Ace discomfort is not a call for obligatory purity
Man discussing things with fellows queers and the moment I mentioned I had issues at pride on occasion with the amount of really hyper up sexuality on display, I was taken immediately to task that I had used such scathing language as ‘off putting’ and ‘greased up dancers’.
Then the ever present ‘I’m ace but I’m fine with it’ of the group jumped in to point out that ‘it’s just so enlightened to recognize that sexuality is an inherent part of the community and purity culture is toxic and…’
Ffs I didn’t say stop the party I said sometimes I fucking struggle with being there and find it difficult and god damn did I not say ‘no everyone should be as pure as the driven snow’
And I wouldn’t be losing my shit if this wasn’t about the third time this year the same conversation has repeated in one form or another where somehow ace is okay as long as we don’t ever mention that we might be even slightly uncomfortable.
God, straight down my throat with the ‘sounds like you have a lot of baggage’ talk and Jesus I can’t imagine why if every single time I don’t shut up and take it I get treated like the morality police.
My fucking discomfort is not a fucking endorsement of purity culture do I need that on a tshirt or something? Ffffffff
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Man discussing things with fellows queers and the moment I mentioned I had issues at pride on occasion with the amount of really hyper up sexuality on display, I was taken immediately to task that I had used such scathing language as ‘off putting’ and ‘greased up dancers’.
Then the ever present ‘I’m ace but I’m fine with it’ of the group jumped in to point out that ‘it’s just so enlightened to recognize that sexuality is an inherent part of the community and purity culture is toxic and…’
Ffs I didn’t say stop the party I said sometimes I fucking struggle with being there and find it difficult and god damn did I not say ‘no everyone should be as pure as the driven snow’
And I wouldn’t be losing my shit if this wasn’t about the third time this year the same conversation has repeated in one form or another where somehow ace is okay as long as we don’t ever mention that we might be even slightly uncomfortable.
God, straight down my throat with the ‘sounds like you have a lot of baggage’ talk and Jesus I can’t imagine why if every single time I don’t shut up and take it I get treated like the morality police.
My fucking discomfort is not a fucking endorsement of purity culture do I need that on a tshirt or something? Ffffffff
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I wish I had no genitalia whatsoever
Sex repulsed ace here. I'm really over having genitals and the fact they get aroused. Any time I cuddle with my friends or even hug them, my body decides "sex time!" and I immediately get aroused. It frustrates me, it pisses me off, it makes me feel so disgusting.
The disgust is the worst part. I usually love my body, but when I get aroused, I feel this stomach churning disgust just bubbling up toward myself. It genuinely makes me want to isolate myself and scrub myself raw because it's so awful. I can't get over it at all. I do plan on talking to my therapist, but it's so hard dealing with this and I'm tired of feeling disgusted at myself almost every day.
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Sex repulsed ace here. I'm really over having genitals and the fact they get aroused. Any time I cuddle with my friends or even hug them, my body decides "sex time!" and I immediately get aroused. It frustrates me, it pisses me off, it makes me feel so disgusting.
The disgust is the worst part. I usually love my body, but when I get aroused, I feel this stomach churning disgust just bubbling up toward myself. It genuinely makes me want to isolate myself and scrub myself raw because it's so awful. I can't get over it at all. I do plan on talking to my therapist, but it's so hard dealing with this and I'm tired of feeling disgusted at myself almost every day.
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Public transport trains in finland. Has the takeover started?
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I'm not sure if this has been shared here but I felt like it belongs in this sub
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Before You All Learned of the Term Asexual and Came Out, Did Your Lives Seem LikeYou Were Wearing the Wrong Show Size and Trying to Make That Shoe Size Work?
Because that’s how life felt for me before coming out.
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Because that’s how life felt for me before coming out.
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Is there a difference between platonic relationships and romantic relationships without sex (including kissing)?
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happy early birthday to me! (they/she/he) any other aces that have the zodiac sign cancer? ♋️
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"what's the difference between a relationship and friendship then"
these are the words my ex (M) said to me (F) when i came out as asexual to him. sometimes i think about this particular sentence and laugh my ass off and also mad at myself for not standing up to that piece of shit.
i can understand him wanting sex in a relationship but there's no need to insult me and the entire asexual community LMFAO. as if it's my fault that in his eyes, having sex is what makes a relationship different than a friendship.
when he said those words i was like "are asexuals in relationships aren't a thing then?" 😭
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these are the words my ex (M) said to me (F) when i came out as asexual to him. sometimes i think about this particular sentence and laugh my ass off and also mad at myself for not standing up to that piece of shit.
i can understand him wanting sex in a relationship but there's no need to insult me and the entire asexual community LMFAO. as if it's my fault that in his eyes, having sex is what makes a relationship different than a friendship.
when he said those words i was like "are asexuals in relationships aren't a thing then?" 😭
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Friend gave me this book to read what are people’s thoughts on it
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