Fellow aces, forget about aphobia or whether you’re valid for a minute. Do you wear your cloak over both shoulders, just one, or not covering either shoulder?
I’ve tried all three and I can’t settle on one way to wear a cloak. Is it a situational, pragmatic kind of decision, or just a fashion choice? Am I making some kind of statement if I wear it a certain way? This is bugging me and I need to know.
The Ace Council probably has some answers, if nobody else does
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I’ve tried all three and I can’t settle on one way to wear a cloak. Is it a situational, pragmatic kind of decision, or just a fashion choice? Am I making some kind of statement if I wear it a certain way? This is bugging me and I need to know.
The Ace Council probably has some answers, if nobody else does
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GUYS IM GOING INSAINE WHAT EVEN IS ROMANCE?????
Like i hear people describe it as like “caring about someone a-lot and wanting to be with them all the time and giving them gifts and complements and hugging n stuff” BUT I FEEL ALL THOSE ABOUT FRIENDS?????? The only substantial difference I understand is sex but what about asexual alloromantics??? Clearly they can still feel romantic attraction without sex so WHAT IS THE DIFFERENCE????
(Sorry for being so angry lul ive just been confused about this for months and i still can’t figure it out)
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Like i hear people describe it as like “caring about someone a-lot and wanting to be with them all the time and giving them gifts and complements and hugging n stuff” BUT I FEEL ALL THOSE ABOUT FRIENDS?????? The only substantial difference I understand is sex but what about asexual alloromantics??? Clearly they can still feel romantic attraction without sex so WHAT IS THE DIFFERENCE????
(Sorry for being so angry lul ive just been confused about this for months and i still can’t figure it out)
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Can a QPR count as “gay,” even if it’s not romantic or sexual?
I’m pretty sure I’m grayromantic and gray ace (or maybe aceflux?), and I’m still learning about how all of this stuff works. I’ve never had a QPR before, but I would be open to one. I’m just wondering if two people of the same gender (or similar genders?) in a QPR would count as gay, even if they’re aro and ace?
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I’m pretty sure I’m grayromantic and gray ace (or maybe aceflux?), and I’m still learning about how all of this stuff works. I’ve never had a QPR before, but I would be open to one. I’m just wondering if two people of the same gender (or similar genders?) in a QPR would count as gay, even if they’re aro and ace?
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Petition to make Gwenpool a larger icon within the aro and ace communities! She is getting her own comic about her coming out and I hardly see her here
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Allo people joining ace spaces because they gave up on relationships
I’ve been in a few ace discussion groups where there’s one person who admits they’re not ace but is choosing not to date anymore. Has anyone else experienced this? It’s so annoying lol
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I’ve been in a few ace discussion groups where there’s one person who admits they’re not ace but is choosing not to date anymore. Has anyone else experienced this? It’s so annoying lol
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I think I am just going to date Ace people.
I'm having the same issue with my partner which is why the topic and title. I'm just not going to post the partner one since I know they reddit.
This weekend I had, a few years younger, friend bring up that I was more sex positive years ago and laugh. The only reason they know is because I was explaining Asexuality to a support group for LGBTQ we're both in. Majority of the group is fine or understanding.
I'm still having regrets. This friend, and my partner seem to bring it up accordingly if I do bring up that I'm Ace. Or just occasionally if it's relevant to the topic. So if I'm explaining it to a new person in the group or I am just communicating it.
So I explain that I'm Ace. They make a comment about me being sex positive in the 'but not really' Ace tone. Like their correcting me.
Maybe it's insecurity.. but I have had to deal with relationships going bad because they don't understand that I'm ace and I mean it. So occasionally I will bring up that I am Ace/Aro in a confirmation conversation. Just to remind them.
Still happens. So you just get so mad and tried of allo's some times.
I don't feel any sexual attraction or physical attraction and that makes me Asexual. The rest is just soup. That's the meat of it and the rest is just soup.
(Or in Ace terms, that's just the bread to my garlic. Garlic to my bread?)
I have been pretty historically sex positive but more of I 'thought it was interesting'.
As I have matured that's Just no longer the case. It's just eh and I have better things to do. I would be more in the sex-neutral to sex-repulsed category now.
"I don't feel any sexual attraction or physical attraction and that makes me Asexual." Is still true regardless. It's true and VALID.
It's like...
I've never found a hamburger to be appetizing. I would enjoy it is an option when I was younger because hey food. Now I just don't. I tried things and explored when I was younger, sure.
I still don't fine them appetizing, that hasn't changed. It's never going to.
Does that make me choosing not to eat hamburger even if it's presented to me now any less valid?
No no it doesn't. But hey I'm preaching to the choir. Still it needs to be said.
I have never found hamburgers appetizing and now I don't eat them either, why is it such a hard thing for others to get?
I've tried to explain what Asexual is actually occasionally to those two but it just goes back to this.
Whenever I hear this type of comments I just sometimes wish to never date the Allo's anymore just because it always happens. Or even explain Asexuality to people.
It's exhausting and being invalidated hurts. Their both Trans/bi for context so they should understand on some level.
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I'm having the same issue with my partner which is why the topic and title. I'm just not going to post the partner one since I know they reddit.
This weekend I had, a few years younger, friend bring up that I was more sex positive years ago and laugh. The only reason they know is because I was explaining Asexuality to a support group for LGBTQ we're both in. Majority of the group is fine or understanding.
I'm still having regrets. This friend, and my partner seem to bring it up accordingly if I do bring up that I'm Ace. Or just occasionally if it's relevant to the topic. So if I'm explaining it to a new person in the group or I am just communicating it.
So I explain that I'm Ace. They make a comment about me being sex positive in the 'but not really' Ace tone. Like their correcting me.
Maybe it's insecurity.. but I have had to deal with relationships going bad because they don't understand that I'm ace and I mean it. So occasionally I will bring up that I am Ace/Aro in a confirmation conversation. Just to remind them.
Still happens. So you just get so mad and tried of allo's some times.
I don't feel any sexual attraction or physical attraction and that makes me Asexual. The rest is just soup. That's the meat of it and the rest is just soup.
(Or in Ace terms, that's just the bread to my garlic. Garlic to my bread?)
I have been pretty historically sex positive but more of I 'thought it was interesting'.
As I have matured that's Just no longer the case. It's just eh and I have better things to do. I would be more in the sex-neutral to sex-repulsed category now.
"I don't feel any sexual attraction or physical attraction and that makes me Asexual." Is still true regardless. It's true and VALID.
It's like...
I've never found a hamburger to be appetizing. I would enjoy it is an option when I was younger because hey food. Now I just don't. I tried things and explored when I was younger, sure.
I still don't fine them appetizing, that hasn't changed. It's never going to.
Does that make me choosing not to eat hamburger even if it's presented to me now any less valid?
No no it doesn't. But hey I'm preaching to the choir. Still it needs to be said.
I have never found hamburgers appetizing and now I don't eat them either, why is it such a hard thing for others to get?
I've tried to explain what Asexual is actually occasionally to those two but it just goes back to this.
Whenever I hear this type of comments I just sometimes wish to never date the Allo's anymore just because it always happens. Or even explain Asexuality to people.
It's exhausting and being invalidated hurts. Their both Trans/bi for context so they should understand on some level.
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Just curious, but how do you feel about s*x?
I’m so sorry if I didn’t tag this post accordingly—
I feel like it could just be somewhat due for growing up with my parents NEVER bringing up the subject all. It was always taboo and they still never acknowledged it or anything and I’m 19. Never rlly had “the talk” or anything so I had to figure out a lot on my own.
Sex and sexual attraction just seems so odd to me. I don’t understand it in the slightest bit.
Growing up I finally realized I was actually the odd one when I realized that people actually do feel sexually attracted to others. I just sort of thought sex was some big joke I wasn’t in on. I still think it’s a big joke and the whole idea of sex is so funny to me.
But realizing that it’s actually a BIG part of a relationship for some people took me aback—I couldn’t imagine thinking any less of your partner just because they decline to have sex. You love your partner so why would it be a necessity anyways, yk?
I never really connected the dots either when I thought how about how I was even born. I just like to think of me just spawning from nowhere.
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I’m so sorry if I didn’t tag this post accordingly—
I feel like it could just be somewhat due for growing up with my parents NEVER bringing up the subject all. It was always taboo and they still never acknowledged it or anything and I’m 19. Never rlly had “the talk” or anything so I had to figure out a lot on my own.
Sex and sexual attraction just seems so odd to me. I don’t understand it in the slightest bit.
Growing up I finally realized I was actually the odd one when I realized that people actually do feel sexually attracted to others. I just sort of thought sex was some big joke I wasn’t in on. I still think it’s a big joke and the whole idea of sex is so funny to me.
But realizing that it’s actually a BIG part of a relationship for some people took me aback—I couldn’t imagine thinking any less of your partner just because they decline to have sex. You love your partner so why would it be a necessity anyways, yk?
I never really connected the dots either when I thought how about how I was even born. I just like to think of me just spawning from nowhere.
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Calling ppl “lonely virgins” as an insult is so annoying
You realize some people choose it voluntarily and have no interest right?? They make it seem like virgins are these pathetic humans. Just shows how society always assumes people want to have sex and not having it makes u some kind of weirdo.
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You realize some people choose it voluntarily and have no interest right?? They make it seem like virgins are these pathetic humans. Just shows how society always assumes people want to have sex and not having it makes u some kind of weirdo.
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