How can I succinctly and clearly tell a room full of high schoolers that being asexual is ok?
I’m going to be discussing sex and sexuality to a group of about 80-100 high schoolers, and one of the brief caveats I want to go over (before I get into the meat of the message) is that if a student is thinking that something is wrong with them because they’re not relationship/sex crazy “like everyone else is,” that they might be asexual and that is okay. Is there anything more I would need to say, besides that? It seems like enough to me, but I don’t identify as ace. If you knew you were asexual by the time you were a teen, what could someone have said to make you feel supported and loved?
For context: this is in a conventional Christian church setting. If you’d like to know more about what else I’m planning on saying during the message, feel free to ask.
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I’m going to be discussing sex and sexuality to a group of about 80-100 high schoolers, and one of the brief caveats I want to go over (before I get into the meat of the message) is that if a student is thinking that something is wrong with them because they’re not relationship/sex crazy “like everyone else is,” that they might be asexual and that is okay. Is there anything more I would need to say, besides that? It seems like enough to me, but I don’t identify as ace. If you knew you were asexual by the time you were a teen, what could someone have said to make you feel supported and loved?
For context: this is in a conventional Christian church setting. If you’d like to know more about what else I’m planning on saying during the message, feel free to ask.
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I dropped the most obvious "hint" about my asexuality
CW: Sex frequently mentioned
Yesterday, I was talking to my dad and somehow the topic of sex came up. He was kind of awkward when talking about it, which I get cause I'm his teenage daughter lol. So I decided to tested the waters and see if he would be accepting. The conversation is paraphrased:
Me: "I honestly don't get sex or wanting to have sex with someone, it seems gross."
Dad: "Well, you may just be a late bloomer, and that's fine."
Me: "I don't know dad, I'm Fifteen, I would think me developing sexual attraction would happen by now."
Dad: "Hmm... okay. That might effect your future relationships, not everyone will want to just hold hands forever. You might never get into a relationship."
Me: "That's fine, I don't mind. I'm not going to force myself to do anything that I'm uncomfortable with. Maybe one day I could find someone like me, but if not that's fine too."
Dad: "Yeah, don't force yourself out of your comfort zone, I just wanted to let you know that most people will develop sexual attraction."
Me: "And, what if I don't?"
Dad: "I won't complain, Id rather not think about my kid....y'know anyways. I am perfectly happy if you decide if you never wanted to get into sexual relationship, though If that changes I would totally get it. It would be unrealistic to expect you to never feel sexual attraction. But, if you don't then hey." *Then he just gave me a smile and shrug*
Can I count this as coming out lmao? It seems to have gone well. Anyways, thank you for reading.
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CW: Sex frequently mentioned
Yesterday, I was talking to my dad and somehow the topic of sex came up. He was kind of awkward when talking about it, which I get cause I'm his teenage daughter lol. So I decided to tested the waters and see if he would be accepting. The conversation is paraphrased:
Me: "I honestly don't get sex or wanting to have sex with someone, it seems gross."
Dad: "Well, you may just be a late bloomer, and that's fine."
Me: "I don't know dad, I'm Fifteen, I would think me developing sexual attraction would happen by now."
Dad: "Hmm... okay. That might effect your future relationships, not everyone will want to just hold hands forever. You might never get into a relationship."
Me: "That's fine, I don't mind. I'm not going to force myself to do anything that I'm uncomfortable with. Maybe one day I could find someone like me, but if not that's fine too."
Dad: "Yeah, don't force yourself out of your comfort zone, I just wanted to let you know that most people will develop sexual attraction."
Me: "And, what if I don't?"
Dad: "I won't complain, Id rather not think about my kid....y'know anyways. I am perfectly happy if you decide if you never wanted to get into sexual relationship, though If that changes I would totally get it. It would be unrealistic to expect you to never feel sexual attraction. But, if you don't then hey." *Then he just gave me a smile and shrug*
Can I count this as coming out lmao? It seems to have gone well. Anyways, thank you for reading.
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Why do none asexuals say this 😭
Little rant here- so I'm a virgin and I know I'm asexual. I hate the phrase 'well you never know till you try it' when telling people. I don't need to try it to know I don't want it. Nothing turns me on (literally I took anatomy in high school), the concept of sex (having other ppl's body or fluids enter yours) grosses me out, and I don't like ANYTHING touching me down there. It's not hard to figure out that you're asexual.
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Little rant here- so I'm a virgin and I know I'm asexual. I hate the phrase 'well you never know till you try it' when telling people. I don't need to try it to know I don't want it. Nothing turns me on (literally I took anatomy in high school), the concept of sex (having other ppl's body or fluids enter yours) grosses me out, and I don't like ANYTHING touching me down there. It's not hard to figure out that you're asexual.
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