is it possible to orgasm with someone who is emotionally exhausting? As I mentioned above, my partner has complex trauma and a LOT of shame which still controls most of their mental narrative. I knew about their trauma before we got engaged, but the autism diagnosis came a few months before our wedding so learning how to balance those support needs as a couple is still new to us. My partner cries a lot. They have to talk out almost every feeling they have. They react strongly to what is apparently my direct tone of voice which I can't control well enough. Also, my limited ability to be empathic (because I am a twentieth-century historian who is updated on current events) does not align well with their moderate to high support needs. All of these things are okay, and we work hard to be connected and supportive as a couple. But I struggle to see my partner as a capable provider, so it's hard for me to receive pleasure from them during sex. It's hard for us to maintain consistency because I generally don't want to have sex. It's not bad...I just don't want to spend the time and emotional energy for something that will leave me unsatisfied.

All things considered, we have a good sex life. But I am asexual and have never orgasmed. Not with them (my first and only sexual partner) and not by myself. I have tried seven types of toys, multiple settings, a wide variety of porn, and stimulation from an actual person. No amount of time or environmental changes can do it for me. I get close, I think, and then anything sexual in my brain and body just shuts off. Am I doomed to never experience the pleasure of sex or could the problem be my partner? Would I orgasm with another person who I wasn't living my daily life and therefore daily stresses with? Is the missing piece someone who I can trust to take over so my brain can finally shut off and follow through on its biological design for pleasure? I know that I'm asexual because sex doesn't interest me but a rush of happy brain chemicals and not having to carry the shame of not being able to orgasm would be amazing.

I couldn't cheat on my partner, because they couldn't emotionally handle it and I won't add hurt like that to their trauma list. But I can't help wondering if I'm missing something. I also don't want to feel jealousy when I make my partner orgasm multiple times, because they deserve that and I'm happy to provide. I just wish that someone could provide for me.

Other Disclaimer for the mods: I have no idea if I used the right tag. This is a rant for me but it's written like a request for relationship advice but also it's a personal story...happy to change it if need be. Thanks!

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Do you find the scent of people arousing?

I'd like to do a survey on how people identifying under asexual labels perceive and react to scent.

Do you feel like certain people's natural scent (not perfume or shampoo) is sexually arousing?

If you have dated, did you perceive your partners' scent as: no scent / neutral / non-sexually good / arousing?

If you identify as demi, did your perception of their scent change over time, as attraction grew?

Please also include your sexual orientation, gender, and whether you consider yourself sex-favorable, neutral, or repulsed.

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I made the first ever ace pop EP (I think)

https://open.spotify.com/album/6564B7EuzRYyYdpCXfAjjB?si=All_qQupRn6QjE-HyTSypw

This is insane!!! Europop vibes and very danceable about being ace.

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As you can imagine, the comment section didn’t cope well with it
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Im asexual :)

I literally just joined Reddit just for one episode of Big Mouth. Like, damn, it was so good. I think it really helped me understand asexuality better.

I mean, I kinda knew—or thought—I was ace, but I was never 100% sure, you know? Like sometimes I do like people, but I don’t want anything more. Just a good relationship, that’s it.

But man, that episode with the new guy who’s asexual? I felt so seen. It was amazing. I loved it. 😼🤙🏿

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my ace/demi outfit for a pride parade

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