Anybody else struggle with wanting to viewed as attractive but also disgusted by the idea of being sexualized with no control.
But then again, I feel like if I had no control then I could finally relax.
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But then again, I feel like if I had no control then I could finally relax.
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would it be okay to ask my bf this?
i’m ace and my partner is not. it’s been suggested that we open the relationship for sexual encounters so that he as an allo can still get his needs met. however i was wondering if it would be acceptable for me to say that it would work both ways (i.e if he can sleep with others then so can i) i doubt i’d even want to do so but for some reason having it go both ways makes me feel more comfortable with it for some reason?
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i’m ace and my partner is not. it’s been suggested that we open the relationship for sexual encounters so that he as an allo can still get his needs met. however i was wondering if it would be acceptable for me to say that it would work both ways (i.e if he can sleep with others then so can i) i doubt i’d even want to do so but for some reason having it go both ways makes me feel more comfortable with it for some reason?
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Has a man ever wanted to ask you some questions and then proceeded to ask you 50 million sexual ones?
My male friend hasn't talked to me in what seems like 2 days then all of a sudden tonight he messages asking if he can ask me some questions. I said yes thinking nothing of it then he starts asking me all these sexual questions. Asking if I've played with myself, if I've cum, what I'm wearing, the size of my chest, Etc. He then starts asking questions like if we were married would you give me head if we were married would you do this if we were married would you do that. Also something I found a little creepy and a little weird was that when he asked if I ever touched myself and how old I was.
We have never talked about dating or even expressed to each other that we like each other in that way which I do not. So I don't know where all these questions are coming from and not only that he's polyamorous and told me the reason is because he can't find a lifelong partner. Which to me doesn't make any sense as the reason so if someone can make sense of that could you let me know.
But my question is why are men like this and why do they feel the need to ask us all these personal intimate questions when we're just friends. Now I can't speak for every asexual out there but why is it when men hear the word asexual they got to ask all these weird questions and intimate ones at that like I guess that they're curious but come on now.
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My male friend hasn't talked to me in what seems like 2 days then all of a sudden tonight he messages asking if he can ask me some questions. I said yes thinking nothing of it then he starts asking me all these sexual questions. Asking if I've played with myself, if I've cum, what I'm wearing, the size of my chest, Etc. He then starts asking questions like if we were married would you give me head if we were married would you do this if we were married would you do that. Also something I found a little creepy and a little weird was that when he asked if I ever touched myself and how old I was.
We have never talked about dating or even expressed to each other that we like each other in that way which I do not. So I don't know where all these questions are coming from and not only that he's polyamorous and told me the reason is because he can't find a lifelong partner. Which to me doesn't make any sense as the reason so if someone can make sense of that could you let me know.
But my question is why are men like this and why do they feel the need to ask us all these personal intimate questions when we're just friends. Now I can't speak for every asexual out there but why is it when men hear the word asexual they got to ask all these weird questions and intimate ones at that like I guess that they're curious but come on now.
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I’m now officially in a gay asexual relationship and I’ve never felt so happy 🥹🥹
We’re both homoromantic male asexuals. We actually met on Tinder of all places 💀 After talking the entire summer and having a few dates along the way, I witnessed the northern lights for the first time ever. Witnessing them alone, I gradually realized that I truly felt that I loved this man and wanted him to be my boyfriend. I caught myself wishing he was there with me. When I saw a shooting star go through the lights, my first unconscious thought was a wish that he and I would be together soon. I then wished I had his warm body to cuddle up against as it got colder. When I stood up to leave, I felt a way emotionally that I had never felt before thats hard to describe; I basically felt content and secure, like I knew he was the one, and it was my time to make things official.
I planned another date with him as soon as I could. He lives a couple hours away, so it wasnt until a week later. Regardless, the feelings I felt that night never left. I took him out to to restaurant that meant a lot to me, got ice cream, showed him around my campus, and then took him to a really romantic spot in the forest on campus after the sun had just gone down, and asked him if he wanted to be my boyfriend. And well, as the title reads, he said yes yall :) (we both got very emotional)
He’s so very much my type, both personality and looks-wise, and it’s insane how much we have in common. I’d attach a picture of us, but I don’t fully feel comfortable doing so on here lol. Again, we’re both homoromantic male aces, so we feel very comfortable around each other and our expectations in a relationship. So yeah. Dubs for the gay male aces, we exist, and relationships like ours are possible!!!! I’m just so glad to call him my boyfriend :))))
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We’re both homoromantic male asexuals. We actually met on Tinder of all places 💀 After talking the entire summer and having a few dates along the way, I witnessed the northern lights for the first time ever. Witnessing them alone, I gradually realized that I truly felt that I loved this man and wanted him to be my boyfriend. I caught myself wishing he was there with me. When I saw a shooting star go through the lights, my first unconscious thought was a wish that he and I would be together soon. I then wished I had his warm body to cuddle up against as it got colder. When I stood up to leave, I felt a way emotionally that I had never felt before thats hard to describe; I basically felt content and secure, like I knew he was the one, and it was my time to make things official.
I planned another date with him as soon as I could. He lives a couple hours away, so it wasnt until a week later. Regardless, the feelings I felt that night never left. I took him out to to restaurant that meant a lot to me, got ice cream, showed him around my campus, and then took him to a really romantic spot in the forest on campus after the sun had just gone down, and asked him if he wanted to be my boyfriend. And well, as the title reads, he said yes yall :) (we both got very emotional)
He’s so very much my type, both personality and looks-wise, and it’s insane how much we have in common. I’d attach a picture of us, but I don’t fully feel comfortable doing so on here lol. Again, we’re both homoromantic male aces, so we feel very comfortable around each other and our expectations in a relationship. So yeah. Dubs for the gay male aces, we exist, and relationships like ours are possible!!!! I’m just so glad to call him my boyfriend :))))
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I'm actually glad I'm asexual.
Imagine having sex 🤢 couldn't be me.
And I'm so happy my girlfriend accepts me for it.
Sorry, just a little happy moment.
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Imagine having sex 🤢 couldn't be me.
And I'm so happy my girlfriend accepts me for it.
Sorry, just a little happy moment.
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Can one become asexual overtime?
Hi, recently at 19 (M) I had my first type of sexual experiences and I didn’t feel much from either. I had these with a hookup. I started looking back to when I was younger and I remember I used to get sexually attracted to people but that feeling slowly died overtime. I remember it was around freshmen year of high school it truly started to go away. It was also around that time I stopped really getting horny. Is it possible for one to turn asexual overtime? I just no longer feel any sexual urge or even an urge to date or try to meet women. The whole act of sex kinda disgusted me and didn’t feel like anything. Sorry for this ramble… I can try to explain more in the comments. Thanks
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Hi, recently at 19 (M) I had my first type of sexual experiences and I didn’t feel much from either. I had these with a hookup. I started looking back to when I was younger and I remember I used to get sexually attracted to people but that feeling slowly died overtime. I remember it was around freshmen year of high school it truly started to go away. It was also around that time I stopped really getting horny. Is it possible for one to turn asexual overtime? I just no longer feel any sexual urge or even an urge to date or try to meet women. The whole act of sex kinda disgusted me and didn’t feel like anything. Sorry for this ramble… I can try to explain more in the comments. Thanks
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Looking for friends.
Hi. I don't know if it's a correct place for this or not, but i really need friends.I hope all of you guys are having a great day. Thank for all of your time to stop and read my post So I am looking for some new real friendship. I hardly have anyone in real life to call friends. I don't care who you are , what your religion or race it. I just want to genuine and honest friends. I had some online friends but they ghosted me after some time. So pls I am not HERE for TIMEPASS , ONLY MSG ME IF YOU WANT REAL FRIENDSHIP OR YOU ARE WILLING TO PUT SOME EFFORT IN FRIENSDHIP. AND DONT GHOST ME AFTER YOU START DATING OR GET IN A RELATIONSHIP. Some of my closer friends did this and it hurts. That i was only a timepass for them. A little about me:
19 M(about to be 20 soon, I am both excited and nervous). I am kind of shy and introverted in nature but I can adjust myself most of the time around other people. I am also aromatic and as*xual. I am currently a student and also learning stenography for my job. My likes are:
1. History: I just love history, it's great to know about our past and our ancestry. There are really many interesting rulers and emperors and topics that are very interesting to know about.
2. Anime: I am not a hard-core weeb but I definitely love watching anime. You guys can recommend me new anime. My favourite anime are Parasite and Death Parade. I also loved Death note and Attack on Titan. We can even watch an Anime together if you want to.
3. Meeting new people: Yeah you heard it right, I might be a little introverted but I love meeting new people online and even sometime in real life.
4. UNO: Yes I love playing UNO. That games is a stress relief for me. I love playing it especially with friends. We can also play together online if you want to.
5. Music: I love listening to music. I don't love any specific genre, I only listen to that music that sounds comforting and good to my ears. So my entire playlist is mix of diff genre.[xd]. Some of my favorite are Let me down slowly, Hero, Mosnter, it's over when it's over, Arcade, Erase,centuries, Legends never die, etc. Feel free to recommend me your favourites.
6 Workout: I like doing workout. I do it every I alternative day. Not that hard-core just situps, pushups, jogging, squats etc.
7 Learning new language: Currently learning Russian.
8 Chess: I am not a good player in chess, but yeah I do love palying it. If you guys have strategies in chess, feel free to share them.
9 Drawing: not that good in it. I just draw some anime characters from diff anime. I am still trying to improve my art bt practising every day.
10 Reading: I love reading.
As for my dislikes there are not many things I hate but still they are:
1 Bullies: I fucking despise them. There is no reason to bully others other than just mental satisfaction. Always say no to bullying and if you say someone bullying anyone pls stand up for them.
2.Fake friends: No explanation needed.
So it's all about myself and don't forget to give a small introduction about yourself too. Don't just say hi or hello. Thanks for reading it tell the last. I really appreciate it. I am sorry if I wasted your time. Take care. Bye. [Pls be atleast 18+]
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Hi. I don't know if it's a correct place for this or not, but i really need friends.I hope all of you guys are having a great day. Thank for all of your time to stop and read my post So I am looking for some new real friendship. I hardly have anyone in real life to call friends. I don't care who you are , what your religion or race it. I just want to genuine and honest friends. I had some online friends but they ghosted me after some time. So pls I am not HERE for TIMEPASS , ONLY MSG ME IF YOU WANT REAL FRIENDSHIP OR YOU ARE WILLING TO PUT SOME EFFORT IN FRIENSDHIP. AND DONT GHOST ME AFTER YOU START DATING OR GET IN A RELATIONSHIP. Some of my closer friends did this and it hurts. That i was only a timepass for them. A little about me:
19 M(about to be 20 soon, I am both excited and nervous). I am kind of shy and introverted in nature but I can adjust myself most of the time around other people. I am also aromatic and as*xual. I am currently a student and also learning stenography for my job. My likes are:
1. History: I just love history, it's great to know about our past and our ancestry. There are really many interesting rulers and emperors and topics that are very interesting to know about.
2. Anime: I am not a hard-core weeb but I definitely love watching anime. You guys can recommend me new anime. My favourite anime are Parasite and Death Parade. I also loved Death note and Attack on Titan. We can even watch an Anime together if you want to.
3. Meeting new people: Yeah you heard it right, I might be a little introverted but I love meeting new people online and even sometime in real life.
4. UNO: Yes I love playing UNO. That games is a stress relief for me. I love playing it especially with friends. We can also play together online if you want to.
5. Music: I love listening to music. I don't love any specific genre, I only listen to that music that sounds comforting and good to my ears. So my entire playlist is mix of diff genre.[xd]. Some of my favorite are Let me down slowly, Hero, Mosnter, it's over when it's over, Arcade, Erase,centuries, Legends never die, etc. Feel free to recommend me your favourites.
6 Workout: I like doing workout. I do it every I alternative day. Not that hard-core just situps, pushups, jogging, squats etc.
7 Learning new language: Currently learning Russian.
8 Chess: I am not a good player in chess, but yeah I do love palying it. If you guys have strategies in chess, feel free to share them.
9 Drawing: not that good in it. I just draw some anime characters from diff anime. I am still trying to improve my art bt practising every day.
10 Reading: I love reading.
As for my dislikes there are not many things I hate but still they are:
1 Bullies: I fucking despise them. There is no reason to bully others other than just mental satisfaction. Always say no to bullying and if you say someone bullying anyone pls stand up for them.
2.Fake friends: No explanation needed.
So it's all about myself and don't forget to give a small introduction about yourself too. Don't just say hi or hello. Thanks for reading it tell the last. I really appreciate it. I am sorry if I wasted your time. Take care. Bye. [Pls be atleast 18+]
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Writing an (Aro)Ace Character
Hello there you lovely people <3
I am not ace (I think, possibly Demi or something but that’s really not relevant rn, sorry), and I would like to write an asexual character.
That he’s ace is just - idk just a fact when I think of him - its clear to me that he is but I’m not quite sure yet if I want him to be aro as well.
I do plan on him entering a queer platonic relationship with a girl that is ace but not aro.
Is that unrealistic? When he’s (most likely) going to be aroace for him to enter a relationship with someone who’s just ace?
Do I make him just ace and not aro to be sure I don’t confuse the readers (and myself frankly), with actions that could be perceived as romantic (if you ask me everything is perceived as romantic nowadays but whatever), even though he isn’t into romance?
Would probably be easier if they’re both ace but not aro, as to not have people invalidating his ‘aroness’ because he’s doing stuff that could be romantic.
Connected to that: what should I avoid? What should I think of/keep in mind? What would you like to see in a book with an ace main character?
Thanks very much in advance and have a wonderful day ^^
(Sorry for the rambling 😬 and I hope the flair’s alright, I thought that one fit the best)
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Hello there you lovely people <3
I am not ace (I think, possibly Demi or something but that’s really not relevant rn, sorry), and I would like to write an asexual character.
That he’s ace is just - idk just a fact when I think of him - its clear to me that he is but I’m not quite sure yet if I want him to be aro as well.
I do plan on him entering a queer platonic relationship with a girl that is ace but not aro.
Is that unrealistic? When he’s (most likely) going to be aroace for him to enter a relationship with someone who’s just ace?
Do I make him just ace and not aro to be sure I don’t confuse the readers (and myself frankly), with actions that could be perceived as romantic (if you ask me everything is perceived as romantic nowadays but whatever), even though he isn’t into romance?
Would probably be easier if they’re both ace but not aro, as to not have people invalidating his ‘aroness’ because he’s doing stuff that could be romantic.
Connected to that: what should I avoid? What should I think of/keep in mind? What would you like to see in a book with an ace main character?
Thanks very much in advance and have a wonderful day ^^
(Sorry for the rambling 😬 and I hope the flair’s alright, I thought that one fit the best)
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Are You Aro (Advice)?
**Hi everyone!**
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Welcome to our weekly Advice post about Aromanticism! Aromantic people experience little to no romantic attraction.
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**Do any of these resonate with you?**
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* You rarely (if ever) experience crushes on others.
* You find the idea of a romantic relationship unappealing, and prefer strong platonic bonds.
* You've been in romantic relationships but felt like you were going through the motions.
* You've researched what crushes are "supposed" to feel like, but can't relate.
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These are just a few signs you might be Aromantic. Aromanticism is a spectrum, and every person's experience is unique.
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**Have questions about aromanticism or your own identity?** Ask away in the comments below, and we'll and your fellow Aro’s will do the best to help!
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[**More signs that you are Aro:**\](https://aromanticguide.com/am-i-aro/)
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[**Honeymoon Phase:**\](https://health.clevelandclinic.org/what-is-the-honeymoon-phase)
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[**Types of attraction (might be incomplete):**\](https://types-of-attraction.carrd.co/
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**Hi everyone!**
​
Welcome to our weekly Advice post about Aromanticism! Aromantic people experience little to no romantic attraction.
​
**Do any of these resonate with you?**
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* You rarely (if ever) experience crushes on others.
* You find the idea of a romantic relationship unappealing, and prefer strong platonic bonds.
* You've been in romantic relationships but felt like you were going through the motions.
* You've researched what crushes are "supposed" to feel like, but can't relate.
​
These are just a few signs you might be Aromantic. Aromanticism is a spectrum, and every person's experience is unique.
​
**Have questions about aromanticism or your own identity?** Ask away in the comments below, and we'll and your fellow Aro’s will do the best to help!
​
[**More signs that you are Aro:**\](https://aromanticguide.com/am-i-aro/)
​
[**Honeymoon Phase:**\](https://health.clevelandclinic.org/what-is-the-honeymoon-phase)
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[**Types of attraction (might be incomplete):**\](https://types-of-attraction.carrd.co/
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How sexually active was everyone before birth control existed
Would you marry and then just expect.. 10 children or what? What if you'd just be celibate within the relationship because you only wanted two children?
Why has such frequent sexual contact become normal I wonder.
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Would you marry and then just expect.. 10 children or what? What if you'd just be celibate within the relationship because you only wanted two children?
Why has such frequent sexual contact become normal I wonder.
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