ace or bad experience
recently i’ve been pretty comfortable with the label of being ace. However i’m wondering if it’s possible it’s down to not great sexual experiences.
i’ve only ever had sex with one person a few times. it was fine, i didn’t really feel any pleasure at any point other than making out. it was something i more so did for him. before these experiences i didn’t have a negative/avoidant attitude towards sex whereas now i don’t like the idea of it it and it makes me want to avoid it happening. At the start i liked the idea/act of touching and kiss him but now not so much
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recently i’ve been pretty comfortable with the label of being ace. However i’m wondering if it’s possible it’s down to not great sexual experiences.
i’ve only ever had sex with one person a few times. it was fine, i didn’t really feel any pleasure at any point other than making out. it was something i more so did for him. before these experiences i didn’t have a negative/avoidant attitude towards sex whereas now i don’t like the idea of it it and it makes me want to avoid it happening. At the start i liked the idea/act of touching and kiss him but now not so much
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Unsure if I'll be welcome in the asexual community
(FTM 29) I realized early into reading Ace that I am not aceflux but asexual. I am sad leaving the bisexual community, but have decided to use biromantic instead of triromantic. I thought bisexuality fit me really well (along with aceflux) but upon reflection and hearing what sexual attraction looks like, I realized asexuality fits better. The one ace group I joined (college) kicked me out. I am worried because I have a sexually active background or other reasons I won't be accepted if I try to join another group.
Other concerns: my girlfriend said she "didn't get it" ig because I get horny. I tried to participate in causual sexual relationships but it didn't work well. I'm sad I don't get to "enjoy" that aspect of mlm culture. I only get aroused by images of monster girls (2d), and I think there is a sub identity that would fit that. But I don't want to have another identity I always have to explain.
Happy: my "likes blank better than sx" is robots! I am glad I figured this out before I got to go to a sx party, which I now think I wanted to do because I was jealous my gf had done it and I haven't. I think it would have ended very badly and with me being sex repulsed a long time. I am glad I don't have to worry about potentially becoming sexually attracted to someone I just met (I thought this happened to me once, but I think it was more a 'love at first sight' weird situation). Because it seems like more of a pain than anything. This is a lot easier to explain than being aceflux.
Thoughts on whether I should try to join a local ace community or just participate online are greatly appreciated.
Summary: both happy and sad I figured out ace and not aceflux. Worried won't be accepted in ace community and thoughts on this are welcome.
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(FTM 29) I realized early into reading Ace that I am not aceflux but asexual. I am sad leaving the bisexual community, but have decided to use biromantic instead of triromantic. I thought bisexuality fit me really well (along with aceflux) but upon reflection and hearing what sexual attraction looks like, I realized asexuality fits better. The one ace group I joined (college) kicked me out. I am worried because I have a sexually active background or other reasons I won't be accepted if I try to join another group.
Other concerns: my girlfriend said she "didn't get it" ig because I get horny. I tried to participate in causual sexual relationships but it didn't work well. I'm sad I don't get to "enjoy" that aspect of mlm culture. I only get aroused by images of monster girls (2d), and I think there is a sub identity that would fit that. But I don't want to have another identity I always have to explain.
Happy: my "likes blank better than sx" is robots! I am glad I figured this out before I got to go to a sx party, which I now think I wanted to do because I was jealous my gf had done it and I haven't. I think it would have ended very badly and with me being sex repulsed a long time. I am glad I don't have to worry about potentially becoming sexually attracted to someone I just met (I thought this happened to me once, but I think it was more a 'love at first sight' weird situation). Because it seems like more of a pain than anything. This is a lot easier to explain than being aceflux.
Thoughts on whether I should try to join a local ace community or just participate online are greatly appreciated.
Summary: both happy and sad I figured out ace and not aceflux. Worried won't be accepted in ace community and thoughts on this are welcome.
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Some things realized
I am a lesbian.
I don't care for sex and sexual, kids and pets. No thanks on that.
I do want kissing, cuddling; non sexual stuff and all else life.
Maybe one day I'll find find someone of the same; a woman of the same and they don't care what each part of me consists of as long as I'm doing as should when, where and how can because they understand not all is a choice; a your fault and you can't do everything.
But who am I kidding. I'll never find a woman the same as me who doesn't care what each part of me consists of as long as I'm doing as should when, where and how can because they understand not all is a choice; a your fault and you can't do everything.
Have any of you been similar ?
...and to those of you similar... Why do think kissing is so wonderful ?
Edit: It has also come to my attention elsewhere that I can’t even remember that apparently being Ace in any way is going against transgender folk and that you should be having sex every day worn your partner or it isn’t a real relationship if you are in one; which I think is complete bull pucky. How are you transphobic for being sexless; but willing to kiss, cuddle, non sexual stuff and all else life?
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I am a lesbian.
I don't care for sex and sexual, kids and pets. No thanks on that.
I do want kissing, cuddling; non sexual stuff and all else life.
Maybe one day I'll find find someone of the same; a woman of the same and they don't care what each part of me consists of as long as I'm doing as should when, where and how can because they understand not all is a choice; a your fault and you can't do everything.
But who am I kidding. I'll never find a woman the same as me who doesn't care what each part of me consists of as long as I'm doing as should when, where and how can because they understand not all is a choice; a your fault and you can't do everything.
Have any of you been similar ?
...and to those of you similar... Why do think kissing is so wonderful ?
Edit: It has also come to my attention elsewhere that I can’t even remember that apparently being Ace in any way is going against transgender folk and that you should be having sex every day worn your partner or it isn’t a real relationship if you are in one; which I think is complete bull pucky. How are you transphobic for being sexless; but willing to kiss, cuddle, non sexual stuff and all else life?
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Literally a decade going “am I ace? Am I demi? am I even in the spectrum at all?”
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How tf am I supposed to answer this question on Spanish hw without making everyone uncomfortable in the process. Yes it doesn't seem bad at first but keep in mind this is in a room full of 15-16 year olds with dirty fucking minds
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It’s so frustrating. We as a society could agree that homophobia is bad. But aphobia is still the norm. Why?
It’s so frustrating to still have to deal with it on a daily basis. On another app I was downvoted to hell for reporting a guy that said to an asexual girl that her „perceived“ asexuality is just a blockade stemming from her childhood trauma. I reported it as discrimination which of course wasn’t blocked and while complaining about it one guy called me snowflake and that it was just an opinion and I should get over it while being downvoted to hell. Not a single person stepped up, everyone was against me and this girl was also alone. The worst thing, the guy that called me snowflake and downplayed it as opinion said that he’s gay. We don’t even have the back of other non allos. It’s so sickening and frustrating that everyone can just freely be aphobic and no one will held them accountable.
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It’s so frustrating to still have to deal with it on a daily basis. On another app I was downvoted to hell for reporting a guy that said to an asexual girl that her „perceived“ asexuality is just a blockade stemming from her childhood trauma. I reported it as discrimination which of course wasn’t blocked and while complaining about it one guy called me snowflake and that it was just an opinion and I should get over it while being downvoted to hell. Not a single person stepped up, everyone was against me and this girl was also alone. The worst thing, the guy that called me snowflake and downplayed it as opinion said that he’s gay. We don’t even have the back of other non allos. It’s so sickening and frustrating that everyone can just freely be aphobic and no one will held them accountable.
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Prescription: Sex
Hey guys
I'm in the process of getting tested for endometriosis, and the best scan is a deep infiltrating one. I called up to make an appointment and they said they don't do it for people who are still virgins. I vary between sex repulsed and indifferent. I don't know what to do because I don't want to have sex, and I don't have a partner anyway, but my periods are really bad. There's only the one chain of places that do the scan I need, and they won't do it.
Any ideas?
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Hey guys
I'm in the process of getting tested for endometriosis, and the best scan is a deep infiltrating one. I called up to make an appointment and they said they don't do it for people who are still virgins. I vary between sex repulsed and indifferent. I don't know what to do because I don't want to have sex, and I don't have a partner anyway, but my periods are really bad. There's only the one chain of places that do the scan I need, and they won't do it.
Any ideas?
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Do you ever get paranoid you’re not really ace and you’re lying to yourself?
I have mental illness and get paranoia about a lot of things. I get paranoid that I want to m*ruder people for fun even though I don’t. Intrusive thoughts that I try to block out. I get paranoid that I don’t really love my mom even tho she’s my everything. One of the paranoias is that I’m not being my genuine self. That I’m faking so much and lying to everyone. Even tho im not. Have any of you experienced this?
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I have mental illness and get paranoia about a lot of things. I get paranoid that I want to m*ruder people for fun even though I don’t. Intrusive thoughts that I try to block out. I get paranoid that I don’t really love my mom even tho she’s my everything. One of the paranoias is that I’m not being my genuine self. That I’m faking so much and lying to everyone. Even tho im not. Have any of you experienced this?
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